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Moving in...?

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I don't think there's a certain timescale. One of my friends moves bfs in within weeks - and has the attitude that its better to find out earlier rather than later if you can live together! Personally for me, thats way too quick!

As you're already spending most of the weekend together, why not start off with him staying over on Fri/Sat/Sun nights, and see how it goes. I very much like my own space too, and see this pretty much as I'd play it with my future partner. This way, its an introduction to sharing your time and space with him, BUT, you both still have the weekdays for your own time and space.

Who knows, you may find that you manage the weekends in such a way that you feel like you're together, but also manage not to be in each other's pockets!

Dave (*8*)
 
Yeah, I gotta agree with quasar here. When you are already spending the weekends together, why don't you spend the nights together as well?
I am a guy with MUCH need for his own space. And moving in with someone would be like marriage for me ;) But still - a few nights together with your guy makes the week perfect ;)
 
Most people move in together too quickly. You two have known each other long enough to talk about moving in. My bi buddy and I have known each other for 1 1/2 years. He now talks about wanting a few days away from his girlfriend. I know it's going to be longer than that, at least I hope so!
 
I really don't see any pressing need to move in anytime soon if you only live 5 blocks away. :O
 
Antares said:
Is there some unwritten rule about relationships whereby you have to move in together after a certain amount of time?
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No.

Moving in together is sometimes a step in a series of progressions. But if you are happy the way things are, then that is all that matters.

The not-spending-the-night part is a little unusual, though. There are couples who spend some quality time together in bed and then go to their own bed for sleeping. Sometimes it's because one or both of them snore or one of them is restless and keeps the other person awake, etc. But even these couples do share a bed for night on occasion. But, if this works for you and you both are happy with it, then it's perfectly fine.

Out of curiosity, did you post this thread to see what is normal for other members or did you post because the situation bothers you or your boyfriend?
 
You two seem happy with your own routine. I wouldn't change it because you might perceive others think it's strange, or "too slow" or whatever. Talk with him about it candidly some time and make sure you're on the same page. If so, keep up what you're doing. If you two decide to make a move at some point in the future, you can.

Good luck!
 
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