Masturbation...Good or Bad???

[Theit10101]

I’m 18 now and I am still in the closet. It’s a little embarrassing to say but I’m pretty sure I have a porn addiction. Since I’m in the closet I'm too afraid to get a girlfriend and lie to her and I cannot get a boy friend cause I’m way way way in there! When I'm alone I can’t help but think of porn and want to watch and you know what you do while watching porn.
Now i know its a bad thing to be addicted to porn and i want to stop but that’s the only way i like "getting off"! Porn is ruining me but i also heard that masturbation is good for you! I saw in some movie and i know its true that you’ll "pop" fast if you don’t "practice" when you have sex which i don’t want to happen....So my question is what should i do? Should i stop watching porn and "getting off" or should i "get off" while not watching porn or just stop both all together?

 

[NineOfClubs]

I think masturbation is a good thing, a very good thing.

However, I've met a huge number of gay men who were so into masturbation that they found it very difficult to climax, and have fun, any other way.

Made them pretty piss poor sex partners.....

 

[ozguy]

I've been wanking regularly for about 50 of my 55 years and I haven't gone blind yet, nor have I developed hairy palms. Sex is still as good as it ever was, too .... just don't get enough of it!

 

[KaraBulut]

Moving to H&W...

 

[Deandbn]

Masturbation is a good thing, just practice a bit of self control on the day you are going to have sex with a real person so youre not all wanked out before you start.

Just be careful about what it is that 'turns you on'! If you let it become something inanimate like a TV set, youre gonna have a real problem when you try to have sex with a person.

 

[KaraBulut]

To answer the question in the title, there are studies that say that men who masturbate on a regular basis have lower rates of prostate cancer.

From a practical standpoint, sex in general is "use it or lose it", so sexual activity on a regular basis is healthy... like exercise.. like cardio.... like all things that work the body and keep it fit.

To your issue about porn... Men are visual and porn provides the perfect visual stimulation to get things going.

Is masturbating to porn healthy? Well, it's a matter of degrees. If the choice is watching a clip and doing yourself instead of having sex with a stranger, then probably a good wank is healthier.

But if the choice is whacking off while watching porn instead of doing schoolwork or having sex with a boyfriend/girlfriend, then maybe that's not the best choice (and you might consider whether it's a problem).

But- and you know this- the real answer to all this is to deal with the closet issue....

 

[Enigma63]

i have been jerking off for 32 yrs and my orgasms are stronger than ever, sex is great but sometimes i would rather jerk-off

 

[SoulSearcher]

It is so natural that most boys learn of it and to do it on their own, as long as it doesn't interfere with normal daily functions, go for it! Just don't watch so much porn that you forget what role sex actually plays in a meaningful relationship.

 

[Seasoned]

You can immediately help yourself by changing your descriptives from "good" and "bad" to "healthy" and "unhealthy." Others here have said that masturbation is normal and healthy. A problem occurs when any activity or substance removes a person from normal day to day activities. At that point the activity would be described as unhealthy.

You seem to be describing normal solo sex. You are also wondering if you could become porn dependent. To alleviate that fear mix it up and don't rely on porn or an image of porn every time. Use fantasy to sexually explore.

As to the other issue of sex addiction, it's healthy to be aware of the possibility. The best place, as a gay person, to look for answers is Sexual Complusives Anonymous, or SCA. Find that 12-step organization at, http://www.sca-recovery.org/

Enjoy this time of exploration. Never feel pressure to out yourself in an unsafe environment, but do have a plan to make a safe environment for yourself so you'll be open and honest about yourself. That's a huge factor in having a positive outlook and mental health. Good luck to you.

 

[racer2438]

jerking off is very healthy for you, but moderation needs to be used, dont make it the only thing your life revolves around it.

 

[Theit10101]

Thanks for all the advice. Ill think ill stop watching porn and releive my stress without it. Im am becoming too attached to it and i believe it will cause problems on the future so im going to try. And once again, great advice!

 

[serious_andy]

Porn is fine in moderation. I masturbate to porn regularly, but also have regular sex. I agree with another reply that if your going to good relationships your really going to need to deal with the "out" problem. You don't have to come completley out to enjoy a gay lifestyle but in the long run, it's probably best

 

[Ambrocious]

Thanks for all the advice. Ill think ill stop watching porn and releive my stress without it. Im am becoming too attached to it and i believe it will cause problems on the future so im going to try. And once again, great advice!

You could stimulate your mind with gay stories. Have you checked the stories section here? Some people write some pretty erotic pieces of art! I have a story you might like called "Fucked By The Rich Kid". Check out the stories section for a change, it is a great alternative to porn if you have an imagination that is.

 

[THORIS]

I use to jack off so much that it was hard for me to climax while topping. I am 25 years old and i have only been able to climax while topping 3 times. For me to jack off i need alot of friction and if i top theirs not alot of feeling or friction. When i was 5 i was circumcised by a rabbi without any docters present.

It still takes alot thought to be able to cum while topping or bottoming.

 

[3nipples]

I saw in some movie and i know its true that you’ll "pop" fast if you don’t "practice" when you have sex which i don’t want to happen....

I don't think masturbation helps much in that department, but you shouldn't worry, you'll learn control soon enough once you start having sex with a partner.

 

[Ambrocious]

I use to jack off so much that it was hard for me to climax while topping. I am 25 years old and i have only been able to climax while topping 3 times. For me to jack off i need alot of friction and if i top theirs not alot of feeling or friction. When i was 5 i was circumcised by a rabbi without any docters present.

It still takes alot thought to be able to cum while topping or bottoming.

I was circumcised at BIRTH and I have no problem climaxing...currently 27 years old. I am MOSTLY a bottom however so this might be part of the reason...not sure. Maybe try and stop masturbating for a while. It also helps to have a strong connection to the person your fucking. Maybe be friends first.

 

[bike10]

I began my experience of jacking off back in junior high school as my rite of puberty. To this day still find time to take time to jack off. Gay porn is one way to enjoy playing with my cock. Caming with fellow jo buddy. Also like to visit the baths fro mutual jacking action. Guess I am ture MASTER OF BATER.

 

[nate78]

Having issues in terms of peeing like starting and stopping and a "weak stream", I was nervous I had a prostate issue so I went to the doctor and he asked me if there had been a change in the frequency of my ejaculations and I said YES! I used to cum at least once a day, either from sex or masturbation, but I've been so busy starting a new business, my bf and I don't get around to sex and I rarely jack off. So I told him I ejaculate once a week now and he told me to go back to my old habits and see if it made a difference. It did. I'm fine now, but I have to cum once a day at least. Doctor's orders! Well, not really, but I'll take it as such.

 

[uncutincali]

When i was 5 i was circumcised by a rabbi without any docters present.

I thought Jews were circumcised on the 8th day?

 

[conrad]

Perhaps I was fortunate: I heard no warnings about the dangers of masturbation from my parents.

I assume they (at least my father) did not in any way want to detract from the enjoyment of his sons who he must have assumed would discover the joys of joining hand to cock all by themselves.

My peers got from their elders a lot of crap--and that included the anti-masturbation line of the Boy Scouts of America.

The fantasies associated with my solo sessions were very creative but, as far as I can remember, never included other cocks.

As things happened my first real sex was with the newguy in town; we bonded deeply and when the sex happened it wonderfully confirmed that bond and made it stronger.

Of course, masturbation has its place in all of life, but social sex always beats solo sex for most of us.