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Meaningful Gift for Straight Best Friend?

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Hi, my best friends birthday is late this week and I really want to give him a meaningful gift that goes beyond the usual book, gift card, new gadget, car accessory and obvious categories of gifts that guys give other guys. He is truly my best friend, the friend I love having in my life, and despite deeper, different feelings for him I feel it's appropriate to give him a gift that reflects our bond and years of close companionship. And yes, he does know I'm bi-closeted and have had feelings and fantasies about him.

Does anyone have any ideas for a gift that holds meaning, but also does not seem inappropriate?
 
I'm sorry mate but since I don't know your friend I can't really tell you what gift would be meaningful for him. As a matter of fact, I think YOU should know that better.
 
I was thinking someone could help with category ideas, not a specific gift.
 
It's still quite complicated I can say. however, I'll tell you what for me is meaningful, I love hand-made things which actually last so you can go back to them whenever you feel like it and remember how important you are for that person in particular.
I hope this can help you or at least give you clue.

good luck.
 
How about an off the wall adventure or a trip. Something memorable that you both could do together like bungee jumping, scuba diving, swim with the dolphins, sky diving, hot air balloon ride, helicopter ride.
 
I agree 100% with PASSAT's idea! Its something personable because you experience it together and something that is different and unique that other people are not going to be getting him.
 
It really depends on his interests. If he likes book, find him a first edition of a favorite. If he's into sports, take him to a game.
 
Considering you have feelings for him, it almost seems anything is inappropriate.

Ask yourself why you want to give him a gift like that? Is that emotionally healthy?
 
sinfulsimon said:
It really depends on his interests. If he likes book, find him a first edition of a favorite. If he's into sports, take him to a game.
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These sound like good ideas. Some of the other ideas sound like things I'd do with my boyfriend. However, if you two normally do things like take trips together, than by all means go for it.

Lube said:
Considering you have feelings for him, it almost seems anything is inappropriate.

Ask yourself why you want to give him a gift like that? Is that emotionally healthy?
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I think these are good questions to keep in mind.
 
People really appreciate things that they can use. At least this is my experience.

Let's say he is going to have a few job interviews, but doesn't have all the right clothing for it. You could buy him a really nice tie that is his taste, and he'll probably end up wearing it a lot, and be reminded on you when he wears it!
 
Lube said:
Considering you have feelings for him, it almost seems anything is inappropriate.

Ask yourself why you want to give him a gift like that? Is that emotionally healthy?
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Then ask if your gifts are going to make him uncomfortable. Like you're trying to romance him.

I love my female friends, but I'd never give them things that were inappropriate for our level of relationship.

I'd steer clear of anything a guy might give a lover. Including inappropriately expensive and questionable things like weekends away and the like.

I generally give straight guys tools. They seem to like them and no one could mistake that for a romantic weekend.
 
I like to give photographs - put together in some sort of a book format is good if it's not the sort of thing he's going to display. This can be a scan/enlargement of an existing photo or a new one. The subject could be something he really likes or places he went, with or without you, as appropriate.
 
Do the two of you typically exchange gifts? if so, what kind of gifts? Now, you seem to indicate that you want make this one special - why? Is the number of years you've known each other hit some kind of landmark?

I agree with Lube. Please separate your (romantic) feelings for him from the gift. It will probably go wrong.

outside of that, Doing an adventure that you could both enjoy - like a balloon ride - would certainly be memorable for most people - and better than a gift that he has to decide whether or not to display or keep.

But i don't know your friend. You might score more points by taking him to a basketball or hockey game.
 
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