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mike_n_herrin

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first off, hello hippoJUB :wave:

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to the site.

second, don't think for a second this is the wrong place to ask for help. it's an amazing site with amazing people for the most part. since it's a large forum, there is a wide variety of people. sorta a reflection of the "real world."

third i want to offer a hug (*8*)(*8*) or two. ;) it takes a certain amount of courage to post personal information out there for all to see and well it's like baring your sole. if this were a sheet of paper i'd except to see a lot of tear stains on the page. i can feel the emotion behind your words, don't fear that you didn't get them across.

i'm not a psychologist or therapist so i'm not going to claim to be one. if you've recognized that you have some trouble trusting people, then that seems like a place to start. trust is not always easy to give especially when you've been burnt by people you were close to. i've learned that sometimes we tend to place to high of expectations on people, so high sometimes that no one ever meets them and we feel constantly let down. this has happened to me several times. trust is a huge issue and if you have some problems trusting then i would think that would be a significant hindrance to making an emotional connection with someone.

again, i'm not a consoler, but have you considered seeing one regarding trust issues? i don't know if that would help or not, i really don't. i was just wondering if you had tried it?

- mikey
 
WELCOME!! That was a wonderful and touching introduction. I DO hope you will stick around and get to meet some of the lads here. I would agree with Mikey that maybe a counsellor could help you with some of your feelings. We do have a wonderful forum here for coming to terms with your sexuality..
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=70
It is one of several forums in a NO FLAME AREA where you can post your feelings and concerns without being worried about nasty comments and flames.
WELCOME to JUB..I think you will like it here. Enjoy!:wave:
 
did you ever have such a phase where you weren't sure about your sexuality and the way you feel about other guys? Is this just temporary?

I thought I wasn't sure about being gay when I was 18 or 19. I had some of the same feelings as you (couldn't think about kissing a guy but loved the porn and non-porn gay art). But after a while I realized it was just me trying to convince myself to be straight and it wasn't workin'! Maybe that's you maybe not.

Either way, welcome to JUB! :wave:
 
i know how you are felling i feel that way to alot, and seeing two guys that are so much in love makes me so happy but yet sad at the same time knowin that i cant find anyone to show my love too. but im sure you will find someone when the time is right.

and welcome to jub (*8*):kiss:
 
Welcome, hippo. Its true that people here are really compassionate!
 
Gday hippojub, well what can i say, i've had very similar feelings also and now i'm 35 and only just come out last month. I really feel that soon you will figure it out for yourself,its just that in general, society discourages these kinds of feelings. At the end of the day, we cant help the way we feel, we just do and theres absolutely nothing wrong with it, as i have learnt this past month. I feel that what is important is that you should feel happy and if that, like me, means liking guys instead of girls, then so be it and like you i am still looking for love. Sorry i know its a bit vague but only just accepting this myself recently is how i see my situation. I do hope this may help and if you want to talk more,i would be happy to also as its all new to me too.cheers smoothy1
 
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