Well I graduated on may 9, 2008... big day. My boyfriend of 3.5 years who helped me finish my degree (I was ready to drop out because of the stress, but he encouraged me to continue and helped me study) attended my graduation.
My folks wanted to dinner and I told them if they wanted to, my "friend" was coming to. Well my dad was cold didn't talk to him much, but my mom was friendly and talked with my boyfriend. My dad did buy his dinner though, so i was little shocked.
My sister has known about him for our entire relationship and loves him like a brother, my 4 yr old niece loves him more than me at times (I'm the male influence in her life and am the strictest with her, but the child is the best with me in public and eats (she doesnt eat much for the rest of the family). So that part of my family is good.
Well I have lived at home while going to college. I work just enough to pay my bills and to buy some groceries. I'm always gone though and on the weekends I'm at my boyfriend's house from friday until sunday night. My parents don't care because I've always been a good kid. No drugs, no heavy drinking, no partying, never got detention/suspension, not even a speeding ticket.
Well they talked and figured out I am gay and that John is my boyfriend. he is 7 years older than me, which scares my dad because of a coworker that shot his younger toy and then killed himself.
I came home sunday night, no one talked to me.... very tense in the house. My Mom and I went out to dinner on Monday... but on tuesday, when dad went to work, she asked me if I was gay. I told her yes, told her how great of a man my boyfriend was, told her about the history together. She cried, i cried. My mom is korean and didn't go to school, so talking with her can be hard. But she understands and feels so guilty because of how she talked about gays in the past in front of me, making fun of them. That tore her up so much. She told me to be proud and to put my shoulders back. To say, "so what I love guy. SO what? No matter. Just no be shy." I never thought she would be so accepting. I thought she would be the one to scream and yell. I've got a great mom.
My dad has been acting colder to me than normal, but we have never had a good relationship. He is being nice to me and helping me find a job. He wants me to have a good life. He won't bring up John, but I will give him time. He's scared, but knows it's no ones fault. he told my mom that John is not allowed in the house and that he doesn't want to see him. My mom wants to meet john and see the home we are going to make. I think my dad will come around in time, his best friends are a lesbian couple . . . he just needs time.
It's been a tough month, but I think things are getting better. I thought I would share my story... it's weird writing this now....
My folks wanted to dinner and I told them if they wanted to, my "friend" was coming to. Well my dad was cold didn't talk to him much, but my mom was friendly and talked with my boyfriend. My dad did buy his dinner though, so i was little shocked.
My sister has known about him for our entire relationship and loves him like a brother, my 4 yr old niece loves him more than me at times (I'm the male influence in her life and am the strictest with her, but the child is the best with me in public and eats (she doesnt eat much for the rest of the family). So that part of my family is good.
Well I have lived at home while going to college. I work just enough to pay my bills and to buy some groceries. I'm always gone though and on the weekends I'm at my boyfriend's house from friday until sunday night. My parents don't care because I've always been a good kid. No drugs, no heavy drinking, no partying, never got detention/suspension, not even a speeding ticket.
Well they talked and figured out I am gay and that John is my boyfriend. he is 7 years older than me, which scares my dad because of a coworker that shot his younger toy and then killed himself.
I came home sunday night, no one talked to me.... very tense in the house. My Mom and I went out to dinner on Monday... but on tuesday, when dad went to work, she asked me if I was gay. I told her yes, told her how great of a man my boyfriend was, told her about the history together. She cried, i cried. My mom is korean and didn't go to school, so talking with her can be hard. But she understands and feels so guilty because of how she talked about gays in the past in front of me, making fun of them. That tore her up so much. She told me to be proud and to put my shoulders back. To say, "so what I love guy. SO what? No matter. Just no be shy." I never thought she would be so accepting. I thought she would be the one to scream and yell. I've got a great mom.
My dad has been acting colder to me than normal, but we have never had a good relationship. He is being nice to me and helping me find a job. He wants me to have a good life. He won't bring up John, but I will give him time. He's scared, but knows it's no ones fault. he told my mom that John is not allowed in the house and that he doesn't want to see him. My mom wants to meet john and see the home we are going to make. I think my dad will come around in time, his best friends are a lesbian couple . . . he just needs time.
It's been a tough month, but I think things are getting better. I thought I would share my story... it's weird writing this now....
