Actually no. If her choice was to abstain from sex altogether she would actually be asexual.
Actually, yes. 1) If she has not had sex with a male, for whatever reasons, she is still heterosexual. She may be celibate, she may not have found a guy with whom she wants to have sex, but she is still heterosexual. The sexual attraction is there. A person who is asexual does not experience attraction to either sex, but he or she may have had sex with the same sex, the opposite sex, or both sexes.
You claim to understand my point, but this proves you do not. One's sexual orientation is based on who one has sex with.
No, not at all. Again, sexual orientation is determined by sexual attraction. How one chooses to express his or her sexual attraction or lack thereof, is sexual behavior. For example, a gay male who has always known he is gay may have had sex with women in order to gain acceptance, however, he is still gay. His attraction was solely to men, even if he was able to perform with women.
If she chooses to have sex with men she would be heterosexual. She is not heterosexual just because she chooses NOT to have sex with women.
Are you trolling? In my example, I never inferred that the female was a lesbian or bisexual. I said that she possesses a desire for men and has not acted upon those desires. She is still a heterosexual female, but she has not acted on her attractions. That does not automatically mean that she has desires for the same sex to any degree.
You are looking at the issue under the misguided concept that one is born with "sexual orientation". That is not true.
I've already addressed the idea that sexuality has multiple components to it. However, one of those components is a genetic predisposition. There is a strong psychological predisposition to one's sexual orientation that can be influenced by environmental, biological, and sociological factors.
It is a concept that was thought by those who wanted to fight the opinion that alternate sexual behaviors were a disease. By claiming a person was born with their sexuality they hoped to make it more acceptable, all they did was entrench the ideology that it was some form of defect that needed to be repaired. It is a choice made by the individual either directly or indirectly. There are many gays who succumbed to taunting that they were gay when they may not have been. But they accepted they choice made for them by bullies and idiots. Those that didn't really want the choice that was made for them then came up with the "born this way" opinion in an attempt to feel better about the choice, to tell themselves they had no choice, it was just who they are.
Actually, it is more than just a concept. As of now, it is generally agreed in multiple areas of the social sciences that there is a strong genetic component to one's sexuality. As for the "born this way" statement, that applies to many ideas, not just sexuality.
Innate desires change constantly.... The person who says he/she doesn't have thoughts/urges/desires contrary to his/her chosen sexuality is lying, first to him/herself then to others. Humanity is inherently curious, but many fool themselves into denying that fact. We may never understand why.
No. That is a huge sweeping generalization to speak for over seven billion people on earth. Furthermore, everyone does not experience fluctuations. For the people who do experience fluctuations or changes, it is not always related to sexual orientation. Last, for those people who may be curious, it does not necessarily mean that they experience any physiological or biological change in their sexuality. Curiosity can be as simple as questioning or having a passing thought.
True. This is the case for many who insist they are gay, yet have never had intercourse with a member of the same sex. Actions truly do speak louder than words.
However, one's actions do not always express his or her inner most thoughts or desires. Sexual behavior does not always equate to sexual attraction.
Yes this is true. Genetics play a part in a person's choice. BUT..... genetics does not choose in and of itself. Genetics also plays a role in a persons choice of career(s)/occupation(s) but is not the deciding factor. It all comes down to choice, either made by the individual, or by others on the individual's behalf. You yourself have proven the point I am making.
However, a person's choice, as you keep stressing, is still going to be affected by factors such as genetics, conditioning, environment, opportunities, etc.
You done put the cart before the horse. I am well versed in psychology and human sexuality. I just don't get locked up in the latest whims and crazes, even the ones that keep coming around because there are those who can't let misguided notions go. My "traumatic experiences served to open my eyes to the much larger picture. The problem is very few people are able to comprehend, Its like an old dot matrix image..... Most people are looking too close to see more than individual ink spots..... But when you step back and see the whole thing you can make out the actual image.
No, you're clearly not versed in it. When you keep equating sexual behavior to sexual orientation, you clearly have a limited understanding.
