Lust vs Envy?

[whatdidyousay]

I've been wanting to ask this question for awhile and wanna get you guys thoughts on this.

So yeah...

Is there anyone else out there that when you see a really attractive guy, nice body, nice face, whatever draws you in, that you feel envious?

Like I've got no problem recognizing when a guy is hot, but my mind never progresses to thoughts of wanting to have sex with a guy, no matter how hot. But it's almost like I'd love to be him. I never want to do anything with him, but the reaction is instantly wanting to almost step into his skin, which I know sounds very strange.

Am I looney tunes?

 

[PerpetuallyHard312]

No...I know exactly what you're saying as I'm sure a lot of other guys do.

 

[whatdidyousay]

No...I know exactly what you're saying as I'm sure a lot of other guys do.

Thank you so much! That does help, seriously. Makes me feel less crazy.

 

[PerpetuallyHard312]

lol You're welcome! The only difference is that I DO want to have sex with them Unless of course they are a total douchebag....then that would change things...I'd still love his body but his personality could go to hell lol

 

[chris2k]

Same here! I get jealous and insecure about myself when I see hot guys. Its really bad at the gym, sometimes I can't even finish what I was working on and I just leave

 

[PerpetuallyHard312]

That's why I'm glad I work out at home...I won't go to a gym until I feel more comfortable with myself...I'm saving my money for that P90X I've heard so much about. And welcome to JUB Chris!

 

[Krakenbwool]

I've always wondered that, too. I wonder what the gay/bi perspective on this is.

 

[PerpetuallyHard312]

Well you've already read 2 gay guy's perspective lol I think those of us that experience what the OP experiences differs in only one way: We may want to have sex with said guy. That's just what I think.

 

[stevexxx]

what's wrong with being in your own skin?

 

[man1lover]

well stevexxx, since you are "staight" and not gay, you obviously don't know what it is like to feel insecure about yourself and wish you were as confident as masculine as the cute straight guy in your life.

 

[stevexxx]

well stevexxx, since you are "staight" and not gay, you obviously don't know what it is like to feel insecure about yourself and wish you were as confident as masculine as the cute straight guy in your life.

dude it's all psychological, i bet your a nice guy and from what i see a little shy. I bet people find you attractive with a nice personality, yea you may not hear it everyday but people probably think it. Don't be afraid of people think, might think, might say, might do, just be confident and vocal. if you try to be something totally different from you, then you lose your individuality and respect. So my advice, take it easy, be mellow, and be vocal.

 

[versatileplayer]

I've been wanting to ask this question for awhile and wanna get you guys thoughts on this.

So yeah...

Is there anyone else out there that when you see a really attractive guy, nice body, nice face, whatever draws you in, that you feel envious?

Like I've got no problem recognizing when a guy is hot, but my mind never progresses to thoughts of wanting to have sex with a guy, no matter how hot. But it's almost like I'd love to be him. I never want to do anything with him, but the reaction is instantly wanting to almost step into his skin, which I know sounds very strange.

Am I looney tunes?

I think most straight men who tell me that they can't tell when other men are sexy - are either lying to me - or they are so queer that they have pushed themselves into complete denial.

I think today - more and more straight men are actually much better adjusted, and can admit - they know when other men are sexy.

So the next question is - does your dick tingle? Get hard?

I'm pretty gay - still fuck women - but pretty gay. Yeah, when a guy is super hot - I wish I could look like him. Who doesn't see a hot dude in a porno with ten thick inches and wish he could be that dude! But at the same time, my cock is rock hard, and I would suck that stud's dick or bend over for him - or jam my dick in him.

 

[versatileplayer]

dude it's all psychological, i bet your a nice guy and from what i see a little shy. I bet people find you attractive with a nice personality, yea you may not hear it everyday but people probably think it. Don't be afraid of people think, might think, might say, might do, just be confident and vocal. if you try to be something totally different from you, then you lose your individuality and respect. So my advice, take it easy, be mellow, and be vocal.

Yeah some guys are confident and some aren't its the same for women - some are confident and aggressive - some are shy.

 

[versatileplayer]

what's wrong with being in your own skin?

If the other guy thinks you're sexy - that's all that matters.

 

[whatdidyousay]

I think most straight men who tell me that they can't tell when other men are sexy - are either lying to me - or they are so queer that they have pushed themselves into complete denial. I think today - more and more straight men are actually much better adjusted, and can admit - they know when other men are sexy.

Yeah dude, that's a damn lie. I use to say that same thing. Every human being is capable of recognizing when somebody else is sexy, or hot. I mean look at all the men's magazines, or the underwear sleeves; male sex appeal is what's used to get men to buy product. It's just that recognizing it doesn't mean you want to fuck it.

But yeah, a lot of guys are much more comfortable admitting the obvious than they use to be. At least I've noticed a big change. Just look at David Beckam, or Tom Brady; a ton of guys admit to recognizing that those two guys have it going on.

So the next question is - does your dick tingle? Get hard? ...But at the same time, my cock is rock hard, and I would suck that stud's dick or bend over for him - or jam my dick in him.

Nope. A dude could be chiseled from head to toe, with a cock the size of a small country, and the face of David himself, and that's not gonna make me want to do anything with him.

what's wrong with being in your own skin?

Dude, we all have insecurities in one way or another. Me? I'd guess most people would call me very attractive, at least I get told that a lot by different people, strangers even. But I grew up really overweight, and that destroys you if you let it, and I let it. So even though I lost the weight, built a nice body, some of those old demons dude are so hard to fight. It's sometimes like I can't see the progress Ive made, and no matter how much people tell me that I look really good, it's hard to accept. When you're dealing with insecurity everybody seems to have it better. I know that's not logical, but its the truth!

 

[versatileplayer]

Yeah dude, that's a damn lie. I use to say that same thing. Every human being is capable of recognizing when somebody else is sexy, or hot. I mean look at all the men's magazines, or the underwear sleeves; male sex appeal is what's used to get men to buy product. It's just that recognizing it doesn't mean you want to fuck it.

But yeah, a lot of guys are much more comfortable admitting the obvious than they use to be. At least I've noticed a big change. Just look at David Beckam, or Tom Brady; a ton of guys admit to recognizing that those two guys have it going on.



Nope. A dude could be chiseled from head to toe, with a cock the size of a small country, and the face of David himself, and that's not gonna make me want to do anything with him.




Dude, we all have insecurities in one way or another. Me? I'd guess most people would call me very attractive, at least I get told that a lot by different people, strangers even. But I grew up really overweight, and that destroys you if you let it, and I let it. So even though I lost the weight, built a nice body, some of those old demons dude are so hard to fight. It's sometimes like I can't see the progress Ive made, and no matter how much people tell me that I look really good, it's hard to accept. When you're dealing with insecurity everybody seems to have it better. I know that's not logical, but its the truth!

So it sounds like you're a really well adjusted straight guy....

The skinny little twink guys do nothing for you?