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looking for advice on widowhood

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It usually helps when you can talk to someone, preferably someone who knew him, to share stories and memories.

If you don't have anyone or they're too far away, you could talk to us, about how you met, what he was like... I don't know if it would help, but we're here for whatever we can help with...

Take care and a big hug (*8*)
 
Losing a love is rough. I think, it is best not to fight the pain and the grieving.

It helps to be thankful you had each other.

I found that it is also true, that it takes about a year to come to terms with a death of spouse (lover). You will never get over it, but you will come to live with it. So, don't try to rush your grief. If you hadn't loved so deeply, you wouldn't be hurting deeply. Be thankful for the love you had.
 
I'm terribly sorry. My father passed away when I was 16, I too felt the things you are feeling right now. I decided to join a group for people who had been through the same thing I had. I was at first hesitant to join but I'm glad I did. Being able to relate to someone else through their experiences helped me deal with my grief and to move and live a life of happiness. I hope the same for you :)
 
I am very sorry for your loss. I hope that your loving memories of him help you through these difficult days. Going to the concert was a great idea, and a good way to honor him and feel part of him again.

You're among friends here--friends who do understand both your relationship and your grief. I hope that we can be a source of strength to you now.

Take care of yourself and, again, my sympathies.

(*8*)
 
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, it must be horrible. I'm sure that your other half is in a better place watching over you. So long as he lives in your heart, he will never really die and he'll always be with you.

In time, the pain and grief will lessen and you will learn to live again. It's going to be a long and painful journey, but you will make it. In the meantime, there are many good folks here, that will happily lend you a shoulder to cry on. Me among them.

Take care, and I'll remember you both in my prayers. God bless.
 
Buddy, I don't really know what more to say. I think some of the advice above is good. talk about him with people. here or with friends. i think that is a good way to remember the fun and happy times and i hope it will help you deal with the grief. i've not lost anyone close to me recently, but i do remember the pain. my thoughts are with you.

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Please accept my deepest condolences

I know you're feeling alone but please know the JUB family is with you in spirit

(*8*)
 
Wow,
I'm sending you a big hug. Just know that he will always live in your heart forever. I know that he would want you to live your life to the fullest and enjoy every day. Te acompano los sentimientos.
 
Im actually choking back tears while typing this.

I am SO sorry about your loss..I offer my condolences and I am SO giving you a hug right now. *hug*

Always keep him in your heart, and I wish you the best with your healing...it will be a rough ride.. but stay strong.
 
Sorry fot your loss, But you may need to surround your self with friend s and family and enjoy the stories everyone has of him. You need to just talk it all out and get it all out. It will n ever be gone but the major part of grieving may pass easier and then you would have some much pain. You know he would not want you to hold on to this pain. You need to to strong and continue you life. It is not going to be easy but day by day, step by step. He knows you can do it and he will watch over you..
 
I just now found this post of yours. And I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Please keep him alive in your memories.....

You've made me appreciate what I have, even more, and you've made me wish for a brighter and better future for you.
 
I did a google search on "grief". This site came up and looked interesting.

http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html

All I did was glance at it.

As far as the ashes, remember your love, for your ex, lives in your heart. If you need a place to mourn, why not create your own memorial. Like a place in the park, or a place where you feel connected to him. Or something like an altar. You might want to keep it just something for you. Or write a journal. It helps to get it on paper.

As far as dreaming, you might think about wanting to see him right before you go to sleep. Don't go into detail, just a simple suggestion to yourself. Don't force it. It will happen in its own time.
 
It sounds like you are more positive. I like to think we carry those we love, who have passed, in our hearts. So, I like to think he is with you, guiiding and helping you deal with this.
 
I still have memories of loved ones who passed as long as 35 years ago as well as those who passed only two years ago. I know the pain of feeling that a part of you is missing.

You are so blessed to have had a soulmate. Your heart will always have a special place to keep your treasured memories of him.

Keep up your counseling sessions and do post here as often as you want.
 
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