Married Guys who fool around

[steve621]

I think it's more complicated than that. I don't look for anonymous sex but other marrieds that think like me. I think we are looking for a sexual outlet that we are not getting at home. But we don't want to change are otherwise happy lives. I know this might sound too easy but that's how I feel.

 

[thewiz]

Sometimes it can be cultural; sometimes I think it is denial that someone is gay but instead sees "bisexual" as more tolerant.

I met a guy once who I went to the movies, we went out to dinner, and then one night he came to my place. We had a glass of wine in the hot tub, adjourned to the bedroom where he sucked me; I sucked him and then he asked if I would fuck him.

Not wanting to disappoint, I began kissing his body and worked up to his lips but he said he didn't kiss. I was a bit puzzled but he did enjoy getting fucked (it was his first time). When we finished, he said he was married and didn't kiss because, "that's gay." WTF?!?! I guess sucking, kissing all over, talking, and getting fucked was not gay but kissing was?!!?

I've talked to him since (but I said I don't go with married guys for many, many reasons). He is firm in that he is not gay; he just likes to get fucked (and apparently likes to suck because he got very good at it as the night had gone on the first time!)

 

[sonny10305]

I dono, but for me the married dude I have been seeing for a while now says he is just in it for the b/j.
His wife does not like doin that. (crazy bitch)
Or so he says
Don't really care, as long as I can keep gettin that for as long as he wants/needs it.

 

[sonny10305]

^ While I don't agree with what your married bud is doing behind his wife's back.......he's damn lucky to have a guy like YOU around for the.......cough.......GOOD stuff....... .......

Yeah I know, it used to bother me too. In fact I knew his wife
before I knew him
But what am I gonna do, the dude needs his dick sucked from time to time and his ole lady hates doing that.
Now keep in mind his wife knows I am into guys, and she knows her husband and I hang out, especially during baseball season, so maybe she has done that math and does not care. I mean maybe she figgers if it keeps her husband from nagging her about going down on him, it's all good.

 

[steve621]

I dono, but for me the married dude I have been seeing for a while now says he is just in it for the b/j.
His wife does not like doin that. (crazy bitch)
Or so he says
Don't really care, as long as I can keep gettin that for as long as he wants/needs it.

my wife won't suck either, and I think other men in that situation get that

 

[sonny10305]

I find myself having sex with lots of guys wearing wedding bands or signs they have just taken it off (you still see it in the skin of their finger).

I don't care.

Yeah but there is something very hot about feeling his wedding ring rub against me as he guides my mouth up and down his cock.

 

[steve621]

(So, if I understand, you are not having anonymous and random sex, but rather you have a few married male friends who share your interest in having no-strings attached sex with one another on a somewhat regular basis.

If I'm understanding correctly (and I may not be), do emotions ever get in the way? Do you get attachments that are more than sexual?)

Palin,
to answer your question - no emotions don't get in the way - we are friends - we have that but nothing more

Steve

 

[TheGM27]

I’ve given blow jobs to a married man for about a year now, and he happens to be married to my cousin. I first met him when I was 15 and immediately fell in “lust” with him. Prior to them getting married, they split up for a while, and he and I remained friends, and that in itself was controversial. He was the first person I came out too, and even before the first blow job, a lot of our conversations were sexual and graphic. I don’t think he is bisexual, I don’t think he is a closeted homosexual, I just think he is a man who enjoys a blow job when he can get it. Do I feel guilty, sometimes, but it takes two to tango.

 

[Joe King Jay]

Not wanting to disappoint, I began kissing his body and worked up to his lips but he said he didn't kiss. I was a bit puzzled but he did enjoy getting fucked (it was his first time). When we finished, he said he was married and didn't kiss because, "that's gay." WTF?!?! I guess sucking, kissing all over, talking, and getting fucked was not gay but kissing was?!!?

WTF is right! Where did you find this guy?


I agree with dicklipschitz on this issue. As long as your significant other knows about it and is okay with it, then no harm done.

No one else can tell you how to run your relationship.

lugus15

I think your comments are very immature on this subject matter. Your moral believes aren't any better then anyone else's here. This is a grey area not a black and white one.

Also, there is no correlation between parenting skills and sexual habits. Your point about STD's is also brazen. How do you know they aren't practicing safe sex?


Final thoughts: As long as both parties know about it, talk it through and set the rules; why not?

 

[subobj]

C'mon guys. you should know better than to feed the troll.

(dicklipschitz, btw, I like the arrangement you and your wife have -- it's great that you can be so honest and open with one another -- that level of honesty & communication isn't easy, IMO).

