Mum is ill again.

[star-warrior]

Thanks folks. My siblings have all gathered and together we saw mum today. The puffy bloatedness of her features have lessened, I think the fluids which they gave her prior to it being withdrawn a couple of nights ago is still sustaining her. She opened her eyes and spoke, but she was very tired. They're giving her morphine and other drugs to control the pain she may be having. It is now all about her comfort.

It brings back so many memories of my dad's passing. It is terrible for both to have had kidney failure.


Oscar Wilde's character Lady Bracknell is ringing in my head...

To lose one parent, Mr Worthing, may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness.
~The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895

 

[chrisrobin]

My prayers continue... be strong.

 

[talbot57]

So sorry to hear your news, I went through this a year ago with my Dad, I know how you're feeling. My thoughts are with you.

 

[Scrub]

Star

 

[star-warrior]

Spent most of the night with her and she slept, occasionally waking up blurting something out which I couldn't understand as her speech was slurred. Later on, she said she was hungry, and the nurse found her a raspberry mousse from their little kitchen. She apparently ate it and then fell asleep. It was the first thing in 2 and a half days she ate. For an insulin diabetic, it was unusual. This afternoon, the ward sister tested her blood and it was 4.1 mmol/L, which is more astounding because it's within the normal range (4~7). We're not sure why, but she's hanging on with stubborn determination. She's had a small canula fitted for the delivery of pain meds so they don't need to prod her every time she needs it. She's been mostly peaceful.

I'm most grateful to each and everyone of you who have shown me kindness and support in this difficult time. Thank you.

 

[ronboy]

My friend, I am saying a St. Jude Novena for her....

 

[star-warrior]

^ Big Hugs

 

[CowboyBob]

star-warrior, you and your family are in my thoughts this weekend.

Stay strong.

 

[Lefty]

W...

You are more than strong enough to meet this challenge. Take strength

from your family and friends. What would mom want you, you her son,

to do. Not to go Hallmark or anything, but your Mom will always be in

the siblings and the grandchildren. Like Dad, never completely gone.

My caring goes to you and yours.

 

[star-warrior]

Mum's not roused in all the time I spent there today, a combination of medicine to control her fits and the morphine has left her sleeping. Her breathing rate has slowed down to approx. 5 inhalations and exhalations per minute. She has colour in her cheeks, and seems peaceful.

Thanks to everyone again for being here for us

 

[palbert]

My heart and thoughts go out to you. I've been there with my mother and later my partner. Just be the son she raised and you will get through.

 

[Lefty]

Mum's not roused in all the time I spent there today, a combination of medicine to control her fits and the morphine has left her sleeping. Her breathing rate has slowed down to approx. 5 inhalations and exhalations per minute. She has colour in her cheeks, and seems peaceful.

Thanks to everyone again for being here for us

Strength "W" hold on to the thought that when the moment happens,
she won't be shackled to that bed but will always be held in the family
heart. It may sound a bit cold coming from here but, at this point you
all will benfit from this chapter being concluded.

I care friend and send thoughts frequently......愛和平安寧......

old chapel in lushan,China (sent as a peaceful moment)


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[chrisrobin]

Mum's not roused in all the time I spent there today, a combination of medicine to control her fits and the morphine has left her sleeping. Her breathing rate has slowed down to approx. 5 inhalations and exhalations per minute. She has colour in her cheeks, and seems peaceful.

Thanks to everyone again for being here for us

From what I've learned from caregivers, hearing is one of the last systems to shut down. If you speak words of love and kindness to your mum even now, I am convinced that she will hear you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours.

 

[jdcnow]

Hugs and lots and lots of love, star-warrior.

 

[khushibagh]

I am sorry to hear about your mom. I have been going through some tough times with my mom's health too. Stay strong.

 

[eddielee]

I pray that you will have peace and strength, during this difficult time.

 

[star-warrior]

Mum has turned the wheel of life and passed away most peacefully this morning. May she have a good rebirth and happy afterlife. We miss her tremendously.

 

[Ram]

I am very sorry to hear that.

 

[Appleman34]

I'm so sorry :{

I hope you and your family can get through this.

 

[jdcnow]

May this song and poem bring you a measure of peace and comfort. Huge hugs, star-warrior. Please know that you and your family are thought about.


Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave bereft
I am not there. I have not left.
I am where I have always been,
By your side, and in your heart's den.
Love forever and always...

-Anonymous...