Life Evaluation

[tomboy87]

Hey guys, I was wondering if any of you have took a look at your lives and made not of whats going on? Like what's going well, what could I improve, etc. If you have how did you do it and any tips? I feel like I need to do this, but i don't know how.

Another thing, I have no gay friends, the thing that makes this more awkward is that I don't like gay culture as in clubs, sauna's and pride.. Any advice? I want someone who i can talk to about my life that would understand gay things.

I hope what i wrote came across as I intended, Any help is appreciated guys.

Cheers.

 

[kallipolis]

The philosophical debate remains endless, until our dying day, in the meantime we live our life, best we can.

Do whatever comes naturally, and learn from your experiences that life is whatever we make of it.

The only blueprint that we have is the one that we make out of our experience living to be, who we are becoming.

Be who you know yourself, to be. Be true to your self, and neglect the social conventions that dare to influence your true self.

This above all; to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. ¬William Shakespeare

 

[Seasoned]

There is no one way to be gay just as there is no one way to be anything. The best way to navigate life is to be yourself and try to be non-judgemental of others. LGBTQ commmunity centers, social, athletic or political groups are just some ways to meet people, friends or partners.

 

[tomboy87]

Thanks guys. I guess I just need to be me, If people don't like it then it's their problem. I am thiking of joining a class of some sort.

 

[PalacePaul]

I don't do life evaluations as such, but every day I'm aware of things that I like or dislike in my life.
Over the last years I've realised that I hardly fit into the mass culture (gay or general), but I prefer being true to myself than faking a different "me".
I like this quote I found online:
"the fact that someone cannot handle you is not an invitation to shrink yourself down to their size. stop censoring who you are to appease those who don’t deserve you."

 

[tomboy87]

Thanks, i'm going to be me. Ive spoken to friends too, they said the same thing you said.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Another thing, I have no gay friends, the thing that makes this more awkward is that I don't like gay culture as in clubs, sauna's and pride.. Any advice? I want someone who i can talk to about my life that would understand gay things.

Keep looking in LGBT-land if this is at all possible for you. Don´t know where you are, but in my experience you can only really come to terms with the social part of your sexuality if you spend enough time with other gays/bis. Been going to gay bars etc. since my early twenties and only came into my own as a gay man after I moved to Amsterdam.

Now there´s a lot of low quality human behavior going on at many LGBT places, but I promise you that most straights will not be able or even willing to help you make sense of your experience as a gay person.