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Love The Sinner, Hate The Sin

Treborf

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Hypothetical situation: Let's say you come out to a straight friend of yours. He says that, while he doesn't accept or approve of your new lifestyle, he still wants to remain friends.

Is that OK with you?
 
It depends,though I would be disappointed he felt that way.If he were actively trying to steer me away from other gay friends and acquaintances and trying to convert me or preach celibacy,I could no longer be his friend.He can only learn about what gays are really like,how in every other way but having a sexual attraction to the same sex gays are no different from straights.He may have been brought up in a very narrow-thinking,very conservative home,so he needs to see me for who i really am as much as I see him as he is,ignorant and misguided,but still caring for meas a friend.It's like a family member who feels the same way but you had been close to.You don't give up on this person,you still can feel great affection because you share so much history ,but you can't change who you are to fit their expectations.What happens from there is up to him.
 
I think this is a lot better thing to be told than a lot of stuff that could be told.
 
Treborf said:
Hypothetical situation: Let's say you come out to a straight friend of yours. He says that, while he doesn't accept or approve of your new lifestyle, he still wants to remain friends.

Is that OK with you?
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Yup - absolutely

I like honesty and prefer it to something I want to hear that isn't true

I was actually travelling with a str8 friend of mine this weekend and we encountered a lot of gay people (gay convention believe it or not). My friend made several disparaging comments about gays. While I knew he was conservative, he was more over the top then I imagined. I'm certain that if in time I tell him (less likely after this weekend) he might say something exactly like the above - probably the best I could hope for. And it would be ok.
 
actually yes... thats the reaction i got from a few of my friends... one of my good friends sent me http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huC2F-nS62A to say his opinion on it... i actualy teared up a bit because i was so worried about losing him as a friend because i knew he was pretty religiously conservative... but he was WAY better then a lot of people i knew which is why i just wanna hug him :)

but yeah its totally cool... my policy its totally cool if your not cool with gays as long as you don't judge people by it... at least not personalitys... *Shrug*
 
I'd be fine with it as long as he didn't wish to change it. And he if said he didn't approve of the new lifestyle, that may not mean he doesn't approve of you being gay. I friend's whos lifestyle I don't approve of, they know it, we're still friends.
 
No because this is who I am and I expect my friends to accept for and love me for who I am. I would probably consider them my friend still but definately not a very close one.
 
I have a friend whom I've known for over thirty years . My sexual orientation never came up in all those years , during which we have slept in the same bed , taken showers together, lived in the same one bedroom apartment with two beds in bedroom , .... and I was GodFather to his two daughters.
However; in March, I was staying with him while in Ohio on business .. and .. he ask me outright if I was Gay . I replied yes; and that was the end of it .. we went to bed that night in his bed ..
A few weeks ago he ask if he could move down here to Florida and live in my home ... of course, I said yes ... he is due here within the next couple of weeks .
 
I think it would depend on the person, the quality of our friendship and the way in which they disapproved. If someone disapproved of my sexuality, but still managed to respect me, then sure.
 
Man do I hate this phrase....

As long as they didn't try to convert me, that'd be alright. If nothing changed and such.
 
Ask my parents...they stand by that "hate the sin" plan and I do not think that it is okay. What a shame that people live by that mentality...I do understand society, but for such Christian people, they sure do a fair amount of JUDGING.
 
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