Lied to About Facebook

[mikeiscool]

Did he just make it private? Cuz i know u can make it where only ur friends can see it. Do u really know that he lied? I mean, if I were u I wouldn't jump to conclusions just yet. Plus it's only facebook. If u guys are still close besides that, I really don't think it's that big of a deal.

 

[KaraBulut]

Worry less about Facebook and lies. You should be more worried about why on earth you're financially supporting someone who has not worked in a year.

You're responsible only for your behavior and your mistakes. And your choice in "best friends".

 

[Laststraw21]

^^ I know, right.

 

[KingofFaeries]

First, if he's so close to you, then ignore facebook all together, unless you're uber bored. In which case dunno just invite him to your friends list or something.

Second, stop paying his bills if you're pissed off.

Third why are you paying his bills in the first place?

 

[backpacker]

The blocking could be an honest mistake. He could have meant to block somebody else, but blocked you by mistake. Has he unblocked you now? If he hasn't, then that's a red flag.

I normally don't go for the online drama crap, but his blocking seems like it's out of left field. It doesn't appear like you have any idea why he would have blocked you. If you guys don't communicate over Facebook on a regular basis, why would he bother to block you in the first place? I'm sure there could be many reasons, but other than an accidental blocking none of them are good.

My first thought runs to the financial support that you are giving him and if he is simply using you. Are you included when he hangs out with his other friends? If not, that's another red flag. Are you attracted to him? If so, he probably doesn't feel the same way about you, but tolerates you to get the money. The only way you are going to know if he is really your friend is to cut off the financial support and see how he treats you afterward. Don't tell him that you are cutting him off because of the Facebook block. Tell him that you didn't mind helping him out for a brief time, but you really can't afford to keep helping him. You are also enabling his unemployment, which isn't really good for him.

 

[Muscles4daze]

Hi, I'm a new user here and wanted some advice. My best friend has blocked me from his Facebook page. When I casually brought up the subject and pretended not to know what had happened exactly. He lied to my face and told me that it must be in his security settings, blocking everyone not on his friends page. I had never asked to be included in his page because I see or talk to him daily and didn't really care. He has been out of work for more than a year and I have paid his rent and kept his household expenses caught up. I am really upset that someone I care so much about would just lie to my face. What do you think? Should I confront him again or end the friendship or just try to forget it? Thanks.

There is probably something he doesn't want you to see on his facebook page. It's not about myspace or facebook drama, it's about having a friend come across as shady. I wouldn't say anything about it, I would just cut his ass off financially and watch his ass very closely, because something tells me he is not to be trusted.

 

[G-Lexington]

Yeah, not entirely sure why it matters. Pretend he doesn't have a facebook page, and proceed as normal.

Lex

 

[secondmonkey]

randyballs, I know exactly what you mean. It's not that facebook is important, it's the question of why he's lying/ignoring you. My best friend started shunning me at both myspace and facebook. I didn't and don't give half a shit about myspace or facebook, but the fact that he purposely ignored me, and refused to explain why, REALLY bothered me, and has pretty much been the end of our friendship. It's a long story to tell, but a simple lie just like that destroyed a 15 year friendship and took a little part of me with it.

Furthermore if your friend is lying to you, you should not be helping him with any bills. In my book lying to a good friend that treats you right is simply inexcuseable. Don't find yourself getting USED by this friend as I came to realize myself.

 

[darkdreamerx]

The question I see here is : "Why is he lying?"

Once you start lying its like slipping into a bottomless pit that is VERY difficult to get out of. Trust me, I know. Facebook IS completely superficial but he is intentionally trying to hide something from you. I'd pursue the matter with direct confrontation -- hiding in the shadows is complete bullshit. Don't be angry/mean though, just say: "Why are you lying about ___ and this is how I know you're lying __________. I'm not angry, I just want to know why."

The way you confront him will either scare him into another lie or make him confession, so be careful.

 

[darkdreamerx]

How hard can it be to haul up the page on another computer?

You can't see someones Facebook unless they have you added as a friend.

 

[amyleeisjesus]

You can't see someones Facebook unless they have you added as a friend.

Well, some people are exhibitionists and don't mind flaunting their pages for the world to see. Or at least certain aspects of them, anyway. It seems most people have their pages restricted, though.

 

[KaraBulut]

You're still avoiding the topic of why you're financially supporting someone who hasn't worked in a year...

 

[backpacker]

Update: I confronted my friend with the lie and he told me to go to hell. I guess the friendship is over.

I'm very sorry to hear that things turned out so bad. I guess it's better you know now what kind of "friend" he really was before you invested anymore time, money and emotions into the friendship. One lesson to take from all this, is that money tends to corrupt friendships. I would advise you not to be so helpful and generous in the future. Take care.

 

[KaraBulut]

Update: I confronted my friend with the lie and he told me to go to hell. I guess the friendship is over.

Time will tell.

At the very least, he's put his cards on the table and you now know exactly how much he values everything that you've been doing for him.

My friend is not that well educated and his personality doesn't make him want people to take chances on him.

As long as you are supporting him, he has no incentive to change his education level or his personality.

Time to cut the cord.

 

[Telstra]

he lied because he has online secrets like most people do.

 

[amyleeisjesus]

Update: I confronted my friend with the lie and he told me to go to hell. I guess the friendship is over.

I would've told him to go to the curb at that point. Well, long before that actually, but especially then. I think you have some sort of weird dependency on him that's making you put up with all his bullshit. He's a complete drag on you in every sense: financially, emotionally, mentally, whatever, clearly doesn't appreciate you, so why keep him around? Unless you've tethered yourself to him there's no reason to. From the sounds of it I'm surprised he even has anyone to talk to on the site. What a brat.

 

[jredbush]

Online friendships are less demanding than real ones.

 

[Revan46]

All one has to do is make it private like I have mine and no one except on their friends list can see it. I did it by accident, but nowadays with my parents having facebook and me not wanting them to find out im gay that way, i just have my profile on private (tho it makes it really annoying when asking people to add me.

 

[biguy732]

He has been out of work for more than a year and I have paid his rent and kept his household expenses caught up.

I am going to assume that you have also stopped writing checks to cover his expenses?

 

[KingofFaeries]

sorry he was such and ass when you confronted him.

Hope he's not taking more of your money.

People who have people to do things for them never learn how to do things for themselves. If you are still paying his bills stop. Perhaps it will make him realize that, crap I have to go get a job now.