Longest time being single and why?

[LuckysRevenge]

I was just thinking it's been 4 years since I've had a relationship and after a recent "dating" experience I realize it might be a long time before I get in one again.

What was your longest time being single and why? Any regrets?

What do you think of people who are rarely single? If that's you, what do you think of people who are always single?

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Longest I've been single is 6 years, and, just like my reasoning for wanting to stay single now, I just had other things I need to accomplish before I consider trying to date someone.

No regrets at all - considering the MANY friends right now going through hard breakups(I guess the summer is making it hard to keep a man or woman), I consider myself lucky to not be going through all the depression, at least not personally.

 

[pat grimshaw]

Don't worry about being single.

We'll have the new Gay Marriage Laws soon and that should be a consolation.

 

[72-Jay]

What was your longest time being single I have been single my entire life (and I'm old now)
and why? there's multiple reasons
Any regrets? --
What do you think of people who are rarely single? They're lucky, I guess?
what do you think of people who are always single? being single is not necessarily a bad thing

 

[Rickrock]

I have always been single. When I was young homosexuality was sinful and weird and most homosexuals were in the closet, as was I (and also in denial). Now it is too late to change habits and I will probably die single. Besides social pressures, I would also have religious difficulties and I am religious up to a point. I have only minor regrets and I don't know any different anyways.

 

[cgymike]

A few years and death of a partner. Unless you include childhood...assuming single does not count before 18...

 

[hornyboyperth]

nearly 30 and have always been single apart from a few experiences with Girls when I was younger. I don't know how to meet guys or any advice would be welcome!

 

[LeicsDom]

I've been single for about 17 years and plan to stay that way

 

[gaysian85]

My entire adult life. The reason? No guy seems to want me and I am abandoned on an average of two weeks after just talking. TWO WEEKS! Everyone always seem to abandon me and never tell me why. They also tend to act as if I don't exist. It REALLY messes me up every time this happens and I'l just stop caring about how my apartment looks and even my own appearance from anywhere in between six months up to a year. Sometimes I even want to become bulimic because I think I'm "fat" and guys would like me better if I was a LOT thinner. I've been on two dating sites for over 3 years and I still have nothing. I'm so pathetic....

 

[Paws]

Single since birth. And I'm in my 30s.

Do I get a medal for that achievement?

 

[kayman23]

5 years, but it was what it was. I'm in a monogamous relationship now, but singledom didn't bother me. I'm not the type that wants to be bother with anything including sex unless the person catches my attention...

 

[zombiekiller]

I confess that I'm one of those that is uncomfortable being single. Last time I was single was in between my ex and this current one. This was 2 years ago and I was single for a whole 2 weeks.

I started dating when I was in my early 20s and I never stopped. I'm 30 now.

I firmly believe that we are not meant to be alone. And what I've found out about life is there is always someone for everyone.

That said, I did not have my first sexual experience or bf until I was 23. I still remember how lonely I was without someone. Been constantly dating ever since. Long term relationships didn't come until much later, though.

 

[G-Lexington]

I guess the four years between coming out and moving back to Colorado (the second time). I was in a small, hick-ish sort of town in the pre-internet days, so dating (or even hooking up) wasn't really much of an option.

Lex

 

[justaguy]

I wish there was something I can do or say to make this thread a little less sad. I want to give some of the contributors a hug. Im sure it would be therapeutic for me too.

 

[zombiekiller]

I wish there was something I can do or say to make this thread a little less sad. I want to give some of the contributors a hug. Im sure it would be therapeutic for me too.

Remember the 1 eyed guy in the grapes of wrath?

 

[Pianist]

I'm 59... I was married for ten years... those ten years was when I wasn't single. Therefore, I've been single for 49 years though we can realistically exclude say 15 or 17 of those give or take, so, revised number is approximately 32 years of singleness.

 

[Alnitak]

18 years, from birth to my first boyfriend

Ha I know what you mean, and the longest single time I've had since then was probably five months.

 

[USEDCAR]

I been single all my life i am 26 years old why i live in a small town there's not much gay opportunities out here for gays unless i want something long distance. I am working on finishing up school and working saving up and moving outta here.


What do you think of people who are rarely single? No feelings i am kinda glad i didn't spend my teens and most of my 20s in a relationship or jumping in and out of them. Some people can't last a minute being single its pretty sad

 

[secondmonkey]

About 30 years. (And I'm only 29) Why? 3 psychiatrists/psychologists couldn't figure it out, it's not likely I ever will.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

33 years and counting.

I'm an incredibly odd/eccentric guy who isn't really compatible with most folks. For me, being in a relationship would mean actively trying to find one. I don't, because it's not that serious to me. I've always seen myself as a "foreveralone" (minus the sad aspects society tries to add to that, because there's nothing wrong with being eternally single). I absolutely hate "dating." If I meet a guy and we naturally explore common interests, it's one thing. But awkward dinners with strangers based on a mutual attraction is something I don't like to deal with.

Once I met a guy who was so comforting to me, so incredibly special that I connected with. The only time I aspired to be in a relationship, really felt myself wanting to be part of an 'us.' Well, he had just gotten out of a ten year streak of relationships that dated back to his young adulthood. The freedom I've had in my solitude my entire life, he was tasting for the first time. The timing was clearly off. He let me know he needed to be single. I (of all people) respect that.

When I talk about him, it's always longingly, even now. No bitterness. When I talk about him to people, folks say it's a "good sign" that I've found that connection with someone and that it could happen again. I tend to see things more mathematically or logically. I think this connection is a sign to the rarity that I actually connect with anyone--and goes to show that even when a connection is there, the aspect of timing can still stop everything. So I'm less likely to find someone, not more. (And once again, not that it matters. It's him I want, not "a relationship")

My entire life, I've loved single people who stay single for long periods of time (or forever). They're just fascinating to me. I've always seen them as strong, independent, free. And less basic. It kills me how much people obsess over sex and relationships. It's almost always a topic of discussion ll the time. I find that the perpetually single folks help balance all that out. Those in my life who have been very long term singles tend to have more substantial relationships when they actually do couple, because they're doing it out of love, not necessity.

As for people who are always in relationships, my bias probably shows in my opinion of them. I just don't get it. I can't imagine being that emotionally compatible with that wide a palate. I always wonder if they REALLY into the guys or girls they claim to be into? Or are they that desperate for a relationship and are with the one that kept calling back?

One thing I've always known about myself is that I'll never be that guy. If I'm in a relationship, it's because I like the person, not the concept of a relationship.

I have way too many regrets in life, but I can say that my handling of relationships has never been one of them.