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Meth Addiction

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Hello,

One of my favorite neighbors is having trouble with her 18 year old son. He recently started to get in with a bad crowd and we found out that for the last 3 weeks he has been using meth. He has not been home for 4 days. I want to help but I'm not sure what to do. They have tried to talk to him. They have had family talk to him, an ER nurse, someone that was previously an addict talk to him, and they said that he will need to hit bottom before wanting help. The scarry thing is the bottom could be death. He has always been a good kid. He has had a little bit of a self esteem issue over the years. He has thought that he was not attractive enough. He is not seeing what he really is. Because, seriously, that is not an issue. He went to a high school that most of the students come from extremely wealthy families. His family is not poor, by any means, but it is not wealthy either. More like upper middle class. We know where he works. I was thinking about writing a card and leaving it there just to remind him that there are a lot of people that care about him. I'm not sure if that is a good idea or not. I don't want to make things worse either.

Any suggestions? :confused:
 
i would suggest the family call a drug counselor or a social worker for some guidance. They will be able to help you guys steer this young man in the right direction. I have had dealings with Meth addicts as a police officer. I understand that it is one of the hardest drugs to kick, but I know people who have done it, so it is not impossible.
You are a good person to intervene like this, most neighbors would say...not my prob....good on u!
 
I would advise that you not intervene with him personally unless you are actually someone he views as a friend and respects. I assume that is not the case given that you are considering writing him a message.

The best thing is for his parents to intervene in a dramatic way - either by forcing him into rehab or actually having him arrested and let the court direct him into a program. I had a friend get hooked on meth, a smart guy with a good job. In a matter of weeks he was literally roaming the streets, engaging in all sorts of risky behavior. His family had to come from out of state to take him home and put him in a program. None of us, his friends, could do anything. The best way to put it is to use a phrase from a drug song, "meth is not to be fucked with."
 
Good luck, meth is so highly addictive. It will rot your teeth and it also cause unsightly blemishes all over your body. It crystallizes in your body and your body tries to push it out through your pores and blocks them. I saw alot of people I know go through this and hope that his family can help him before it gets worse.
 
I was just told that he is embarassed right now and does not want people to know. So I guess it would be better if I don't do anything for now except try and provide emotional support for the parents. :(

Thanks for the advice guys. If you think that there is a better option, let me know.

I guess his (ex)girlfriend got him on it. :(
 
I personally don't think that it is your responsibility.

You should not be getting involved with the boy personally, instead you should feel free to give the parents any support that you feel appropriate. As I understand it your wish to help the boy is extremely laudable but that you put your self at risk as you have no experience or training to deal with such situations.

On the other hand you have all the necessary traits of character to help his parents, support, someone to talk it over with who is not emotionally involved, someone intelligent enough to give good advice and point them towards the kinds of aid available and the choices they may have to make.
 
It's none of your concern man. Be all and end all, stuff like this is a family matter. What the guy needs is some enforced cold-turkey isolation, something that you obviously can't dole out without getting some heavy jail-time.
 
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Gotta agree with everyone here - unless you know this kid really well and he looks up to you - let the family deal with him. Obviously, let your neighbor know that you are there for them if they need anything you will help, but it would be best to leave this to the family. They are the ones who will ultimately be dealing with this problem and seeing it to its end.
 
You can only be a friend to the family in the end, and it is a family matter that only they can deal with. I guess it makes you feel helpless in away to see all the potential in someone thrown away. In the end he has to figure it out, and his embarassment is at least the first sign he knows and understands he's doing something bad and ashamed of it. Let us hope he come out the other end, and moves on from his problem.
 
I wish I could help, because my sister and my mother were both addicted to meth a few years back. My sister quit because she got pregnant, and hasn't touched it since, and my mother quit because she was charged as an accomplice to robbery. Her boyfriend and her were robbing houses to support their addiction. She's a lot better now, though, thankfully.

When I tried to talk to them about it back then, they actually thought meth was helping them. In a way, meth did help them get things done, but on a larger scale it's so destructive. My mom looks ten years older than she should and my sister virtually has no teeth.
 
metta said:
I was just told that he is embarassed right now and does not want people to know. So I guess it would be better if I don't do anything for now except try and provide emotional support for the parents. :(

Thanks for the advice guys. If you think that there is a better option, let me know.

I guess his (ex)girlfriend got him on it. :(
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I don't agree that he HAS to hit bottom.
There are other ways. Sometimes, motivation takes root and something in a person grows and separates a person from the Destroyer.
You might give it a try. A little "note"? Might not do much. But it might start a dialogue. If you are somebody he can talk to that's something positive. And if you are someone the parents can trust and talk to, that too.
Turn this self-destructive situation into something else. Yes, it can happen. Lots of human-life-energy going to waste! A friendly intervention can certainly start on the basis of seeing that.

There are several possibilities...
 
It's nice you care, pity there aren't more people in the world who actually give a flying f*** about whats happening next door to them. I think if you have let his immediate family (parents) know that you care thats about as much as you can do, they will be struggling themselves on a whole different level.

Speaking from first hand experience the stigma associated of having a drug addict in your family causes a massive amount of problems. I imagine many families will find sorting them out in relative privacy if possible is the best option. Only when the kid is willing to accept that he needs help will things improve.
 
Thanks everyone. I will be good... :) I have already offered my help to the family. It was the first thing that I did. I have never seen them so distraught as they are now. dkonfrost made some homemade food and took it over there.

(*8*)


And thanks for the clip. I hear of these drugs but don't really understand what they do or or how they work. The clip was very interesting.
 
I was trying to learn a little bit more about what meth is and in the information that I found, someone mentioned a drug called Ibogaine as being a very effective treatment. It is illegal in the US because it can cause halucinations. Some of the researchers feel that it is a positive thing as part of the treatment process. I don't know if that is just during the treatment or if that is a permanant thing. I read that it is illegal in 2 countries in the World, the US and Belgium.

I think that it may be worth at least learning about. I read that it is 70% effective. I don't know how accurate that number is. Here is a video news clip:

[ame="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8892713606137156538"]The Addiction stopperIbogaine: Ibogaine[/ame]

http://www.relfe.com/ibogaine.html

http://www.ibeginagain.org/
 
What's bad about meth is it robs users of the very things and sensations they hoped to heighten: their looks, their popularity, friends, virility, etc. It's a losing game in the end and the young man needs to be hospitalized. Leaving a note won't do a bit of good.
 
Best wishes. I Hate Meth. It's like picking a fight with a tornado.
 
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