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Is it common for gay men to have mostly lesbians for friends? Unless I know a guy is gay I have a hard time talking to him about stuff that is of interest to me and the ones who I know are gay I am afraid to get too close to because I am not ready to get serious. I have 3 realy good friends that I talk to and all three are lesbians.
 
Lesbians are great people. And they are safe too. They can be your friends without sex getting involved.

Whatever works for you seems fine to me. There are a lot of people out there who have trouble making friends at all.

You have a long life ahead of you and many more friends to make. I wouldn't worry about where you are at right now.
 
Not for me, I have some lesbian friends, but not many, if I was counting up friends they would come last as a group, behind straight and gay males and straight females.
 
I only have 4 lesbian friends, but only out of consequence. I don't think there's a particular trend. Gay men are friends with lesbians because we know what it's like to be sexual minorites.

Other than that, it's all about personality and chemistry, IMO.
 
My guess it that people will tend to socialize with people who they are attracted to and people who are most like themselves. Lesbians, especially if that, to you, is the most defining characteristic of a particular female, will probably not fit into either categories for a gay male.
 
I'd stick with men, gay and str8 alike.

So far, no lesbian friends. Dunno why? Never had a chance?

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think that gays are all over the spectrum. my friends are gay, lesbian, straight. haveta admit that at first i will be more responsive to another gay person or lesbiana - and that's just because of this common unspoken bond that is fundamental between us. but there ARE decent straights out there. i find really not much difference in that unspoken bond if it's with a lesbiana or a gay guy. we all have suffered the same discrimination and should be true brothers and sisters.
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Sometimes, I am more comfortable with lesbian friends, sometimes not.

There's no sexual energy there (that's for sure), so there's no unspoken undercurrent that can occur with some straight and gay guys. So, in that respect, it's just more upfront and occurs on the basis on commonalities, as opposed to other conscious or unconscious motives.

In my (admittedly limited) experience, though, most lesbians prefer the company of other lesbians, as opposed to straight women or men, or gay guys.
 
Sometimes, I am more comfortable with lesbian friends, sometimes not.

There's no sexual energy there (that's for sure), so there's no unspoken undercurrent that can occur with some straight and gay guys. So, in that respect, it's just more upfront and occurs on the basis on commonalities, as opposed to other conscious or unconscious motives.

In my (admittedly limited) experience, though, most lesbians prefer the company of other lesbians, as opposed to straight women or men, or gay guys.


I can talk to my lesbian firends about anything and there is absolutley no sexual tension, I guess I have just not learned to relate to other gay men and to tell the truth I don't know many where I live. If I knew the secret handshake it would be allot easier to meet other guys.
 
I find that lesbians *are* easy to talk to about being gay, but I sometimes want to talk about other stuff that only really my male friends are interested in.

So, I've got straight male friends for chatting to at uni, gay male friends for going out and dancing with, and I wanna meet a couple of lesbian girls just to chat with. I used to be really good friends with one, but I can't find her anymore :(
 
I personally don't know any gay women. I know a couple of bi women. Both of my roommates are bi. And they're both female. But they prefer men over women. Believe me, I agonize over the guys they bring home for their 'parties', lol.

I knew one lesbian a few years ago. Most of the gay people I know are men.

Now that I think about it, though, many of the women I know have said at one time or another that they'd do another female in a heartbeat.

I think girls are just like that sometimes.
 
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