Messing with a Straight guy that messes with my mind (Help!)

[The King Bee]

I'm bi, still trying to figure it all out, but I'm lost on this one...

I have a straight friend who I find really hot, and suddenly the opportunity presented itself to make a move so I did. We were sitting around one day a few months ago and he was talking about how this dude kept sending naked pictures to his cell phone, but he wasn't interested in him at all. He told me he would be down to try something, but only with someone he knew. So I worked it to my advantage and got with him. All we did was give each other head, j/o each other and 69. That's all he wanted to do, and i though i respected his state of experimentation, I still wanted more.
This led me to start having some hardcore feelings for him, and almost feeling unfulfilled and somewhat lost. Some guys just experiment to get it out of their system, and I had to accept that's was all it was. I'm fine with being cool with him and being friends, despite my feelings because he's really cool and not someone I want to lose to all of this.

So fast forward to last week. We haven't seen much of each other because of conflicting schedules, but we end up close to the same place, and he invites me to hang out for a while. So I drive over and pick him up and we drive around and just chill.
After a while things get kind of boring and he announces that he's really horny. Shortly after he offered to give me head if i returned the favor, so without even thinking of course i accepted.

Now I'm back to where I was, and even a little more lost because it was his idea. I have the feelings but I'm fighting them. I still feel like I can't talk to him because I come off all crazy and out of my mind, and I really just want to be able to be cool with him, and not seem anymore than my usual normal crazy lol.

Does anyone have some advice for me? I gotta to sort this out and get my head on straight (seriously, no pun lol)

Let me know if there's anything I need to clarify and I will

 

[evanrick]

just be yourself. what makes you think hes straight? what does it matter if he is or is not?

 

[tomersh]

well ...i think that u should move past it like u did the last time and just try and get back to the way u were...

if he offers again and wants to do it again it'll be the perfect time for u to tell him that u'd prefer not to because to him it's just a matter of getting relief and nothin else(u should emphasize coz if it is then he'll get the point that it's kinda more than that to u and if if it's not just relief for him either then that's his chance to say something ) but ur still figuring out ur sexuality and all this is doing is confusing u even more...and even though u liked it a lot ,actually because u like it a lot, it's making u feel kinda weird around him afterwards... and u'd prefer not to ruin ur friendship...
just be honest with him if he's ur friend u should be able to talk to him just take deep breaths and relax and don't turn the situation into a serious thing...just keep it relaxed ...

 

[tonyboy]

He's gay.. but not ready to admit it.

He likes you to give him head and seems he likes to give it to you.

Man, that is not that bad of a place to be in.. Just have fun with it..
Most likely you two will move on in life anyway.. not like you and he are going to be b/fs and set up house.

But don't let him tease you.. if you really want to find out if he wants to go beyond just giving head, well then you have to ask him.. could be you don't want to go that far with him either... could be you'd just rather be his buddy and share blow jobs when he wants to.

Dont' worry too much man.. if you really like to hang with this guy then do it.. just accept the fact that he is calling the shots.

Somehow he figured you'd enjoy the b/j stuff. not sure how he figured it out.. but now he knows you like it..
I hope it all works out man.
But if it doesn't with this particular guy, well I"m sure you will have many other chances down the road..

Best to you.
tonyboy

 

[HockeyGuy89]

take it for what its worth.

Its a friend with benefits.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

men who play games are such a bore.

 

[shahmask]

I have a great friend. I work with his baby momma/whatever it is. He is unafraid of physical contact with his guy friends and we have slept together in his bed before in just boxer briefs. And he REALLY likes girls.

Whenever he gets a beer or two in him, he loves to grab my ass/pecs/crotch, hug, and kiss on me. It has turned into a couple of blowjobs (he's surprisingly good) and he fucked me this week. It's just a lot of fun but I admit to myself that i've had a bit of a crush on him since before we got really physical with eachother. He is also the only person that Ive ever actually considered to be boyfriend materiel, someone I get along with really well, doesn't hate himself, and doesn't want to drink all the time and party and other juvinile bullshit I have (and im very mad at myself for being prejudiced/gerneralizing) come to associate with the average gay dude.

but, for now, i know there can't be any more. he knows im gay. he knows i like him. if he ever wants to persue a greater relationship rather than friend and occasional fuck bud, im open to it. im enthralled in my work, have good friends, lots of family obligations and it all keeps me busy and i have some other fuck buds that keep me satisfied. but, if he wanted more, im all for it. and he knows that. for now, im just enjoying some of the funnest sex ive ever had and enjoying being his friend. he is an awesome guy.

on a side note, he does love to show me off to his guy friends. he'll tell them "hey, listen to this" and he'll ask me when the last time i had sex. response is usually last night or two nights ago. and they're all jeleous. he does love to hear about my fuck buds. it's kinda wierd. i do love the guy. he's crazy fun.

 

[Krakenbwool]

These guys aren't straight. They're bi. Though "straight" probably does sound more enticing to some.

 

[Surgeon General]

Eh. You just kind of have to calm down.
The people here trying to tell you he's gay because he gave you head are full of shit.
The truth is sexuality isn't as easily defined as most of us would like to believe. He's just trying stuff out and having fun with a friend.
I've gotten head from straight guys before. It's usually bad and there's lot's of giggling during.
Most likely he wants to be friends who suck each other of occasionally and that's it. If he was having some self discovery crisis you probably would have noticed it by now.
If you can't handle blowing a straight boy without getting insane about it, then don't.
That easy.

 

[troncosoxl]

if u want something more, u should tell him, if he doesnt, well... at least u tryed it. The important it is not to lose his friendship.

 

[mebe07]

Eh. You just kind of have to calm down.
The people here trying to tell you he's gay because he gave you head are full of shit.
The truth is sexuality isn't as easily defined as most of us would like to believe. He's just trying stuff out and having fun with a friend.
I've gotten head from straight guys before. It's usually bad and there's lot's of giggling during.
Most likely he wants to be friends who suck each other of occasionally and that's it. If he was having some self discovery crisis you probably would have noticed it by now.
If you can't handle blowing a straight boy without getting insane about it, then don't.
That easy.

I have a very hard time believing that straight guys are just that into trading blowjobs with guys who are gay. Sorry, but i'm not buying it. I'm not saying that they are gay, but at the very least bi-curious.

 

[Surgeon General]

I have a very hard time believing that straight guys are just that into trading blowjobs with guys who are gay. Sorry, but i'm not buying it. I'm not saying that they are gay, but at the very least bi-curious.

Well what exactly does bi-curious mean to you? I understood it as a straight person who is curious and would like to try it out...which is pretty much what I described.

I've eaten out a girl before. While it's not something I take out a photo album at christmas and reminisce about, it's really not that big of a deal. And it doesn't make me bi.

Actions aren't what define someone's sexuality. How many homos have been married with kids all their lives? They're still homos. Being gay is about being attracted to the same sex, not fucking or sucking the same sex.