Little sister's (male) friend wants to visit?

[foxyroxie]

have u ever got the idea he might have a crush on u??????

 

[Adam2299]

have u ever got the idea he might have a crush on u??????

Um.. maybe yea. But that's not even something I'm going to think about (for obvious reasons).

 

[foxyroxie]

lol i think the second night he might hit on you,,,lol

 

[MindBlast]

lol i think the second night he might hit on you,,,lol

It's easy to rebuff something like that.

My idea would be to invite a lesbian friend of yours over if you have one, and have her sleep in the same room as him.

 

[colemanshs]

I'm glad that you're gonna let him come over. I just had my sister stay with me for a few nights here at school and we had a good time. Obviously, your situation is a little different, however, I'm sure you both can have a good time without anything happening like some of the others in this post have mentioned.

Like I said before and some others have said: Lay down the rules before hand. Make sure your roomies know their rules and make sure there isn't much idle time. Idle time makes it easy to get in trouble.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

 

[Rasengan]

Like others have posted the kid hitting on you could be the reason he wants to stay over. Even if he tries to, lay down the rules and stuff. Let him know that you staying over is not about a 15yr old fucking a 21yr old like in many fantasy stories that kids have had. Let him know that its safe and being gay..

My two cents =P

 

[rareboy]

Oh c'mon, you and everyone else know this is all about the drama and the possibility that he'll make advances that you or one of your posse just can't resist and then you'll have all these great complications to tell averyone about.

No matter what, he'll probably cling to you for dear life for the next three or four years long after you have tired of his adoration.

 

[NickCole]

Adam, I can't tell from your original post -- do his parents know he'll be staying with you?

 

[mexamor]

Adam, sounds like you have tried to cover the bases. I hope he has a nice weekend.

 

[Adam2299]

Oh c'mon, you and everyone else know this is all about the drama and the possibility that he'll make advances that you or one of your posse just can't resist and then you'll have all these great complications to tell averyone about.

No matter what, he'll probably cling to you for dear life for the next three or four years long after you have tired of his adoration.

Actually it's not "all about the drama." In fact, I want him to come here so he can RELAX and get away from all the immature drama of high school he has to deal with on a daily basis. I would NEVER in a million thousand years ever even think about being sexual with this kid, and I've been drilling this into all my roommates' heads for the past week. Trust me, nothing's going to happen. Why are you being so cynical?

I've already planned everything out. On Friday night we're going over to my girl friend's house with a few other people and probably getting a pizza and just hanging out. On Saturday morning I'm taking him to the shelter where I volunteer, which will be a lot of fun and most likely take up half the day. Then to lunch. Then maybe coffee. Then maybe I'll take him to this trendy little art gallery in the afternoon (b/c he's really into art). Then Saturday night I already have plans to hang out with my (gay) friend Michael and his boyfriend along with a handful of other people. No drinking, I already told them. I purposely chose Mike because he's a very responsible and sensible guy, and someone I think this kid can really relate to. Sunday morning we'll probably go out to breakfast and then just hang out until he has to leave at noon. We'll have plenty of time to talk if he wants to, but I'm not going to pressure him.

There's not going to be any drama. I'm more worried about this kid's mental well-being than anything else...

For god's sake, I may be a 21 year old gay guy, but I'm not a fucking idiot...... give me a little credit.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Well, I think your plans sound all right. Very busy and quite fun. I hope you have a good time this weekend and update us on how it goes.


Always remember this! You are escorting a minor without the parents' knowledge. You are ultimately responsible for anything that happens to him. I'm not saying you're an irresponsible person. But the craziest things can happen sometimes and unfortunately, you have no legal protection in all of this. Keep that in the back of your mind at all times.

 

[colemanshs]

I knew you were a smart guy!

It sounds like you two will have a blast!

 

[Adam2299]

Adam, I can't tell from your original post -- do his parents know he'll be staying with you?

Nah, they don't know. But they also are totally neglecting the kid right now anyway. They're going through a divorce and they're really occupied with that. Not an excuse, but just saying....

 

[NickCole]

Nah, they don't know. But they also are totally neglecting the kid right now anyway. They're going through a divorce and they're really occupied with that. Not an excuse, but just saying....

My friend,

Please tell them.

Their son is underage, going to stay a weekend with a gay man and his gay roommates.

If something happens, even an accident that has nothing to do with sex, you could be in trouble. It's especially worrisome that you say they're going through a divorce and neglecting their son -- parents under that kind of stress and so ripe for guilt and misplaced anger could be a problem for you.

Don't put yourself in such a vulnerable position. It would be very poor judgement.

If you don't want to listen to me, ask the advice of some other older person whose opinion you respect.

 

[rareboy]

If you pull this off you'll make us all proud....and demonstrate that you may even be able to have a puppy of your very own.

I do believe though that there is a legal obligation on his part to inform the parents.

It is inconceivable that even in the throes of divorce, that no one would care where one of their children was. It could be seriously misconstrued.

I'll give you a little credit if you tell us you've done the responsible thing and make him tell his parents where he'll be for the weekend.

After that, have fun.

 

[trawler69]

I have to say that I admire what you are doing for this guy and accept totally that you are doing it for all the right reasons and have done your best to make sure it is a safe and good experience for him. It is his parent's reaction that I worry about. They don't sound like caring people and could displace their failings as parents onto you, as in blame you for corrupting their son. I know it sounds irrational and that is not your intent but sadly even parents of 15 year olds can be irrational. Just bear that in mind ok!

 

[Adam2299]

Well first of all, they're leaving him with his 18 year old sister, who is secretly planning on visiting her boyfriend for the weekend. She knows that he's coming to visit me, although she doesn't really know why (she doesn't know he's gay) .... So technically she's in charge.......

If anyone gets in trouble for his well-being if something happens, it'll be her.

But again, everything will be fine! I swear.

 

[NickCole]

Well first of all, they're leaving him with his 18 year old sister, who is secretly planning on visiting her boyfriend for the weekend. She knows that he's coming to visit me, although she doesn't really know why (she doesn't know he's gay) .... So technically she's in charge.......

If anyone gets in trouble for his well-being if something happens, it'll be her.

You are an adult and you know his parents will be out of town and are unaware he'll be traveling and staying the weekend with you. If anything happens, you are responsible for letting this happen without his parent's permission.

He's a minor and they have not only the legal responsibility and right to make decisions that could impact his welfare, it really isn't your place to make this decision for them.

What you're doing --without his parent's knowledge-- is wrong. It's poor judgement.

But again, everything will be fine! I swear.

You do not have control over anything other than your own actions; you do not know everything will be fine.

Everything might be fine but too easily it might not be. And you could find yourself in a big mess. All you have to do is call his parents and ask their permission. Why do you resist doing that? Are you afraid they won't let him visit you? If so, that alone should give you pause.

 

[Adam2299]

Ok fiiiiiiiiine

I'm telling him to ask his parents.

Geez you guys are making me so paranoid!

 

[gabriel1]

Ok fiiiiiiiiine

I'm telling him to ask his parents.

Geez you guys are making me so paranoid!

might be the best thing you ever did. I hope all goes well. It's just too "touchy" out there these days and I'd hate to see you end up in any type of trouble.