Meeting local bisexuals/gay

[Cirdan]

So, this Friday there is a "Murder Mystery Scavenger Hunt", and I'm not sure if I want to go.

Cases:
1. I'm lonely.

2. I'm highly sexed up (too much porn -SEE "Lonely")

3. I'm afraid "something might happen", or that I'm going to make a decision I'm going to regret for the rest of my life.

I don't know if this event is chaperoned or whatnot, and I do want to meet other people eventually...but I'm not sure I'm ready. Every time I look at a guy I undress him and then beat myself up for undressing him and then beat myself up for beating myself up.

Vicious circle. But I feel like I need to watch less explicit material, and calm the fuck down sexually. Imagine a coke bottle under high pressure. That's what it feels like right now.

One part of me is saying that if I meet "real" bi/gay guys it might help offset the large repositories of "fantasy" guys that I've poured into my eyes over the last 6 years. Might even calm me down sommat...

But another part of me is afraid that I'll find myself in some situation, then one thing will lead to another, and...life altering decision.

It's just a scavenger hunt... Arghhh

 

[dr_beat]

I'm not sure what you're afraid of. Is this a gay event? A straight event? A mixed event? If your goal is to just meet people, then go without worry. It doesn't matter what event you go to, you're always going to see someone you want to mentally undress. It's no big deal. Just don't try to undress the person for real unless you're given permission.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>But another part of me is afraid that I'll find myself in some situation, then one thing will lead to another, and...life altering decision.

At a "Murder Mystery Scavange Hunt"?

If I had to guess - and that's all this is - this is some sort of gay "mixer"? A thing for singles? Something like that?

In which case, you'll probably meet several guys.

Some of them will be annoying. Others will be friendly and cool.
Some of them will be attractive. Others not so.
Some you'd like to get to know better. Others not.

But the odds that you'll wake up Saturday morning crying with a sore ass in a stranger's bed are, I think, negligible.

There are places to go to pick up guys to take home and have sex with.
Those places are rarely called something like "Murder Mystery Scavange Hunt".

Go.
Be open to meeting new people.
Know your boundaries (just in case).
And have a good time, damnit.

Lex

 

[rareboy]

Jeez. Relax. It isn't an S+M orgy.

So what if something does happen?

So what if you do have some regret?

You can't live your life like an unformed character in some writer's imagination.

Do things. Have fun. Get laid. Live.

 

[Cirdan]

Easier said than done rareboy.

But yeah, maybe overthinking this one a bit.

 

[Matthew-]

So, this Friday there is a "Murder Mystery Scavenger Hunt", and I'm not sure if I want to go.

Cases:
1. I'm lonely.

2. I'm highly sexed up (too much porn -SEE "Lonely")

3. I'm afraid "something might happen", or that I'm going to make a decision I'm going to regret for the rest of my life.

I don't know if this event is chaperoned or whatnot, and I do want to meet other people eventually...but I'm not sure I'm ready. Every time I look at a guy I undress him and then beat myself up for undressing him and then beat myself up for beating myself up.

Vicious circle. But I feel like I need to watch less explicit material, and calm the fuck down sexually. Imagine a coke bottle under high pressure. That's what it feels like right now.

One part of me is saying that if I meet "real" bi/gay guys it might help offset the large repositories of "fantasy" guys that I've poured into my eyes over the last 6 years. Might even calm me down sommat...

But another part of me is afraid that I'll find myself in some situation, then one thing will lead to another, and...life altering decision.

It's just a scavenger hunt... Arghhh

I wish I could help you but I feel exactly like you. So at least, you are not alone.

 

[Shepherd 2]

You sound really young and inexperienced.
Given your uncertainties, my advice,
is not to do something rash while you are so vulnerable.
Are you 18 or older?
Shep+

 

[Cirdan]

Emotionally I still feel like a frickin 16 year old, but I'm 23.

 

[ssean18]

hey bro i think you overthinking just a tad..

go, you've got nothing to lose, right.?

and if you dont like it just go home. least you made the effort.

oh and dont beat yourself up over undressing a guy with eyes, everyone does it - its natural.

good luck with it all..

 

[Matthew-]

Emotionally I still feel like a frickin 16 year old, but I'm 23.

I also feel emotionally like I'm 16 but I am 28.

 

[Soilwork]

Hey Man.. nothing in this world that's worth doing isn't scary.

Life doesn't get handed to you on a silver platter, you have to go out and get it.

What are you REALLY afraid of? That going to a gay event is going to mean that you're REALLY gay?

Cuz.. um..

 

[Cirdan]

Hey Man.. nothing in this world that's worth doing isn't scary.

Life doesn't get handed to you on a silver platter, you have to go out and get it.

What are you REALLY afraid of? That going to a gay event is going to mean that you're REALLY gay?

Cuz.. um..

I guess I'm just making sure that it wasn't er....alien abduction.

You're right of course.