Men looking at your profile on dating sites

[Connectico]

Does anyone else experience this? Men look at my profile on dating sites but never send me a message. Are they window shopping or waiting for me to send a message? What do you think?

 

[mbamike]

Yes, this happens to me too. If I find them attractive, I will sent them a smile or a message. Mostly, I just do nothing. A great deal depends on my mood at the time.

 

[Cedric]

^That goes for me, too.

Also, I tend to look at a whole bunch of profiles whether I find them interesting or not. Just curious about how other people are putting themselves out there.

 

[altlover85]

Back when I was single, if I thought the guy that had looked at my profile was cute or somehow intriguing, I'd message him. If not, I wouldn't.

When I was looking at profiles, I might click on one, but then read something I didn't like, or find out he was too far away, or find that there was someone closer that I'd rather meet first.

 

[Connectico]

Thanks for the replies, guess I can't read too much into then.

 

[KaraBulut]

Window shopping. Interested, looking... just not buying yet.

 

[Corny]

Sometimes people are shy, even online. Or they are bad at starting a conversation. That's why many dating sites give you the option to "buzz" someone, send them a smile, wink or "footprint" etc ..
If that option is present and people are not even using that, they are probably not interested. If you are interested in him, you can test the waters by sending him a friendly hello. If he doesn't answer or doesn't show much interest then, just leave him be and don't waste your time

 

[Connectico]

Good advice Corny, thanks.

 

[Corny]

sometimes I see a cute guy, read his profile, but don't think he'd be into me;

definitely part of the problem.

but why? what do you have to lose? do you fear a simple "no" that much?

 

[GhostMost]

It happens don't sweat it, I'll message a guy who's cute most of the ones are fucking boring as shit, then they go into the whole instant messaging thing then it's just OH FUCK THIS.

 

[hijodelaestrella]

I find it interesting when 'straight' guys view my profile... I'm kinda like "Hmm... your profile says you're seeking a woman, yet you're checking me out..."

 

[relaxin13]

I think if you notice someone checking your profile multiple times, then they're interested, but want to see mutual interest before continuing. They probably want to see a message from you. If it is just sort of random or a one time thing, I don't think you need to think too much about it.

 

[Connectico]

Thanks for the opinions, they are very helpful.

 

[Lube]

Yes, lots of good advice. Many guys are shy and/or insecure, and sometimes all you have to do is show a little interest.

But, yeah, sometimes it's just window shopping.

 

[erobert]

Agree with every single post.

They're just browsing around. You might see they've come back to your profile a second time or they'll send you a message.

If I notice a guy (who might be a good potential match and is relatively close by) has viewed my profile a second time I'll play sales clerk, send him my "Do you need help with anything?" message which basically goes:

Hi,

I saw you were looking at my profile and wanted to reach out and introduce myself. I'm [name]. If you want to talk feel free to message me.

(Feel free to use that at your favorite dating site )

People are shy even online and sometimes you just need to take initiative and get the ball rolling. If they don't reply back don't worry, there's plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[altlover85]

The way I do it now is to balance what I see in the photo with what they write. Plus being older there's a lot of guys that I don't even need to consider because they aren't looking for older. I assume most youngers aren't unless it's a sugar daddy or uneven situation (not interested in that).

I have a boyfriend, but I do want to say there are some younger guys out there (like myself) that are attracted to older guys and not just in it for money.