[long] I've fucked up and made a REALLY huge mistake

[Matt-T]

I don't get it either. The more I think about it the more I'm confused. It sounds rich coming from me, but I don't think I could ever completely forgive somebody who cheated on me, yet alone marry them. I guess those of you who said A could of sugar-coated what he told B - or blamed me entirely - could be right; I'm going to call B in the next few days to apologise and straighten out what he was told. A and I have still been texting each other lately - I've just been asking him how he's adjusting to moving to the city (like I said, we're still friends) - but we haven't mentioned anything about what happened to each other. I think we've both decided to just completely forget about it and never mention it again (thankfully).

Hey Matt T....

I just stumbled across this thread and wanted to offer some words of encouragement.

Since this was your first time with anyone and it was kind of a disaster, I want you to know that your not a bad person and you should in NO WAY hate yourself. I have never in my life defended a person that cheats. In fact I've been kinda harsh to people on this site that have had sex with people in relationships. This is officially the first time I've been on the co- cheaters defense.

A took advantage of you. He initiated the contact with you on the couch. He initiated the short bj in the kitchen. Knowing that you have never done anything before he knew you were vulnerable. By the time you guys got alone in the car your hormones and emotions where all twisted and raging.

You know your actions were wrong and things you did and said were suspect. But I don't blame you. I think A has done this before and I'm sooo happy to hear that you are no longer going to associate yourself with A or B.

Chalk this up to a learning experience and never EVER forget what happened and how bad you felt. This will make you a stronger human being and more responsible in the future, IF you learn from it.

Sorry for being so long.

Thanks so much. That means a lot to me - I feel a lot better about everything now.

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ I wouldn't even text the bastard.

 

[Muskox]

Well, we texted each other all morning. He told me that he would like to do it again but could never cheat on B again, because he still felt guilty. I told him I would like to do it again too but only if things didn't end up working out between he and B in the future, and that I felt terrible about putting sex ahead of he and B. Am I a bad person for still wanting to be with him?

We've all heard stories of women who stay with philandering boyfriends or husbands. Even if you can't fathom how B would agree to marry A, that's how forgiving some people are. Somebody here called him a doormat. He's the one I really feel sorry for. I picture him with real self-esteem problems and a pretty sad existence if he's so desperate to hold onto B.

Also, Matt, your reaction to the message from A tells me that you still haven't learned much here. Your dick is still in control and you're offering encouragement to a cheating scumbag. I'm probably expecting too much maturity from a horny 18-year-old after his first sexual experience, but I hope you learn some lessons from this before you do yourself some real damage.

 

[recuerdeme]

And yet another reason not to join a Gay Organization... well if you're not into interchanging lovers.

The A dude is really at fault. He's running an organization helping gays and at the same time manipulating the poor unseasoned guys like yourself.

And you should know better than to encourage such behavior. Naivety about sex, what guys want and what is right, really doesn't exist anymore.

I hope you are checked out with a clean bill of health.

 

[Matt-T]

We've all heard stories of women who stay with philandering boyfriends or husbands. Even if you can't fathom how B would agree to marry A, that's how forgiving some people are. Somebody here called him a doormat. He's the one I really feel sorry for. I picture him with real self-esteem problems and a pretty sad existence if he's so desperate to hold onto B.

Also, Matt, your reaction to the message from A tells me that you still haven't learned much here. Your dick is still in control and you're offering encouragement to a cheating scumbag. I'm probably expecting too much maturity from a horny 18-year-old after his first sexual experience, but I hope you learn some lessons from this before you do yourself some real damage.

You're absolutely right, but things have changed since I posted what you quoted.