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Male Cheerleader Struggling To Come Out The Closet

nguypete said:
Not to sound like a little cuntress, but do you seriously think people think you're straight?

You're a MALE CHEERLEADER, talk about getting stereotyped.

One piece of advice, get over the "straight acting" bull shit. You're a fag, you like dick -- you'll never be more straight than the metro/urban hipster that eats pussy.

This is probably the reaction you're going to get from your female teammates: Honey, I know.
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And I know that I practically live in a stereotype, but I will be the one to say that there are a lot of straight male cheerleaders.

And like I said before, I don't think I'm straight, I know I'm gay. I know I love dick. I would willingly fuck a dude right now (sorry for the vulgarity). I know I'm gay, but I just had a problem with coming out. I finally did it today to two people.

Story: I told one of the senior cheerleaders (female). It was a few minutes before practice and I told her that I wanted to tell her something. She walked over with a smile on her face. I looked down at her, but I was scared...of a tiny woman who was about 117 pounds and 5 feet 4 inches! She asked me if I was okay and I just let it out. I said, "so-and-so, I'm gay."

Her jaw dropped open and she had a HUGE smile on her face! She went on bouncing and screaming to herself as if she never knew a gay guy before. She told me that I was the first person to ever tell her something like this. She said that she never would have guessed it and that I am "a cute gay guy". She asked me if I had told anyone else and I said no and to not tell anyone else and that she was the first person I told. She got even more happy and said we should hang out later on at a gay bar (in Kentucky?).


Story 2: I told one of my close friends (not a cheerleader, but male). Basically he was pretty open to it. He was a bit startled by it but said. "It's cool. dude. Just do you." I told him not to tell anyone as well and he promised. He was a bit curious and started asking me questions about the feeling of being gay, when did I accept it and when did I first find out. He seemed pretty educated and not ignorant. I'm just glad he didn't ask something like, "When did you turn gay?"

So, yeah, I told two people and plan on coming out to more and more as time goes by. I'm a lot more comfortable and am honestly ready to go out and FUCK.
 
Oh Dear God girl.

You're a cheerleader.

No one thinks you're straight.
 
I guess I would've missed the part that you live in Kentucky, for that I feel sorry for you but congrats on coming out -- you'll realize after awhile, you just won't care anymore if people find out if you're gay or not, because your real friends will be your friends and if they aren't, there's thousands of people around you who are willing to be.
 
Good for you for taking the first step in coming out. We all take a different path to accepting who we are, and revealing our real selves to the world. Some do it as teen- agers, some come out in their 20's, 30's, 40's, and even later. Unfortunately, some never do. I'm not going to stand in judgement of any one's decision to come out (or not) at any age. Coming out in my early 30's was the right choice for me.

It's a complicated internal process we go through, and the path is not always smooth, but congratulations on taking the first step in letting your friends (and maybe next, your family) know the "real" you. And if you are really lucky you will meet some amazing guys, and have some great experiences on the quest to find love in your life.(!)(!)(!)
 
I find the contrast in member opinions amusing.

You have people saying you can perceive others of being homosexual by characteristics other then sexual advancements.

Then you have others arguing that means nothing.

Then you have people blatantly telling you that you're automatically assumed as homosexual just because of your cheer-leading.

People really shouldn't put others into stereotypes. Most of us are gay yet I doubt we are all cheerleaders :P

Congrats on coming out/ Being who you are carefree! :D
 
Then you have people blatantly telling you that you're automatically assumed as homosexual just because of your cheer-leading.

People really shouldn't put others into stereotypes. Most of us are gay yet I doubt we are all cheerleaders :P
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Why, you're so very, very right.

But. Whatever. The automatic assumption by the vast majority of viewers is that male cheerleaders are all homos.

Whether they all are or not is not the point.

It should make it easier though for them to be open about their sexuality since it isn't exactly like rugby where there is a hyper macho gonzo aura around it and where homophobia is likely a lot more rampant.
 
rareboy said:
Why, you're so very, very right.

But. Whatever. The automatic assumption by the vast majority of viewers is that male cheerleaders are all homos.

