Let's discuss my feelings on non-monogamy.

[eastofeden]

Thanks for your answer. You make a lot of sense, and you are right. I gave people too much credit simply for expressing their opinion... I should concern myself with the opinions of people who matter to me.

There are many doubts in my head that were planted there by people I can't even remember.
I doubt that I will ever be a capable parent because I'm gay, I doubt men's ability to be faitful, I doubt myself all the time...with no basis to theese doubts.

Maybe I should listen to the truth of the matters and not the philosophy surrounding them.

Maybe you should preface your next question by asking only people who agree with you and think exactly the way you do take the time to respond. If you do that...no need to worry about anyone "planting" anything in your head!

It would solve everything!

 

[Kulindahr]

Maybe I should listen to the truth of the matters and not the philosophy surrounding them.

In a way it's the "philosophy" that's important:

It's your life, thus your choices. Make them.

It's your life, no one else's. Ignore them.


That's philosophy, but it's also very sound "truth of the matter".

 

[lakeviewcouple8689]

I've had plenty of 3 sums... 2 of which were actually any good. My partner and I were talking about this 2 weeks ago because an old fling randomly messaged me out of the blue telling me how hot my partner and I are and he sooo wants a 3-sum. I told him thanks but no thanks but either way I wanted to talk to my partner about it. We both agreed that the fantasy of a 3 sum together with someone else is extremely hot but in reality it probably won't be all that hot and we both may freak out about it.

Now monogamy people have lots of opinions about it, I am fiercely monogamous and so is my partner-- that works for us. If having an open-relationship works for someone else, then that's their business, and fuck yeah! great I'm glad it does. Different strokes for different folks .