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Welcome to JUB, Oberlin! :)

Until you've done some exploring and know for sure what it is you like, my advice would be to not worry about labeling yourself. You sound like you might be ready to move into some experimentation, so let yourself figure out what it is you like before being too concerned with what to call yourself.
 
Rule nothing out, and nothing in. You need to explore your feelings, and don't feel to have to fit the labels - straight, gay bi - that other people impose. You are yourself, and your sexuality is unique to you. Explore it and enjoy it. Best of luck
 
Haha. That's kinda funny cuz I find myself to be just the opposite. I think I'm pretty gay (I like guys...ALOT) but I've also been sexually turned on by girls before. I like the idea of kissing a guy, holding one, but the act of anal sex kinda repulses me. Strange, huh?
 
OberlinStudent said:
How do I go about finding someone to experiment with? I mean I know there is a huge gay community here at school, but I don't think that I would be comfortable with that, I want someone who is just trying stuff out too, and I don't even know where to start looking for that.
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Oberlin does have a huge gay community! I am orginaly from Ohio and was at Oberlin once about 12 years ago. Take a trip up to Akron or Cleveland. People on here might not know this but Ohio has a very large community. I think Lakewood,Ohio was once 3rd on a list of the best places to live if you are gay. Once Miami got popular it beat Lakewood out. Trust me, if you want dick Ohio is the place to be.
 
Bluedragon is right on the button, though if you really look, I'm sure you can find someone in Oberlin to just try stuff out, too. They have gays in every shade of the rainbow there, or so I've heard.

Also, you might try hook-up profile sites.
 
I never knew Ohio was supposed to be a good gay place to live? lol. I'm pretty close to you, I'd probably offer to help u out if I didn't have a bf lol
 
Yeah! I'm sure that some of the fanstastic LGBT student resources on the Oberline campus can help! Enjoying anal stimulation certainly doesn't make you gay or bi, if you're concerned about that, and being curious about bi/gay porn doesn't necessarily mean you're gay or bi.

But if you have any deeper senses of confusion or even if yo want tot alk to someone about your curiosity, talking to a counselor or someone in the psych department or the LGBT student center can probably help out a lot to get you sorted out. They could probably also refer you to some groups that meet to talk about being curious :)

I kind of want to see Oberlin. I was at a fencing tournament and they were there and their fencing socks are rainbow striped and their school patches are rainbow inverted triangles! Man! Way cool ;) We schooled them, though :(
 
Dude,
There is nothing wrong with trusting your gay friends about your Bi-curiosity. You only live once and college is the best place to test the waters. Just because you hook up with someone doesn't mean you're totally gay (yet). You are in control of your own destiny. Play safe and enjoy!
 
If approaching somebody in the flesh (so to speak) is too scary, why not try the Internet? Somebody else will have to tell you which site would be the best, but there are plenty of them. You can narrow down your search by zip code, age, what they're looking for, etc.

Now there are people here who will tell you that Internet hookups are always horrible, but I don't see why that has to be the case. Just be really clear what you're looking for, take the time to get to know somebody online before you agree to meet in person, and never commit to doing anything with them until you've had a chance to at least meet them.

And by the way, judging from the typical thread here, everybody has trouble finding the right person. So be patient.
 
Tons of internet sites where you can go and hook up. manhunt.net, men4sexnow, men4now just to name a few domains.

But a word of advice: guys who are straight don't have curiosities such as yours.
 
At some point, you are going to have to take the chance to ask a gay guy to experiment with you. Nobody knows your sexuality, right? Well, how do you expect to find another guy who is just as secretive about his feelings? You can't. Most likely, you can't find the "ideal" match you're looking for. Pick a gay friend you can trust and express your feelings. Many of us here are gay and look at how sympathetic we feel for your feelings. I'm sure there is a fellow homo who feels the same.
 
Trust me, it's not just YOU! There are hundreds, if not thousands, of Guys feeling the same things You are! And, yes, they are just as "shy" about anyone else knowing what they are feeling, as opposed to what they are showing the World. (group)

But, until You are willing to "drop Your shields", and take a few steps to let another one of those guys understand that He is not alone in what He is going through, too, you will only continue to contribute to your (and His) own frustrations. #-o ](*,)

You have Gay friends? THAT is a tremendous advantage! ..| Simply pick one you feel you can Trust, invite Him over for a sincere, personal, chat. Kick off your shoes. Snuggle up beside him. And tell him everything you are feeling/thinking, including your doubts, insecurities, and desires to remain private. :-$

On second thought, it's not about trusting Me! It's about finding the courage to completely Trust someone else! And I think you'll be surprised to find out how much "Just Us Boys" are very much alike! :hurray: (!w!)

Relax! Good Luck!!

And ... of course ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss: (*8*)
Chaz ;)

P.S.
I'm a relocated Ohioan, myself! ..|
 
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