Men concealing their age

[freefall]

I find it really weird for men not to tell their age. Not accusing women to be not confident about aging, but it's just that women usually conceal their age, not men.

But two weeks ago, when I was interviewing a man whose mother was a patient, it became a strange experience.

Me: "Your age, Sir?"
Him: "I'm old."
Me: "How old?"
Him: *chuckles* "You need not know."
Me: "I have to. I need to make a pedigree."
Him: *chuckles again* "All you need to know is I'm definitely older than you."
Me: *frowns*

For me it's weird. A man, afraid to let people know him age? Puzzling

How about you? Do you know any man or guy who refuses to disclose their actual age?

 

[kallipolis]

Does a number on a birth certificate evidence the medical condition, or biological age of a human person?

I know men in their twenties who as a result of their smoking, drinking, eating habits and lack of physical exercise are already demonstrating illnesses associated with people who have passed the half century.

When I have been asked by a potential sexual partner for my age, I reply that my age does not determine my aptitude for a healthy sexual encounter.

 

[evanrick]

i think honesty is more attractive. don't conceal what you think should be hidden, it just makes you look insecure.

 

[freefall]

^Yeah, revealing age can be quite bad in business world, where age can be a strong determinant of your employment. Still, age concealing in casual situations is uncommon for men---to me, they're just mere numbers. Perhaps it's just me

 

[freefall]

You know, I used to think you were beyond 50
*squeals in maturity*

 

[kallipolis]

We would be deceiving ourselves were we to ignore the reality that the so called gay scene is youth orientated, leading me to believe that appearance is all important.

A quick glance at the numbers viewing the porn galleries, or the celebrity forum indicates that intelligent discussion is not the primary reason for the existence of this site.

 

[Centexfarmer]

We would be deceiving ourselves were we to ignore the reality that the so called gay scene is youth orientated, leading me to believe that appearance is all important.

A quick glance at the numbers viewing the porn galleries, or the celebrity forum indicates that intelligent discussion is not the primary reason for the existence of this site.

Really?





I have to agree with some of my fellow members here about age as a number.

I was told by this "kid" 19/20 the other day that the shirt that I was wearing wasn't appropriate for my age.

I was wearing an Abercrombie & Fitch t-shirt that was given to me as a gift by a guy friend who's 26.

I'm not completely an Abercrombie & Fitch model, and the shirt fits me really well, and friends of mine tell me that I look great in it.

Now if I had a complete head of grey hair, and looked like a 10lb bag of potatoes stuffed into a 5lb bag he might have had a point.

When asked my age my first response is typically, "old enough to know better, but still young enough not to care."

Most "men" in the 20's are proud to be in their 20's so that don't mind telling anyone.

After 30?

Well even some of those hot guys that I know in their 20's think that they're 30th birthday is "over the hill."

When I tell those "kids" again 19/20 that I'm old enough to be their father, well unless their into "Daddy Figures" that's when the conversation, discussion, and in some cases any interest on their part ends.

Which is sad because I'm not some "dirty old perve" interested in having sex with every 20 something that I meet.

It just seems like if you're not 30 or younger, some of us don't even get the time of day anymore.

So for me age is just a number, and so long as you continue to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually I'm sure that there's something that I can find attractive about you.

But to tell you my real age?

Really how attractive is it to hear, "You look really good for your age," with that being the caveat expression as they walk away?

IOW I am attractive enough for you to come up and talk to me, so why are you walking away now that you know my birth age?

So it may not be so much an attempt to "conceal" but rather a defense mechanism.

 

[Centexfarmer]

Respectfully, this seems inconsistent. Now, why is it you want to be appealing to a young person who is automatically dismissive of someone over 30? Over 40?

That's a damned good question.

I guess in reality I don't.

When I look in the mirror I see a much more attractive "physical" person than I saw when I was in my 20's.

Sometimes I look in the mirror and ask myself, who's that old guy?

For a guy "my age" I'm still considered attractive by a lot of guys; both younger, my age, and older.

So it's not that I want to be appealing to shallow individuals; younger or of any age for that matter.

Those aren't the types of people that I would even want as friends to be honest.

What happened to keeping fit spiritually and mentally? Is disregard for mature people fit?