Whether they all are or not is not the point.

It should make it easier though for them to be open about their sexuality since it isn't exactly like rugby where there is a hyper macho gonzo aura around it and where homophobia is likely a lot more rampant.
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True.

Cheerleading is a bit more "open-minded" than most sports are. Thank goodness I didn't take part in football.
 
Be yourself. Be confident. You don't owe anyone any explanations about your sexuality. Everyone has their own insecurities and hang-ups. Don't give other people the importance of knowing your personal business. That head cheerleader is not an "open book" about her personal stuff. If you want to mention "in passing" that your interested in guys, fine, but it's not really that big of a deal. Just be yourself.
 
I agree with andy12. A lot of people might perceive different things about us based on our appearance, our job, or any number of things. It doesn't mean that those perceptions are correct though.
 
Lol ... well, so much for my suggestion of you posting 387 nudes of yourself in various stages of arousal in the "Amateur Showcase" thread! (dagnabbit!)

Coming out is a very personal experience, and I congratulate you your first tentative steps. I came out to everybody, and I do mean everybody as being bi when I was 17 and gay at 22. For me it was more for "shock" value than it was to be open and honest. I'm probably still technically bi, as certain hot chicks get me hard just talking with them, but I just don't go there any more.

Stereotypes are not as unfounded as you might want to believe ... they became "stereotypes" for a reason, but they're definitely not universal. Lol ... I put the "Hey Baby" on one hottie (male) cheerleader at San Diego State when I was attending there, and much to my chagrin, he was STRAIGHT! :-O :-D Lol ... live and learn and/or nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Personally, I would NEVER "out" anybody, as I respect that individual decision too much, but in the same breath, I don't date closet-cases. Please, no offense intended. I just can't be with someone that's embarrassed about himself, or much less me.
 
I don't really have advice i just wanted to comment. I remember a few years ago there was reality show about the U of K cheerleaders called "Cheerleader U". It gave me a new respect for cheerleaders. They really are athletes. Like super athletes. and they work harder than most other collegiate athletes and don't get the respect sadly.

Also I remember the male cheerleaders were all really hot. They had bodies like football players. Most of them were clearly gay at the time. There was only one straight guy at the time. So weird that you say all the other guys are straight. Maybe they are ll like you.
 
Congratulations on finally coming out. It only gets easier from here.

This thread has evolved into several interesting discussions. Though, most people have a knee jerk reaction to associating male cheerleaders with being gay- for whatever reason.
rareboy said:
But. Whatever. The automatic assumption by the vast majority of viewers is that male cheerleaders are all homos.

Whether they all are or not is not the point.

It should make it easier though for them to be open about their sexuality since it isn't exactly like rugby where there is a hyper macho gonzo aura around it and where homophobia is likely a lot more rampant.
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Agree. Some people know, some will not. Now it's time to start dating, I think there are guys on your squad that may like you.
 
Congrats on the starting the process of coming out!! (*8*)

A couple things I'd like to point out:

1. Your female friend wasn't surprised that you were gay, she was surprised because you were the first person who confided something like that to her. There's a difference.

2. Your male friend wasn't surprised that you were gay, he was surprised that you just suddenly dumped the news on him out of nowhere. Think about that.

3. I agree that everyone assumes you're gay if you're a male cheerleader.

4. I agree that there are many, many non-sexual clues to a man's gayness. The hairiest, muscleiest, bearish men *still* come across as gay after you know them for more than 5 minutes.

Again, congrats on coming out! It's very liberating!
 
I used to get stopped at doors to gay bars. "Do you know what kind of bar this is?" It always felt awkward. People would expect a heavy per centage of cheerleaders would be gay. But that doesn't matter as we come out one person at a time all by ourselves. It is an act of courage.

Unless a person was close to me, I didn't necessarily come out to them directly. Sometimes it's been by the topic of discussion.

I'm glad you are coming out to those close to you. You must feel better already. And even if it seems that there are no other gay cheerleaders on your squad, it may just mean they aren't ready to come out.
 
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