I didn't say "it's no big deal get over it."
You're hearing your own preconceived notions.
What I said is this happens every moment of every day, it's Republicans and Democrats, white and black, rich and poor, North and South. Millions of Americans have ugly thoughts and express them in emails, over the phone and across the dinner table. Every. Single. Day.
And it is not only Republicans or white gays and straights. You can pretend it is and get all outraged, then feel good about blacks helping to pass Prop 8, but it is a lie. Some blacks are very ugly about whites and some whites are very ugly about blacks. Not all on one side, some on both sides.
Some Democrats are ugly about "Republicans," as if being a Republican is evil. It is not. Some people who say or do bad things are Republicans, but not all Republicans are bad. You've got your definitions very badly screwed up.
This is over the top offensive. As a white gay man in the 1980s I spent countless hours hauling my ass into black and Hispanic neighborhoods where I clearly was not welcome by many, to help black and Hispanic people with AIDS who had been abandoned by their families and communities and friends. I wasn't alone, there were many white gays who did this. And to this day I'm more than willing to help out any way I can. I have never said or believed that racism is "over-blown," in fact I've said it remains a big problem that is much more widespread than the obvious instances like this that get used to make Republicans or some other group look bad. A lot of people who claim they're not racist and don't appear to be racist are, in fact, racist in secret, which impacts what's going on at least as much as overt racism.
