Lied to about HIV Status

[b0dyfan924]

A few months back, I posted about having an encounter with a man who I suspected of being HIV positive despite him ensuring me that he tested negative twice since our encounter.

However, he has recently come clean and told me that he has in fact been positive for quite a number of years. I of course feel betrayed and angry. However, I am severely worried about others he may have lied to and infected. Is there any way to ensure that he stops this, by law maybe?

Now that I now know he is HIV positive, I want to ask about my risk for infection. We never had anal sex because when he tried to bareback me, I insisted he'd put on a condom before entering me. He lost his erection upon putting the condom on. So to this day, he has never been inside me. However we did have unprotected oral (I know the risk of transmission is virtually impossible).

What worries me about this is that he came on the tip of my penis and I'm pretty sure he wiped a bit of his semen near (or on top of) my urethra. He also came on my face later. I am not aware of any cuts on my penis or face, however there may have been some raw skin from masturbation and possible knicks from shaving my face.

Again, I've been told my risk for infection is very low by friends and also from him (he tells me he's on medication to control the infection). However, I'd just like some reinforcement, especially because I'm having a hard time trusting someone who was willing to put me at risk.

So what I'm asking is there a way by law to protect others from being lied to and also what is my personal risk from describing the situations above. Thank you for any advice you can give me, and thank you for having the patience to review my situation.

 

[kallipolis]

A few months back, I posted about having an encounter with a man who I suspected of being HIV positive despite him ensuring me that he tested negative twice since our encounter.

However, he has recently come clean and told me that he has in fact been positive for quite a number of years. I of course feel betrayed and angry. However, I am severely worried about others he may have lied to and infected. Is there any way to ensure that he stops this, by law maybe?

Now that I now know he is HIV positive, I want to ask about my risk for infection. We never had anal sex because when he tried to bareback me, I insisted he'd put on a condom before entering me. He lost his erection upon putting the condom on. So to this day, he has never been inside me. However we did have unprotected oral (I know the risk of transmission is virtually impossible).

What worries me about this is that he came on the tip of my penis and I'm pretty sure he wiped a bit of his semen near (or on top of) my urethra. He also came on my face later. I am not aware of any cuts on my penis or face, however there may have been some raw skin from masturbation and possible knicks from shaving my face.

Again, I've been told my risk for infection is very low by friends and also from him (he tells me he's on medication to control the infection). However, I'd just like some reinforcement, especially because I'm having a hard time trusting someone who was willing to put me at risk.

So what I'm asking is there a way by law to protect others from being lied to and also what is my personal risk from describing the situations above. Thank you for any advice you can give me, and thank you for having the patience to review my situation.

You have a greater risk to your well being, and good health by worrying unnecessarily. Stress, kills.The facts as presented by you indicate that the risk factor is virtually zero.

Be sure to look both ways, before you cross the road. There might be a truck coming.

Get on with the rest of your life, and learn that risk is part of living our life. But of course you can reduce the odds, by not being promiscuous. There are no guarantees. Tricky, tricks are just that.

I am not familiar with United States law on these matters, but you had best recognise that it is better to move on, and bury this incident in your past.

 

[racer2438]

I did not know theres a med that controls the infection, that to me would be a cure pill.

I would go get tested for sure regularly, becarefull who you are with.

And since he told you he knew for yrs before you, that concerns me for the other people also. That is serious and a criminal act. I'd report him........


I hope everything turns out alright for you....

 

[KaraBulut]

This is why we say that you should assume that everyone is HIV+ and you should assume that anyone who tells you that they are HIV- is a lying.

You followed the safer sex guidelines. You made him wear a condom. You did not give in when he wanted to bareback. You followed the "on me not in me" rule.

Get tested for your peace of mind but from what you have said, your risk is very low.

And then decide whether you want someone who lies to be a part of your life.

 

[kineticpsi]

It is against the law for someone to knowingly pass HIV and/or AIDS on to another person.

