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Is he gay?

You're still in your rebound period; you're probably crushing on him. Has anything every happened between you two?

Distancing yourself from him will probably help. At least for a while, until things subside. Expand your circle of friends and find new guys to date.
 
you just got out of a VERY long term relationship. Maybe try to enjoy the single life again? Go have fun, you probably see this guy as "the guy" because he's been there for you during your emotionally unstable time.
 
when you start dating other guys again, your feelings for your friend will diminish. Or ask him out, he doesn't even know you like him.
 
If you care for your friend don't drop this on him while he's dating someone else.

If it was me, I'd suck it up and move on. Friends are a lot harder to come by than crushes. There's no way you're over your break up issues yet, how do you know that isn't what's going on? Give it time.
 
who knows, he might realize what you've known all along if things don't work out with the guy he's dating.
 
BizStudent said:
I just got off the phone with a very good friend of mine who basically broke it down to me that I need to just sit back and relax and CALM DOWN. Alot of it is that I've had this feeling that I've got to move quickly and find someone because I don't want to be alone....

My friend also told me that he saw my gay.com profile and noted that I was on the right track in just really looking to meet new friends, that I shouldn't be looking activly looking to fill that void right now When the right moment comes along it'll just happen.
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Your friend is wise. Listen. Be thankful that you have a friend like this.
 
(*8*) Hugs.

Chalk it up to a learning experience.
 
^ Reminds me of something a friend of mine once said. "He's so gay that when he gets a flat tire, he immediately looks for a lesbian to fix it." :)

Lex
 
Biz, I admire completely your ability to move on. Invested in something that long, if I were in your position my life would be a wreck and I'd probably be in couciling and everything else. I'm scared as well for my current relationship, it just started and I'm prepared to take the plunge, but to think that if we last that long only to end is scary, especially if there are kids involved (we would probalby want to adopt by then).

That said, you're doing great, you're doing fine. You're not compromising yourself, you know what you want. You're not putting up with the normal BS that is expected by putting yourself out there. Kudos for that too.

Just go out and have fun finding what you're looking for. It's a numbers game, the more people you meet, the greater chance you have of meeting Mr. Right. Good luck.
 
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