Love at first sight

[thelaw18489]

I got a question for everyone. How many people out there have locked eyes with a straight guy at first meeting with them and fealt instant love and attraction like love at first sight. Last year I met this straight guy we locked eyes on first meeting and I instantly feel in love and felt like he could have been meant for me. I am still trying to figure out what it means when you feel this attraction on first look where you feel like you meet a soulmate, does this mean that he is gay and there is a chance or could it just be lusty attraction.

 

[strosbuff88]

there's a pair of blue eyes that i can't forget. he's always telling me about the girls he is with.. outside the last semester of high school he was the first guy i crushed on. point goes to lusty attraction!

 

[thelaw18489]

I think lust at first sight is often confused with love by romantics

totally agree why does it seem every lust at first sight i ever have is with a straight soccer player (older then 21 not under 21 nothing craddle robbing lol) they are just so dreamy

 

[Seasoned]

Sometimes when we want something fantasy kicks in to help us justify the foolish, the unattainable or the dangerous.

 

[loveguys72]

You're confusing lust with love. Lust is immediate physical attraction to satisfy an immediate physical desire. Love takes care, nurturing, and a lot of time and effort.

 

[sed4561]

I definitely know what you mean. It took me a second to fall for the guy. I think it is one of the things I regret the most in my life because I have not come out yet and he is clearly straight. He was also in my city only for a few weeks which made me feel worse after he left.

I am sure that what I felt was not lust, because I could not imagine having sex with him while masturbating. I believe that there is love in first sight; it is just the worse thing that could possibly happen because you do not know the person.

 

[hanzosword]

This only happened to me, sort of, with a girl when I was in high school. It wasn't first sight because we were a year apart and were going to the same school all our lives in a small town lol. One day I just fell completely in love with her when we had a 2nd class together. I don't know what triggered it then but I felt like I was hit by cupid's arrow! By the time that study hall class was over I loved everything about this girl and I felt like I knew her forever. We had never had a conversation before that day but I felt like she was a soulmate or something. The feeling lasted for years after that. The funny thing was I knew she felt the same way at the same time. She confirmed it with her body language and her attention on me and small gestures.

I have no idea why that happened because we never got together but I felt more alive than I had ever been being so in love with her. It must be the best feeling in the world to feel like that for somebody and for them to feel the same about you then you be together! I sure hope this same thing can happen with a guy one day lol.

 

[subsonic]

I'm a sappy romantic, so yeah I believe in it.. Haven't been fortunate enough to experience it though. Maybe one day..

 

[TX-Beau]

Hmmmm, OK, people define love differently. Personally I think it's insane to think you are "in love," with someone you don't even know.

I just don't see how that's possible. Because I define love as something deeply meaningful that requires that you actually know the guy you're dealing with.

Then there is this, as gay men there is always the specter of the unattainable guy syndrome coloring your emotions. For example, the last time I crushed hard on a guy I didn't know, it was because I was afraid to go find guys I could actually have.

Been awhile, but oh yeah I remember that.