moving away possibly?

[turnandburn]

I doubt this the right place for this thread. but here goes...

Ive been planning a vacation to Maui for a while with a good friend of mine sometime at the end of summer. Today he called me and said that he was not planning on returning at the end of the trip, and hes been looking at places and getting a job lined up. He also asked me if I wanted to get a place with him there. So I would be totally down to stay because my job would let me transfer over, id just be leaving everything behind, like my best friend who ive had a huge crush on since god knows how long. he has a girlfriend but I have evidence that he's wanted to experiment before. So im trying to figure out should I stay and beat myself up over the fact that i cant have him and hope that one day he breaks or move and forget about him and start over? All things job related aside because thats not the point of this question.

 

[rareboy]

Go.

Don't look back.

 

[breathe]

Do not stay because you have a perceived idea that your married friend wants to experiment. Listen to how ridiculous that sounds. Even if he DID want to experiment-- that's no reason to stay where you are instead of moving.

As said above. Move there and don't look back.

 

[LoveIsNow]

Go or stay, but either way stop thinking about the guy. If going will help you forget, then it could be a very good idea.

 

[G-Lexington]

Go.

Lex

 

[turnandburn]

It does sound pretty ridiculous when you type it out. Lol. I guess I would just miss him as a friend more than anything. Plus its Maui... I could get a nice tan (I'm from western WA so I'm pretty white) and be on beach...

 

[Halifaxboy8]

I doubt this the right place for this thread. but here goes...

Ive been planning a vacation to Maui for a while with a good friend of mine sometime at the end of summer. Today he called me and said that he was not planning on returning at the end of the trip, and hes been looking at places and getting a job lined up. He also asked me if I wanted to get a place with him there. So I would be totally down to stay because my job would let me transfer over, id just be leaving everything behind, like my best friend who ive had a huge crush on since god knows how long. he has a girlfriend but I have evidence that he's wanted to experiment before. So im trying to figure out should I stay and beat myself up over the fact that i cant have him and hope that one day he breaks or move and forget about him and start over? All things job related aside because thats not the point of this question.

You can't hold on to a maybe.

I've had a lot of experiences with the bf/gf scene where the bf is curious. Curiosity does not normally relate into anything that is worth stopping or redirecting your life for.

I'd suggest going to Maui and having a great time. But, keep in touch with your bud. Moving doesn't mean breaking clean of a friendship.

Perhaps in your move, and consequent communication, you can discover more about your friend. Some people open up more through text and distance.

 

[hylas]

it has already been said: whatever decision you make, dont base it on that silly crush you have.