Meant To Be?

[dkj32224]

Well me and my bf have been dating for 11 months now, and I asked him how he felt about me and he told me " Just know that I care."

How am I supposed to take that?

I more than "care" for him and he knows it. He did say that it takes a long time for him to fall in love but were coming up on a year now. I know every guy is different but I still feel like we should be beyond the "caring" point.

I'm starting to wonder if there is a reason why our relationship hasn't progressed any further and If I should call it quits before I get hurt and start planining a future together?

 

[sixthson]

" Just know that I care."

This sounds like something you say to your distant, aged aunt who is going into the hospital for a hysterectomy.

He sounds like a cold fish. Throw him back.

 

[maxpowr9]

At least from my experiences, he may not just not be good with words. I know I'm not. If his actions show that he loves you, then that should be enough. You don't really delve into the physical side of the relationship (hugs, kisses, etc) so I cant really offer much. If you have any doubts about it, now would be the time to talk to him but, if you aren't satisfied, start looking elsewhere. You can't force the spark (no matter how hard you try).

 

[KaraBulut]

Don't focus on words. Focus on behavior. It's a whole lot easier for a guy to deceive with words than it is to deceive with actions.

Is this about the words? Or is really that you don't feel loved?

 

[Horschallen]

Try to avoid putting things in a timeframe for a while and revisit it in about 6 months or longer and see where your relationship goes.

 

[TX-Beau]

I’m sorry to appear callous but that made me laugh. If someone told me that I’d probably have the same reaction. It sounds like one of those cheesy, Hallmark get well cards.

Not that I’m saying he’s not sincere or loving. It’s just LOL, what do you do with that?

Advice, don’t put him on the spot about how he feels. If he loves you, it’s worth waiting for him to bring it up himself. I personally hate it when a guy goes there with me before I’ve said something. It’s a no win situation for the guy on the end of that question. Do you lie? That’s not helpful, and if you tell the truth you’re gonna get hurt feelings.

There is only one answer the guy asking wants to hear, and if you’re not there yet, it’s not helping anyone to be boxed into answering that.

Something else to think about. Back in my dissipated youth I dated this guy who kept asking me over and over if I loved him. Finally I got tired of the evasions and told him what he wanted to hear. Did that end it, OH no. He than started badgering me about whether or not I said that just because he wanted me to say it. Yeah, that didn't end well.

 

[jude swings]

you wanna move forward then force the issue and ask where you guys are at. don't stay in it (and be unhappy) just because you're afraid of being single. you might actually be grateful later on that you got out early in this relationship that could be a train wreck in the making.

 

[NineOfClubs]

"Care" does not, ever, mean "love"...

 

[rahulxxx]

He is playing with you! full on ! day in and day long!