Married or Committed Fuck buds......

[Fastdavy]

No,there are too many demands upon the other person,too much history in their other life that can never be resolved.Who wants to be #2?

 

[rotary]

I'd have to say no. If they're messing around on their boyfriend/girlfriend behind their back, they've got some moral issues to deal with, so I'd stay away.

 

[marcde]

No way - I would take his partner into consideration and that would immediately rule out any lustful thoughts I had - it would be the same answer from me, if he had a gay partner.

 

[antdak]

NO! It is not fair to the innocent partner. How would you feel, if you found out that your partner was boinking someone else on the side. No matter what the situation is, he made a commitment, and it should be honored!

 

[Jayfkme]

It is difficult for a married guy to cope with his urges to be with a man and at the same time be responsible to those he loves - wife, children etc. Some married guys often only discover their true sexualities long after they have been married and have children. I feel it is more irresponsible for a man to leave his wife and family then to have a sexual relationship with another male. There are no winners in this whole scenario, but it is hell on earth for a married guy to cope with his "gay" desires. It takes alot of bravery to come out in some parts of this world.

 

[smakelijkus]

not if you have a conscious.

 

[Andreus]

I dont sleep with other peoples men, and i dont care if their partner is male or female

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I would not consider any kind of relationship. Nope. A dude with a committment is a dude with a committment.

Everything else is open for debate. I do not wish to judge him or his motives. If he wants to have a FB and I feel the same, I would go on with our plan. He remains responsible for his actions. I am neither his guardian nor the embodiment of his consciuosness.

Sex is meant to be fun. Rite?

SC

 

[cozmik]

I dont sleep with other peoples men, and i dont care if their partner is male or female

Same here. I don't care what the situition is, if someone already has a partner (b/f, husband, wife, whatever) then I won't have anything to do with them (past friendship, that is)

 

[Croynan]

not if you have a conscious.

This individual has just hit the nail on the head. One need not go any further with this question and or thread. The ultimate answer has been given, regardless if you are the "innocent" in the park or Academia. The issue comes down to one single word - plus you could include maybe morality and or sensitvity. Go for the three words and one could probably not go wrong. (Also it might depend on one's avatar. )

Sounds like "Sunday in the Park with George." music and lyrics - Stephen Sondheim

"Sunday" from "Sunday in the Park with George"


Chorus: Sunday, by the blue purple yellow red water
on the green purple yellow red grass
Let us pass through our perfect park
pausing on a Sunday

By the cool blue triangular water
on the soft green elliptical grass
as we pass through arrangements of shadow
toward the verticals of trees
Forever . . .

By the blue purple yellow red water
on the green orange violet mass of the grass
In our perfect park
made of flecks of light
and dark
and parasols

People strolling through the trees
of a small suburban park
on an island in the river
on and ordinary Sunday
Sunday . . .
Sunday . . . .

 

[eddielee]

Committing adultery is the same as stealing. You're taking something from someone that doesn't belong to you. It would be wrong if I had sex with a committed man. It's very disrespectful to his spouse or life partner. I've had married men hit on me. Once I found out they were married, any potential relationship ended. My Father cheated on my Mother so adultery is a pet peeve of mine.

 

[69Strat]

IMO, being involved with someone who is already in a relationship creates some heavy karma that is not worth it over the long run.

 

[bigdaddyhorse]

sadly, a lot of this seems to be the norm.

 

[MidnightPrism]

I don't sleep with other people's men and I'll beat a bitch down if they sleep with mine.

 

[RationalLunacy]

Let me tell you a little story. A long, long time ago, when I was a handsome young slut, I happened to run across a hot guy with whom I had frequent sex. Unbeknownst to me, he had gonorrhea, and very generously shared it with me. During our torrid love affair (which ended when I told him I'd caught VD from him), I met a married man who was on vacation and begged me to come back to his hotel room with him. We only had sex once. Afterward, he told me he was married with kids, and I was the first man he'd had sex with since he was in college. When I later found out I had gonorrhea, I sent him a letter telling him to go to his doctor and get checked for STDs. Not only did he have it, too -- he had given it to his wife. I later got a postcard from him that they had divorced. I don't think I have to spell out the moral of that story, do I?

 

[Lube]

Actually, a gay cheating with a married guy is worse than a straight married guy sleeping with another woman.

In the latter case, you have infidelity and being #2. That's about it. (As if that weren't enough!)

In the former case, you've got this closeted twirp who won't leave his current relationship even though there's nothing to it. Why? So he'll look good to family and friends.

There are so many issues there, I wouldn't touch a married man with a 10-foot pole. Even if it were mine.

And, hell, if I can get divorced, so can he. I'll live my own life, not society's fantasy of the life I "should" be living.

 

[ahotjock71]

Married men are T-R-O-U-B-L-E. Period.

 

[mac_twck]

Cheating is bad karma.....remember what goes around comes around to bite you in the ass.....at the worst possible moment.

 

[justsimon]

If someone wants to cheat I'm not going to help them.

 

[twardmo]

I hate to say it, but if he was hot i'd probably do it.