looking for friend who gets me

[chillyboi]

You have to find a priest or pastor & if that dont go well there has to be someone somewhere that can help you?
we are all here if you need us!!!!

 

[SashaLex]

Me too. In the exact same position. I come from Malaysia, and as you know, people from our region aren't exactly very open-minded about sexualities and stuffs. It's a constant struggle to keep my sexuality in secret. Because I know for a fact that if I do let my secret out, I will be rejected by probably 80-90% of my current group of friends AND my family members.

It's not an easy life at all...

But having said that, there was never a moment when I thought of taking my own life. No, life is too precious for you to even think about committing suicide. Do like what lifehouseboy suggests, keep your time occupied with something that will keep you happy. Or else, another escape for me is the internet- find your friends here, get advices if you can't find anywhere else.

And yes, I am here too if you need someone to chat with. Send me a PM if you'd like.

Wish you all the best. Hope you'll feel better.

 

[chillyboi]

chillyboi: thanks for the advice, i have thought about that before, its just that, as a catholic myself, i think that a pastor will advise me to "go in the right way" and that, i think is not the solutions here, what i mean is, catholic still see this matter as a taboo, as a sin. but thanks anyway. it's nice to know some one still care for me

Lifehouseboy: Thanks a lot, i think will be a good friend, where in asia, exactly are you? i 'm still working on it, maybe someday, will tell my friends, but now,i still need to find the right time, the right words, and also, i'm still waiting if my friends are ready for the news or not.
rite now, i started to feel like i dont now myself anymore, im afraid that if i come out, evrything will be change, i mean, my live is formed based on me being pretencious, and im not sure if i can handle the changes rite now.

I am Catholic , i hope you find help

 

[xyzguy]

the only thing filipino about you is your crab mentality.

Who are you trying to insult? MoltenRock or Filipinos?

 

[SashaLex]

Is everyone on this forum Catholic? Weird. Cause' I am too. In fact I studied in a missionary school back where I come from. I'm from the island of Borneo, by the way. So yeah, we really are neighbours.

Sure! Send me your email or MSN contact, I'd be glad to chat with you.

I'm currently living in Russia, where there's about a sizable Malaysian community here too. And everyday I'm surrounded by Malaysians and so it's not a healthy environment at all. It's basically back to square one. Here, Coming out basically will get you ostracized. This girl I know of revealed her feelings to a girl, who then backstabbed her and revealed to everyone, including the Pastor of a local Church (an American pastor from an evangelical church). And then before you know it, they held an 'intervention' to try to 'cleanse' her. Basically an exorcism... She quit her studies and then decided to return back to Malaysia. Wicked story, right? Even now, every now and then he would preach about the evil of homosexuality in church. Sigh...

I've got lots of stories more to share, but probably better in a PM instead of out in the public like this. Let's chat. Cos' I know what a big difference having a friend/ a listening ear/ a shoulder to lean on can make.

 

[conrad]

All I have to offer you is based on my own experiences. I too grew up into the horny teens in a very conservative and very religious community. We were all programmed to expect to do what all regular guys did: we would someday find a pretty girl, marry, and live happily ever after. We had no role models for males in loving sexual relationship.

That that did not prevent me from discovering that "other side of my sexuality" was, I think, due to the fact that I was always alert to new opportunities and, as long as no one got hurt, I was ready to give myself permission to do what seemed to come naturally.

The new guy in town, fifteen just like me, was as open as I was to becoming friends. In time, we became more than friends and tried to find ways to express our affection for each other and we gave ourselves permission and we became gay lovers. The sex came naturally and seemed so right. There was no internet to answer our questions; we learned by doing. Thanks to a wonderful zone of privacy we were able to be lovers throughout the high school years and the morality snoops in our town were none the wiser. Together we discovered a part of our sexuality that we had never ever even considered before and have continued to think of ourselves as the richer for that experience. We both have happy marriages.

Keeping the lines open is very important. I dare say that even in your situation you as my teen lover and I may also someday be surprised. Be ready and until then do keep in touch and open to friendship whether such friendship ever becomes sexual or not.

 

[tallguy297]

Keep in mind Indonesia is predominately Muslim.

I was born & raised in the US, but from the Philippines.

the only thing filipino about you is your crab mentality.

Who are you trying to insult? MoltenRock or Filipinos?

Both. I guess he's not a fan of either. Oh well.

Hey guys...

This thread until these posts was absolutely incredible! They way people came in and supported each other and were able to share their own fears and frustrations from the world over was proof how important this place is and the good it does for all of us.

Please dont let personal attacks, insults or unneeded and tactless remarks derail the good being done here... thats not what this forum is about.

Thanks for your co-operation fellas,

TG.

 

[Lefty]

hmmm, this puts me in a confusing spot between a rock and a hard beach. i like crabs and fillapinos.

but, more seriously OP looks like you made some good contacts here, utilize them and remember that the whole jub network has your back