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Lying About How Many People You've Slept With

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Do you think it's wrong to lie about the # of people you've slept with? I mean, as long as you're clean and get checked regularly. Even if you're not clean, as long as you still get checked regularly and take care of yourself and any diseases you might have.

I found myself sleeping around a lot this past summer cause I was at a low in my life but I've changed. I'm still embarrassed to tell people the truth. !oops!

Thoughts?
 
You should just tell the truth and if you feel the need to offer an explanation say this:
I found myself sleeping around a lot this past summer cause I was at a low in my life but I've changed.
Telling the truth will help the person get to know you better and understand you're coming from -- and that's the very point of asking and answering questions. Deceit only puts distance between the other person and yourself (your true self, that is).

If you're talking to someone with whom you don't want to know/understand you better, then just brush the question off with a joke, or tell the person it's none of his beeswax.
 
Do you think it's wrong to lie about the # of people you've slept with? I mean, as long as you're clean and get checked regularly. Even if you're not clean, as long as you still get checked regularly and take care of yourself and any diseases you might have.

I found myself sleeping around a lot this past summer cause I was at a low in my life but I've changed. I'm still embarrassed to tell people the truth. !oops!

Thoughts?

Ideally you want to get to the point where you can simply answer the question when asked and tell whoever asks the truth, assuming that it's someone you are interested in. If the person is going to be judgmental about that, it's probably better to find out sooner rather later, so you can decide if you want to be with someone like that.
 
It's no one's biz really. Do you ask your boyfriends how many guys they've had sex with? Frankly, it's your own business, not your boyfriend, husband, or whatever. I've found that those who are concerned with the number of guys their partner has slept with are damaged, emotionally unhealthy, homos. *shrug*
 
I have never bothered to count how many people I have slept with, and/or how many times I have had sex with one individual. So, if I were ever asked this question, I would not be able to provide a figure. Rough estimate... probably - but hell, your guess is as good as mine.
 
I don't think it's wrong to lie. There are a million sitcom episodes about this.

One person has a very high number and the other has a low number and theres's serious tension.

Most importantly though, I don't see why it should be a huge issue.


My response would be close to the following


I am not pregnant
nor am I diseased.
I am not a virgin
nor am I a whore...
What about you?
 
I don't need to lie about how many people I've slept with. It is 4, I don't care if jocky guys would make fun of me, it is not about quantity but quality.
 
It's not a question you have to answer, but you shouldn't lie about it if you decide to.
 
Don't see any reason why you should lie about the number of guys you have slept with. This just means you are experienced.

Let's say you lied about this to a guy, then your relationship with him turns serious. He learns later on that you lied to him. Then what? What else have you lied about he will ask. Then the problem just gets bigger from there. So, just tell the truth from the beginning.
 
If you can remember how many dudes you slept with, it can't be that big of a number. I wouldn't have a clue how many guys I've had sex with. Are you also counting bjs, handy etc. If you are then the number probably doubles.

Just remeber, at the end of the day, a slut is just someone who has had more sex than you.
 
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