Contact your local police department and, if necessary, contact a lawyer that has a free consultation. At the very least you may be able to sue him, although you would probably only win if you contracted the virus. It is probably best to go through the authorities.

As for you, just get checkups yearly and get tested as often as you feel the need to do so, but at least once yearly. I can't remember how long it can remain dormant.

 

[anastazi]

Although a person shouldn't lie about his HIV status, I could probably forgive his lie if he came clean before he actually put me at risk (i.e., we had sex). This guy sounds like a realy a hole though, because he not only lied to you but was willing to risk giving it to you.

Definitely go to the police. God only knows how many people he has put at risk and will continue to put at risk. You could save a lot of people from infection by reporting him........

 

[lostboy21]

depending on the state it can be anywhere from a civil suit to a felony charge to knowing withhold your HIV/AIDS status...id contact your local health department

 

[Edward Twinkletoes]

You are right to be worried that he is probably doing this to other people. If he was going to have unprotected anal sex with you (knowing he was positive) and the only thing that stopped him was you insisting that he wear a condom, you have every reason to believe he's done it to other people. And just possibly, some of them let him. I would say the chances of someone like him infecting at least one person without their knowledge are rather high.

This is criminal (I believe). If he knew he was positive and lied about it. As others say, I would call the local police and tell them about it and see what they say. It's not even about getting revenge so much as it is making sure he can't keep doing this.

 

[Red Storm]

go to the police and report him

 

[b0dyfan924]

I've decided that I'm going to get tested tomorrow to ease my mind. I'm very nervous, I hope that I can get through it.

 

[Edward Twinkletoes]

I've decided that I'm going to get tested tomorrow to ease my mind. I'm very nervous, I hope that I can get through it.

Any updates?

 

[b0dyfan924]

I was so relieved I forgot to update, my test came back negative. I feel like a lot of stress has been lifted off my shoulders.

I'm still unsure how to go about making sure he doesn't do this to others, I don't know how effective going to the authorities would be.

 

[Edward Twinkletoes]

I'm still unsure how to go about making sure he doesn't do this to others, I don't know how effective going to the authorities would be.

I think it would be pretty effective. The least they're probably going to do is have a talk with him so that will make sure they're aware of him and (hopefully) have some record of this if more people report him in the future.

It may be a little embarrassing for you. I don't know if that's the reason you're reluctant to turn him in or not. But think. His future sex partners have no idea he's infected. It's a matter of time before he infects someone else (if he hasn't already).

 

[SoulSearcher]

A few months back, I posted about having an encounter with a man who I suspected of being HIV positive despite him ensuring me that he tested negative twice since our encounter.

However, he has recently come clean and told me that he has in fact been positive for quite a number of years. I of course feel betrayed and angry. However, I am severely worried about others he may have lied to and infected. Is there any way to ensure that he stops this, by law maybe?

Now that I now know he is HIV positive, I want to ask about my risk for infection. We never had anal sex because when he tried to bareback me, I insisted he'd put on a condom before entering me. He lost his erection upon putting the condom on. So to this day, he has never been inside me. However we did have unprotected oral (I know the risk of transmission is virtually impossible).

What worries me about this is that he came on the tip of my penis and I'm pretty sure he wiped a bit of his semen near (or on top of) my urethra. He also came on my face later. I am not aware of any cuts on my penis or face, however there may have been some raw skin from masturbation and possible knicks from shaving my face.

Again, I've been told my risk for infection is very low by friends and also from him (he tells me he's on medication to control the infection). However, I'd just like some reinforcement, especially because I'm having a hard time trusting someone who was willing to put me at risk.

So what I'm asking is there a way by law to protect others from being lied to and also what is my personal risk from describing the situations above. Thank you for any advice you can give me, and thank you for having the patience to review my situation.

The fact that he knew he was HIV positive and yet wanted to bareback you, tells me that this man is evil to Satanic proportions, please keep away from him, don't even communicate with him, you don't need such people in your life. And like others have said, assume everyone is HIV positive. I can't really preach, but hope that more guys would start to take sex more seriously and less casually, I'm trying that myself.