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Masculine Men In The Closet

Eh I would also say it is generally easier for masculine men to stay in the closet.

I mean think about it, if you are relatively flamboyant growing up, everyone will just assume and expect you to be gay and so you really would have no choice.

I was masculine and so it was just easier to not say anything and avoid the topic, which is generally an awkward topic :) I mean now I am out to my friends and family and its no big deal but in hindsight I can understand the rational being in that situation
 
halubtsi said:
I think flood22 has a point though. What do we mean by "out?" My definition of out is when you stop pretending to be straight. When you don't feel ashamed of who you are.

I consider myself out because when I speak to someone, I don't apply the "gay filter" anymore. In other words, if the topic of conversation is say, relationships, even if I'm with a group of acquaintances (ie. friends of friends) I'll use my own experiences. "When my boyfriend and I were together..." rather than "When I was dating someone..."

I don't go around screaming and yelling that I'm gay. I'm considered "out" because I'm not pretending to be straight.

bluedragonfly, if you're happy living in the closet, then don't come out. But at some point if you start to feel like you're living a lie, or that you're trapped in some kind of box because parents, family and friends are pressuring you to date women and/or marry...you may want to come out of the closet. Until then, enjoy the closet and its comforts. It's hard to leave the closet because it really is comfortable. I only left the closet because I didn't want to spend the rest of my life alone.
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You cant say to gay men to stay in the closet.

If its ok for you to came out.Its ok for other gay men to came out also.Being in the closet is wrong.When you are in the closet you dont tell who you really are.So you lie only to fit with straight people.Only to be considered normal.Its not worth it.

If gay masculine men stay in the closet.Its like if they dont have pride and are ashamed to be gay.So somehow they dont dare and they are coward.

Gay masculine men cant stay in the closet only because they hates stereotypes and dont wants to be linked to them.Like it or not gay men will always be stereotyped and straight people will often spreading these stereotypes.So its better for masculine gay men to deal with it.

Im masculine and i dont care about stereotypes.I know that most gay men are masculine.

If masculine gay men dont came out of the closet.They will be considered as weak and men who are afraid of beign who they are.

It looks like most of the time that gay masculine men stay in the closet its because they dont wants to be linked to stereotypes.Gay masculine men only have to deal with it.Its not that hard.If gay masculine men knows who they are.They should not care about stereotypes.You know that stereotypes are not representative of gay men anyway.So why masculine gay men should care about stereotypes?

Its better to be out of the closet than be trapped in the closet.

IN THE CLOSET = LYING TO YOURSELF AND LYING TO OTHERS.

OUT OF THE CLOSET = BEING TRUE WITH YOURSELF AND BEING COMFORTABLE TO SAY THAT YOU ARE GAY TO OTHERS.

If some masculine gay men wants to stay in the closet its their business.But they cant complain that they are unhappy because they lie to themselves.Latter they could regret it.Because they would see that being out of the closet is not that hard.

Gay masculine men have to get out of the closet.They have to forget about stereotypes and be who they are.










 
I'm actually masculine gay guy who is still in the closet, well my best friend knows, but anyway, I want to come out but my parents and family are kinda anti-gay and every time I almost tell them I chicken out. I love them sooooo much and don't want it to be awkward with them. I want to wait till I move out.
 
softmen said:
Why masculine gay men seems to be the 1 who have the hardest time to admit that they are gay?

Of course a lot of masculine gay men are not in the closet.But when you see men in the closet.It looks like gay men who are in the closet are the masculine 1.
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I don't believe this.

Please site the scientific survey that documents your allegations.
 
I'm masculine, out to only a few people and have ABOSLUTELY no problem admitting that I like to take it in the face.
 
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