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me coming out to my friend

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I've told no one that I'm gay that was up until I told my friend, whom I liked... I figured he felt the same way so I told him. Me and him started off just "as a joke" flirting but as time went by we would get abit more "touchy" e.g hug alot, put our legs on each other, stuff like that so when I told him I liked him he was pretty shocked and didnt seem interested... he's always claimed to be straight but then again so have I, We haven't spoken since I told him which has been a week, what should I do...
 
give him some time to get used to the idea...when my best friend told me she was bisexual it took me a while to get used to it...hopefully things will turn out okay for you in the end, but don't get your hopes up too high. its better to be surprised than disappointed
 
lher6425 said:
Just give it time. Your friend has to deal with the fact that you are gay and that you have feelings for him. If your friendship is strong enough, you will remain friends. But you have to be understanding as well. He may very well be straight and not feel romantic towards you. You have to accept that if this is the case. If your friendship is worth it to you, then you have to put your romantic feelings aside. If you can't, it won't be fair to him. And he has to let this go too otherwise he will always feel uncomfortable around you.
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I'm sure you know how many gay guys claim to be straight... Remember he's the one who started flirting and touching me up, I just joined in and eventually told him I liked him. At least I had the guts to tell him how I felt, he still believes he's straight which he obviously ain't.
 
^^^Yeah, that makes it tougher.

Perhaps continuing to associate with you reminds him of something he dislikes about himself and is not yet prepared to confront or admit.

It's a shame, but with someone in that frame of mind, the chances of having a relationship were nil anyway.

Congratulations on being honest with him and taking the higher road. You're a better man than he. (*8*)
 
averageguy said:
It's a shame, but with someone in that frame of mind, the chances of having a relationship were nil anyway. (*8*)
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I don't think I can give up on him quite yet... but I've arranged to go bowling with him and talk to him and if he's still being stubborn I gotta give up on him and move on but it's always been very hard for me to get a partner whether it be male or female, i've failed at both... maybe it's me
 
You could also just let him make his own decision without any pressure. He may be wrestling with a whole lot of issues including coming to terms with his own sexuality.

Just give him some time and don't push too hard.
 
hmm I wanna give him time but he's giving no indication he's interested in a relationship and I've gave him a week now but you're right I shouldnt push him...what do you suggest I do to indicate I'm still interested?
 
gameaddict said:
hmm I wanna give him time but he's giving no indication he's interested in a relationship and I've gave him a week now but you're right I shouldnt push him...what do you suggest I do to indicate I'm still interested?
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He already knows you're interested. He doesn't need a reminder.

What he does need is some space. Give it to him.
 
I love JUB! so many great people giving useful advice! I hope everyone's tips get me laid soon lol but seriously thanks guys. I'm still waiting on my friend to make his move because I've made mine
 
hey guys I spoke to my friend today and the chemistry is still there between us two definately i've arranged to go bowling with him on monday
 
ok we're back on speaking terms, we were talking and he sounded so damn sexy... what should I say to him to remind him I still want him?
 
Do NOT remind him! He already Knows! Let it rest for a bit. Relax! Do NOT "pursue" at this point. You run a big risk of completely scaring Him away!

Be casual. Be friendly. If HE starts "flirting" again ... flirt right back just as before. If HE wants to make a "move" now ... He KNOWS that You wouldn't mind! Give HIM the chance to do that, if HE wants. Do NOT press!

Stay "Kewl"! Make Yourself "available". But, let HIM "take the bait", so to speak! And, don't be obviously disappointed if He doesn't!

He needs to feel comfortable with You, again! You do not want Him getting the feeling that You might be a "threat".

RESPECT is usually the first step toward Love, whether it may become "more" physical, or not.

ENJOY Him as the Friend that He is!

And, of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
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