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Move on, or try to hold on?

hackingnomberr

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So, I've already posted about this whole online friendship thing I got into and how there were obviously some complications seeing as it was online (though we were going to take it offline.) Like we talked and webcammed a lot the first few weeks and then suddenly I just kinda stopped getting anything out of him. [Short story]

Anyway, not to get into the whole thing but like the "friend" I met online sincerely tells me that he wants to be friends with me, but doesn't show it in anyway, like he never makes an effort to talk to me like he used to and kinda half asses a lot of the conversations we have. I've been thinking of dropping him just because I think he's lost complete interest and because I'm just getting hurt by the fact that I was so led on by him. But at the same time I like to think that there's something I can do to make us friends again. I've told him that I feel like we're not really friends and he goes on some BS nice guy tangent about how he really does want to be friends, so I'm really not sure what to do, I stopped talking to him for the past week and haven't heard from him at all either.

So, should I just drop him and move on?
Message him and just say bye for closure?
Try to fix our friendship since I really enjoyed it?
Tell him how he made me feel, though he probably doesn't care since he won't even talk to me?
Or just talk to him like we're still friends and nothing's wrong even though he doesn't reciprocate?
 
is he busy, maybe something is going on in his life that's personal. some people are flakey by nature (which ultimately does give you the choice of how much you want to put up whit it.)

I would message him again next week. I would ask him to hang out actually.
 
Online friendships are a different category of friendship. You're expecting too much from it.

Relationships are like investments. You put a lot into it and you should have a reasonable expectation of a return on your investment. That return may not be consistent and it may never be equal to what you put in, but you should require something in return for your time and effort.

If you're having to work this hard to maintain any relationship, it's a sign that it's probably time to move on. And maybe it's time to focus more on your real-life friends- you know, the ones that will be there when you need them (and vice versa).
 
Just let it go and move on to find real live friends that are worth investing energy in.
 
There's your answer, assuming CB's your guy. And in that event, next time, don't get passive-aggressive about it. Ask him. Not us - him.

Lex
 
LOL CB'S NOT MY GUY!
Wow that totally made this thread awkward though I totally look bad now huh Lexington? =P
Anyway, I've done the whole online friendship and made it work before like sure it's kind of a different friendship but at a certain point it doesn't have to be, like I wouldn't have these high expectations if I didn't get such a good response in the first place, y'know?

And I'm not out, so there's like a lot of stuff I can't tell my real life friends, besides it's sick to have an online friend who knows nobody you know so you can tell them pretty much anything.~

He does try to say that he doesn't really talk to people as much because of some personal shit going on in his life, but like that's when I'd talk to people most...
 
hackingnomberr said:
And I'm not out, so there's like a lot of stuff I can't tell my real life friends, besides it's sick to have an online friend who knows nobody you know so you can tell them pretty much anything.~

He does try to say that he doesn't really talk to people as much because of some personal shit going on in his life, but like that's when I'd talk to people most...
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OK. Is this the Paris Hilton "sick" that is good or is it the Dr Phil "sick" that's bad?

Everyone is different but it seems a little sad that you don't have friends in RL that you can trust enough to tell them everything. Maybe that's what the real problem is?
 
Haha, Paris Hilton's sick, besides who am I supposed to tell about my friend's here, because I can't tell them about themselves. =P
But yeah, I can trust them, but I'm just not ready to come out yet.

I'm pretty sure he's not busy, I'm probably gonna get really messed up tonight and settle this once and for all though, assuming I get any response.
 
The "thing" about the whole "Nice Guy" deal, saying he still wants to be friends, but stays out of touch, is that HE truly does think of himself as a "Nice Guy", and doesn't want to possibly Hurt you with the Truth.

Sounds like He's moved on, though. And, you should, too.

"Actions speak louder than words."

Of course ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
Haha I'm doing work right now, he makes it so hard though. =_=
I'm really annoyed right now though that Lexington thought Chilly was my guy, totally tarnished my image.
 
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