I just typed this whole thing out and then got really annoyed at how wordy and detailed it was. I'm going to try to explain this more concisely but just know that I am fully aware that my problem is ridiculous and self created. I am super self-aware so there's no need to point that out probably.
So the quick version is, i met a guy on Grindr (this is how all problems start) and we met up for coffee. I wasn't really sure what i was looking for but it was nice and fun and i spent like four hours chatting with this cute guy about music and friends and life. It was mostly nice and we mutually agreed that we should do it again. The hang-up, which i didn't realize at first but became aware of right before we met up, is that he's 19. I'm 26. I thought he was older, i feel weird about it. I was really enjoying swapping ridiculous college party stories with him until it became clear that he was still living most of those stories.
I just feel really weird about the whole thing, like, i'm an adult and work in marketting and have a 401K. He's saving money from his his summer FroYo job to go to EDM festivals. I know I should probably just drop it but he keeps texting me and I keep texting him back because he's cute and i like him and i would be sad if i made him sad. This, in turn, makes me feel like even more of an old creep. So my questions are as follows:
1. Am I an old creep? I am open to the possibility that I am. Do i just like him because he's the kind of guy i would have gone for when i was 19 and still didn't have it together. A lot of my friends are getting married maybe I'm regressing because I don't feel ready for all that? I don't know! Judge me please!
2. What should I do about him? I can't date him obviously but he has to go back to school in the fall so hopefully he's not expecting that. I guess it could be a fling sort of situation...or is that creepy? Ugh, can be friends with him? I would probably end up sleeping with him anyway and that would be worse. I am kind of being ridiculous but that point is that i don't want to blow him off entirely because it is rude and i am obviously conflicted.
3. Has this ever happened to you? Please tell me i am not the only one who can't tell the difference between 19 and 23.
That's it, thanks for listening to my disjointed rambling. If you made it this far you may as well leave a comment. I kind of just wanted a sounding board and obviously if i told my IRL friends i'd be mocked until the end of my days.
Oh god, i just had the worst thought ever. What if he's "into older guys." Am I "older guys" now? If he says that to me in any way I'm probably going to jump.
So the quick version is, i met a guy on Grindr (this is how all problems start) and we met up for coffee. I wasn't really sure what i was looking for but it was nice and fun and i spent like four hours chatting with this cute guy about music and friends and life. It was mostly nice and we mutually agreed that we should do it again. The hang-up, which i didn't realize at first but became aware of right before we met up, is that he's 19. I'm 26. I thought he was older, i feel weird about it. I was really enjoying swapping ridiculous college party stories with him until it became clear that he was still living most of those stories.
I just feel really weird about the whole thing, like, i'm an adult and work in marketting and have a 401K. He's saving money from his his summer FroYo job to go to EDM festivals. I know I should probably just drop it but he keeps texting me and I keep texting him back because he's cute and i like him and i would be sad if i made him sad. This, in turn, makes me feel like even more of an old creep. So my questions are as follows:
1. Am I an old creep? I am open to the possibility that I am. Do i just like him because he's the kind of guy i would have gone for when i was 19 and still didn't have it together. A lot of my friends are getting married maybe I'm regressing because I don't feel ready for all that? I don't know! Judge me please!
2. What should I do about him? I can't date him obviously but he has to go back to school in the fall so hopefully he's not expecting that. I guess it could be a fling sort of situation...or is that creepy? Ugh, can be friends with him? I would probably end up sleeping with him anyway and that would be worse. I am kind of being ridiculous but that point is that i don't want to blow him off entirely because it is rude and i am obviously conflicted.
3. Has this ever happened to you? Please tell me i am not the only one who can't tell the difference between 19 and 23.
That's it, thanks for listening to my disjointed rambling. If you made it this far you may as well leave a comment. I kind of just wanted a sounding board and obviously if i told my IRL friends i'd be mocked until the end of my days.
Oh god, i just had the worst thought ever. What if he's "into older guys." Am I "older guys" now? If he says that to me in any way I'm probably going to jump.
