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Long Distance Relationships

januaryguy

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Just want to know what you guys think about long distance relationships. Im in Asia and my bf is in USA. We meet a few times a year. Been with him for almost 2 years.
 
Meaningless tosh designed to shield yourself from the fact that you can't find a boyfriend within 100 miles of your person.
 
I'm not up for such torture! I want my guy to be next to me daily, to go to bed together and wake up together. That's what I call a relationship :)
 
He will retire in a year then we will be together more. We love travelling go for vacations together
 
Been there, done that and don't believe in "long distance" anymore. I believe a successful relationship is based on DAILY contact and communication. I want a partner around me, not thousands of miles away. If you believe you can deal with it until he retires, good for you. I couldn't. I would go about my life and see what happens when he retires. A lot can happen in a year.
 
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(sans the stupid part (*8*) )
 
Cant work, when I met my British man in my final year of college, I couldnt work with him being that far away....so I moved to London and 6 years later I'm still here...It doesnt work...I'm hardly away from the man...
 
For me, it didn't work when I tried it....
You never know, because everyone's totally different from each other, and situations are not the same.
But I promise never to try that again (so I guess I'll end up in another one sooner or later)
 
D-Base said:
I'm not up for such torture! I want my guy to be next to me daily, to go to bed together and wake up together. That's what I call a relationship :)
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Though it's nice when you find a great person who happens to live far away and you actually can keep a long distance relationship up and running with lots of communication...

I'm a lot more like D-Base...I want to do little things with someone I'm in a "relationship" with. In long distance relationships, every time you meet, it's a "big event", but what I really want is to share the little non-sense and usual daily life with someone (that's when you really get to know someone too). Sometimes it's good to have a bit of a break, but in the end, if the relationship works out to living together, you'll have to actually "live" together.

If it's temporarily long distance, then that's fine...or even if it's an hour's distance away, I can sacrifice in both situations. When it's permanently on opposite sides of the planet...or even something like 4 hours away, it becomes annoying for me.
 
No universal truth here.

Basically, yeah, Long Distance LTRs are very cumbersome and unsatisfying.

And they can work, too. The most important part of it being that they can only function for people who are not into having to spend 24/7 of their time with their partners AND that the Long Distance is a short-term necessity.

So, yeah, if you stood by for 2 years, try one more and be ready to be very flexible and fully understanding, once you start living together.

Seeing each other ever so often and spending vacations together is all one thing. Living constantly together is something very different...so, be ready...

SC
 
I was recently in one and it failed horribly. Our circumstances were similar - we met while on the same continent, but he lives in Korea and I live in the USA. We tried to see how long we could keep it going. I think he would still be willing since he thinks that sleeping with guys doesn't make him gay and therefore doesn't feel like he's missing out by being attached. It got to a certain point when it became clear that we had no idea when, or even if, we would see each other again. That's when it was time to stop trying, at least in my opinion.

I wish you the best of luck, though. The fact that you do see him makes a big difference. I believe my relationship could have lasted longer if there was at least a chance of seeing each other in the short term.
 
It is very frustrating for me! My BF, the Little Kuma, is in Melbourne while I am in Brisbane. It is temporary, for 9 months, and we travel to see each other every 5-6 weeks, but I feel like we are in a holding pattern that just wont end. We have just found out he may have to stay away for another 6 weeks and I feel like I'm at the end of my tether.:mad:
 
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