 

[kingzulu]

it is so wrong for these married guys to be cheating on their wives....thats why i hate being a bisexual cause some of these bisexuals are so wrong, its wrong wrong trust me guys theres a lot of these married men that do do this i get a lot of passes and i i have my gut feelings about others i think its distasteful nad wrong

 

[chance1]

seems to me that unless the wife is cool with it - maybe she fools around too? ................

just doesn't seem right if she is not in the know and ok with it

seems very dishonest and can't imagine that working out for her

u can't have it all

that's the deal

my two cents

 

[PER4MER]

At least you acknowledge being judgmental. It's very becoming of you. Wanna try for moralistic, insulting and ignorant now? Oh, wait ... you've already done that.

Bravo, dick!

I couldn't have said it better.

Someone needs to get off his high horse.

 

[boy0boy]

Is it just me or are these Bi married types usually at least in their thirty's or over. Maybe it really is a social thing, where more guys nowadays can more readily accept being full on gay than before.

Everybody just needs happiness, sure people will most likely get hurt in a dishonest fling on the side, but also as some of you have said it is purely honest and your wife knows about it. I just feel sorry for the boys you once where that didnt feel that coming to terms with your sexual identity was something you needed to explore. If that is the case, because I do believe some people could be truly bi, just seems not often is it really so.

 

[theFallenGod]

Why get married... to 1 person if your just going to lead a single mans life....

Marriage is about commitment... and having sex with other people is not very committed...unless your committed to giving your wife an std...

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Lots of people are bi and it's not rare at all; but they just consider themselves to be either gay or hetero since that's how they've been programmed to think by society that you can only be gay or hetero or in some cases they're closeted about being bi so they consider themselves to be either gay or hetero.

Someone who likes both genders sexually in ANY degree is Bisexual. Also it's not like you're half gay or half hetero it's completely different and you really can't compare it with being either purely gay or hetero.

People will just assume that a man and a woman who are in a relationship together are both heterosexual and that when two men are in a relationship together that they're homosexual and not bisexual.

Aaahh...you beat me to it; your answer is very well-constructed, by the way. In addition to what Mr. Woof has said, many bisexual men spend their youth chasing women, not men, for a few reasons:

1) The fear of being labeled gay; guys do not want to deal with the stigma. As men become older, many often become more secure with themselves, simply become apathetic, or both.

2) Mid-life crisis-Having sex with men becomes an act that they want to experience before they die.

3) Marriage-Since they are going to be married to a woman for life, they are always going to have access to the female anatomy; this is why these men decide to pursue others men.

This is probably why you see men who are older and often married pursuing men than younger men, b0b.

 

[theFallenGod]

The first part of your comment is fair. However, some people believe love and sex can be mutually exclusive. For some, sex can be merely recreational. It doesn't mean we're not committed to our married partners. If you understand that, great. If not, well, that's your hangup, not mine.

The second part of your comment is way off base, sir. Just like everything else in life, you gotta be careful out there. Don't use such a wide brush when you're painting your pictures.

Ok while you make a valid point what I don't understand is why can't you have recreational sex WITH your spouse rather than separate from your spouse... again.. why get married if you're just going to have so many others in your life as well? The way I always understood marriage is that you are forming a bond with someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with to the exclusion of others.

My boyfriend and I have nights when we spend the entire night making love... but we also have nights when its quick sex just get off ... we understand the difference and don't need to go outside of ourselves to have different types of sexual intimacy.

as for the STD's .... Proven fact the safest you can be is either monogamously coupled or abstinence... now that being said... even with condoms, (which very few people use during oral sex) there is still a risk involved... you can still catch anything from herpes to HIV ....on that note.... how would you feel if one of you brought something like that home to the other?

 

[Piquechampion]

^^ You know what??? You´re right, I have been very judgemental and mean. I apologize. Whatever somobody does with their private life, it´s that: PRIVATE and PERSONAL. Nobody else should judge em.

But I just can´t help it, if I knew that my father slept around with other guys or women, I would be very, very disapointed and hurt. Blame it on my Christian upbringing or whatever, but thats how I feel. Sorry

Btw, I´m sorry too for questioning your parenting skills. Who am I to judge your life right?? But, and this goes for all married (whether gay or bi) who have kids and sleep around, I understand if they wanna keep their sexual life private from their families (everybody´s circumstances are different), but they DO HAVE the moral obligation to teach their children about being open minded and tolerance for gay/bi people. That´s the one moral obligation they do owe the gay community, to raise tolerenat and accepting persons.

Just my sincere, off my high horse $0.02

 

[Piquechampion]

In the JUB community, I think you'll find most of us are open-minded and tolerant and that they pass these characteristics along wherever they go -- to their kids, to their friends, to strangers. Indeed, that's an obligation everybody owes to everybody, for the most part -- not just the gay community. The key is remembering to practice it.

Cheers,
DL

Well if you teach your own kids respect and tolerance, then that says it all: you are indeed a good man

Btw, in your group (I guess you have one) of married swingers, are bi men who are in a relationship with other men welcome or only those who are married to women??

 

[Xpione]

Well, a gay man sexual desire lies within another, so a woman can't satisfy him. Plus men are horny, so he needs another man