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discovery2010

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Hello! So a few nights ago I went on what I would consider my first real gay date. I really was not expecting anything to happen. Like literally I thought we'd have a drink, be awkward, say goodnite and head home. Instead, we went to a bar and talked for a really long time, walked around for a while, and headed back to his apt. We definitely had some awkward moments but nothing terrible, and after talking for a while more, he just came in and kissed me. And then we just made out for a really long time. I was just so nervous and didn't really know what to do, so I just followed his lead and things got a bit more physical. Somehow we ended up on his bed and, you know the drill, started to really fool around. Anyways, he was really the aggressor and I kinda just went with it, but I think we both enjoyed what happened. I had to leave the parking lot by a certain time, so we were cut off by that, but he dropped me off at my car, said he was glad we did this, and then kissed me goodnight.

Obviously I want to see him again and I assumed he did too. So I texted him yesterday and asked if he was free if I could call him so we could chat. He said he was somewhere in public so not really, so I just said ok and if he wanted to call me later this week when he's free that'd be cool. But I never got a response from him and have just been thinking about it since. I'm probably thinking about it way too hard, but what do you think? I just kinda got a negative vibe from his most recent message and just don't know what he's thinking. Really though, I just want to know what he thought of the other night and if he wants to hang out again, but I don't wanna be pushy and keep messaging him. Am I just thinking about it too hard? Is he probably gonna call soon? I know I'm lame but here we are. Thanks in advance for the help!
 
I would ask him if it's bothering you that much. I have a feeling he either didn't think what you wrote needed a response or he was hoping for sex and didn't get it so he has moved on.

If it didn't work out, at least you only invested one date in the guy.
 
Stop over-analyzing and getting caught up in the "who will call whom" game.

If you're doing something over the weekend (movie, sporting event, dinner), call him or drop him a text and invite him to come with you. If he doesn't respond, then take that as a "no" and don't waste anymore time on him.
 
discovery2010 said:
Really though, I just want to know what he thought of the other night and if he wants to hang out again, but I don't wanna be pushy and keep messaging him. Am I just thinking about it too hard? Is he probably gonna call soon? I know I'm lame but here we are. Thanks in advance for the help!
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If you got physical on the first date, then he might actually need some space to sort out his own feelings. As a general rule, men tend to lose interest after they have sex, which is why its best to build an emotional connection first. I don't know how much you guys bonded beforehand so I can't say how he is probably taking your first date. I would say however that stifling any sparks would be bad. Give it a little time, but be clear on your expectations next time you talk with him.
 
discovery2010 said:
Obviously I want to see him again and I assumed he did too. So I texted him yesterday and asked if he was free if I could call him so we could chat. He said he was somewhere in public so not really, so I just said ok and if he wanted to call me later this week when he's free that'd be cool. But I never got a response from him and have just been thinking about it since. I'm probably thinking about it way too hard, but what do you think? I just kinda got a negative vibe from his most recent message and just don't know what he's thinking. Really though, I just want to know what he thought of the other night and if he wants to hang out again, but I don't wanna be pushy and keep messaging him. Am I just thinking about it too hard? Is he probably gonna call soon? I know I'm lame but here we are. Thanks in advance for the help!
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Um.... Its only Tuesday. This week ain't even half over and your freaking because he hasn't gotten around to calling you back? Your text told him you just wanted to chat. Maybe he doesn't put a high priority on chatting so freaking out because he didn't call you the next day is... well, a bit clingy. Nothing personal, but you need to relax, take a few (thousand) slow, deep breaths... Then decide to go see a movie this weekend. Once you have that planned do as Karabulut suggested and invite him. Don't be afraid to change plans if he isn't interested in a movie but wants to spend time with you. If he responds but doesn't want to another date be polite and move on. If he doesn't bother to respond... just move on.
 
Yeah, I missed the part about the week. Relax, it's only Wednesday.
 
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