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Met a daddy..BUT.

tiesilk said:
I am planning to ask, since it has been in my head for a while.
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I think that would make everything easier. I would talk to the guy about it. And if you can't meet his bf, are you really his friend?
 
altlover85 said:
I would try and hang out with new people to get him off of your mind. It sounds like you are investing a lot of energy into this guy and it seems like you might be getting a little too attached because it doesn't sound like you can have a fulfilling friendship if you're focused on more romantic feelings for him and don't have a strong foundation to build upon.

I hope that makes sense.
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This is GREAT advice and speaks to me on a personal level, thank you!
 
thenewkcm said:
This is GREAT advice and speaks to me on a personal level, thank you!
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Right. We both had the same idea about meeting him. We have been in contact on daily basis. He is a great human. He supports me through some difficulties i am facing (i dont mean money) and he's really standing there as a true friend. Last day we almost spent it together. Met for a coffee and had some delicious dinner as well as a very nice talk, clearing things out, getting to know more about each other. Im meeting his bf soon, and im invited for a chill evening at their place. Things are getting clearer.

As for the advice on meeting new people, you know that websites are full of weirdos,. It is just too hard to find something which can just be a coffee than just a fuck n go.
 
tiesilk said:
Right. We both had the same idea about meeting him. We have been in contact on daily basis. He is a great human. He supports me through some difficulties i am facing (i dont mean money) and he's really standing there as a true friend. Last day we almost spent it together. Met for a coffee and had some delicious dinner as well as a very nice talk, clearing things out, getting to know more about each other. Im meeting his bf soon, and im invited for a chill evening at their place. Things are getting clearer.

As for the advice on meeting new people, you know that websites are full of weirdos,. It is just too hard to find something which can just be a coffee than just a fuck n go.
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I think you should meet some friends closer to your age. Yes it is fine to have older friends, but part of the bonding power of friendship is that you are going through similar experiences at the same time so you grow with that person. You miss out on this experience when the friend has already gone through a situation several years ago that you are going through currently. I.E. me and several friends are all going through quarter life crisis right now (are we on the right path, what should we be doing with our lives, etc). It is stressful, they are challenging questions to answer, but we are answering them together. in 20 years, we will be able to look back and reminisce about those times we stayed up til 3 A.M. eating chicken fingers and talking about businesses we need to start while still struggling to pay bills. You cant do that with your older friend, because he has already gone through that with people his own age.

He sounds more like a "gay mentor" to you than anything, and like a previous poster said, I would question what he is getting out of it. I wouldn't be surprised if you get recruited to their open relationship (only in bedroom capacity)after meeting his bf, because that is where it sounds like it is heading.

Go join a club, recruit friends from work, or something in the community and meet friends your own age. Remember, they don't have to be gay.

Also, there are a lot of weirdos on the net, but you met this guy on the net right? He isnt the only sane person on the internet. Maybe utilize better screening processes for people you meet on there? Make sure your profile doesnt suggest sex?
 
Why is the net the only place you can meet people?
 
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