The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

Me and this guy...

jeffhardylover8472

jeffhardylover8472

JUB Addict
Joined
Jun 7, 2009
Posts
1,243
Reaction score
45
Points
38
ok, so i met a guy on a dating site and the day we met he asked me out... i was very nervous... we just grabbed a coffee and just sat in his car talking, gettin 2 know each other... we talk on msn everyday and i rlly like the guy... i rlly wnna c him again but a few weeks ago i asked if he wanted 2 c a movie and he tells me he doesnt like it when others pay 4 him... this put me in a bit of a situation... will i EVER c him again? also... he's not originally frm my area... hes only here 4 about 3 years due 2 university and tht puts me in another situation... if he ever drops out he'll more than likely leave and i don't want tht 2 happen since i like him... wat do i do?
 
Well -- your post is all over the place...

Are you REALLY worried about him dropping out of school even BEFORE you guys MIGHT be a couple???

As far as him wanting to pay for the movie -- you could have responded by saying "OK -- YOU'RE treat!!!" :lol: That wouldn't have phased me in the least...

I'd recommend CASUALLY asking him out again -- for something light and fun...

MAYBE he'll say YES!!!

BEST OF LUCK and let us now how it goes..

:):):)
 
OK first, this isn't a text message and that's hard to read. We can't help you if we can't understand you. Grammar is your friend, it lets all of us understand you clearly. No one expects perfection, but it helps if we all make the effort.

Second. I'm not really sure what your dilemma is. Are you worried that you can't ask him out for some reason? Are you afraid he'll say no? Are you afraid that he'll up and vanish like a puff of smoke?

That said, I gotta say, that looks like avoidance behavior. You don't have to pay for his movie, and if he really wanted to see you I think he'd just have offered to pay for yours.

Keep in mind, he may just want to be a friend.
 
new problem...

every now and then, whenever i just say a simple HI 2 him, it seems im always catching him at a bad time (mostly when hes studying). i no tht school comes first but at the same time its hurting me. what can i do here?
 
I'm sorry to say, that looks like he's avoiding you, hence the "avoidance behavior" comment above. If he won't make time for you, won't go out with you, you need to find another guy.
 
jeffhardylover8472 said:
ok, so I met a guy on a dating site and the day we met he asked me out... I was very nervous... we just grabbed a coffee and just sat in his car talking, gettin to know each other... we talk on msn everyday and I really like the guy... I really want to see him again but a few weeks ago I asked if he wanted to see a movie and he tells me he doesnt like it when others pay for him... this put me in a bit of a situation... will I EVER see him again? also... he's not originally from my area... hes only here for about 3 years due to university and that puts me in another situation... if he ever drops out he'll more than likely leave and I don't want that to happen since I like him... what do I do?
Click to expand...

I translated your post out of text speak to make it easier to comment on.

Here's the deal... there are a lot of weasel-y guys who can't be honest and say, "I enjoyed meeting you but we don't have romantic chemistry" or "I'm not really interested in a relationship right now".

Instead it's the passive-aggressive games of not answering text messages and coming up with lame excuses as to why they don't want to go out again.

Just drop him. It's not worth wasting any time on someone who is not grown up enough to have an honest, respectful conversation.

Next!

P.S. Don't get in the habit of thinking about the long away future after you've gone out on one date with someone. I can tell you're new to the dating scene but the dating is supposed to be about having fun and getting to know someone. And understand that almost all of your dates won't go anywhere, so live for the enjoyment of the date and not for vague possibilities. And if someone is playing games with you this early in the game, it's a sign that it's not going to work, so drop them and move on with your dignity intact.
 
^ what Kara said. Including the part about translating from txtspk.

Just by the way. Is there any chance that your communication skills generally need some improvement? If you communicate with your dates the same way you posted in the thread, some of your dates may lose interest quickly if they are looking for erudite responses in a conversation.

In any event, it looks like there wasn't a connection on some level with this guy. Just move on.

There's someone out there for you.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top