I wouldn't think so.

For me, I am attracted to people for many things, and I don't have the prerequisites of being healthy physically, spiritually, and mentally. Health is a luxury, not a requirement. Age will teach all of us that over time, else our partners will jettison us when we grow ill in any of those dimensions, no?

Which despite how hard we or they might try, age isn't something that we can hide indefinitely.

For example, there's a difference between someone suspecting that you're Gay and their knowing that you're gay.

Just like there's a difference in someone thinking that you're in your 40's, and knowing just how close you are to 50, or 60, or 70, or whatever.

I have a female bestfriend who I've known for more than 20 years now. To this day I honestly don't know how old she is in birth years.

I've got an idea, but I could still be off by as many as 20 years.

Seriously!

Do I find her any less attractive because of that?

Is she any less of a friend to me?

The answer is no on all accounts.

Youth is fleeting, and always will be.

I don't tell people my age for the same reason why I'm selective about who truly knows that I'm Gay.

Both have been used as reasons to discriminate against me, and unless they have any true or honest reason to know, it's none of their business.

 

[gsdx]

Admitting your real age to someone else is an admission of your real age to yourself, and a lot of people don't like to do that.

 

[HunterM]

I use botox to conceal my age. I like the statue-esque frozen in time look

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I'm 27. Couldn't be arsed to care enough about peoples' thoughts on that.

If you care that much, it's time for a change in how you handle yourself.

 

[ronboy]

Fuck them all, if they can't take the truth.....

Age is just a number.....

I am 48, and I earned every one of those years!

I probably just alienated half-the JUB populace, who don't speak to any gay man over age 30.

Their loss.....

I am what I am, and I refuse to sugarcoat it!

 

[Orlandude]

A lot of men in the gay world conceal their age because age bias is so rampant in the gay world...like it's some badge of honor to be under 30 and a badge of disdain to be over 30. Nowhere, except in the gay world, is the first thing said after "Hello" is "how old are you?". No group of people are as hung up about age as gays and that's a sad testimony to a group that cries for tolerance and equality.

 

[IowaGuy]

Well I'm 70 and have no problem revealing my age!

 

[bw92116]

This reminds me, I've got to get another box of Just For Men.

 

[altlover85]

I think it's understandable that some guys do it, but it's unfortunate that they feel they have to.

Excellent point, Naughty Arousal!

 

[Ganoderma]

A lot of men in the gay world conceal their age because age bias is so rampant in the gay world...like it's some badge of honor to be under 30 and a badge of disdain to be over 30. Nowhere, except in the gay world, is the first thing said after "Hello" is "how old are you?". No group of people are as hung up about age as gays and that's a sad testimony to a group that cries for tolerance and equality.

dear Orlandude,

I am 55 and I am living in The Netherlands. I don't hide my age and I also don't hide that I am gay. I feel very sorry that you have suffered so much problems with age, whilst making contacts with other gays. I don't have this problems, and I am somehow sceptic if your views (as expressed above) are real and valid for all gays.

I have no idea about your age (no need to tell us if you don't like), and I also have no idea how and where you meet other gays (your profile indicates that you are "Out at home, in the closet at work.")?

Any idea if there are other gays at your work, and any idea how these guys will treat you (when they will find out that you are gay as well)?

I tend to think that you are somehow struggeling with this 'problem'. Any plans to be out at work? Any idea of one of your straight work-mates might have a gay brother?

Are you sure this 'age-problem' is as well the case in any 'gay-group' (can be anything, from a hiking group, a local queer group, etc) in and around Orlando?

Best wishes, and feel free to react.

 

[sixthson]

I think it's understandable that some guys do it, but it's unfortunate that they feel they have to.

Excellent point, Naughty Arousal!

I don't think anyone by that name has posted in this thread.

 

[MawellEvans]

i suck at guessing someones age by appearance. so i take what i am told. lie to me about your age. i don't care. as long as its not illegal and will get me put in jail. i am 32 by the way.

 

[Dduder]

How about you? Do you know any man or guy who refuses to disclose their actual age?

I must confess that I have been concealing my age. I am not 24 like my profile indicates, but just turned 21. I was born in 1990.