My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape...

[spooger]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

how long will he be around? gaWD i hate those situations!! ... i feel for ya

tell him and BE fiRM what you will and will not do about going clubbing...and stick to it...

doesn't sound like you'd be sad if he snubbed you....but what will he broadcast through the family network?

i say....Fuck Him...be yourself

 

[Joshua_me]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Don't stress about it....

Just tell him you don't feel like going to a club. Hang out, watch TV, eventually he'll get the message that you really don't want to hang with him....

Tell him you feel like giving his girl a call just so the two of you can 'catch up on things'....

That should do it.

 

[RobinGoodfellow]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Better yet: How evil are you feeling? I'm sure you know a local club that caters to transvestites, right? I mean, I hate doing it,. but if you tell them what's going on...

RG

 

[spooger]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

at 21 i was not dependent on my parents for housing or support, but i hadn't "come out" to them.....in fact i never did....it just wasn't necessary....they loved whom ever i loved and they never intruded .....

i don't know what to tell you...but surely you must recognize....if your cousin AND your dad are asking the same questions......then this may foment into "THE" family event....please be strong....and be understanding....and careful

good luck!!

 

[Sunshine]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Take a ton of excedrin PM and sleep through it all.

 

[LatinoSTAR]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Take a ton of excedrin PM and sleep through it all.

now now sunshine, we dont want the poor dear to overdose on excedrin PM!

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Ok, fine, so Dad wants you to have a "good relationship"with him. That doesn't mean you have to do exactly what he wants to do. If he wants to go to clubs to hit on chicks, just point him in the direction of a few and tell him you're not interested. If he wants to do something YOU'RE interested in - see a movie or whatever - cool. Otherwise, he's on his own.

Lex

 

[Bruski-101]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Somting about cousins OR FAM. they are dumb untill you let them know that you love them.

 

[dpnice]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

You could tell him that you are gay. Perhaps that would solve all the problems.

Seriously I can understand that you can't stand him, that is normal. But don't hate people just because they keep asking when you are going to get a girlfriend. For most people this is something that is a natural subject of conversation as they expect everyone to have a romance interest in their lives.

Now if they knew you were gay they would stop asking the annoying question.

Mind you it could then change into "when are you going to find a guy?".

 

[jft245]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Just tell him that going to clubs is not your thing, you cant stand the noise and all the people. If he cant understand that then it is his problem. If the subject of why you don't have a girlfriend comes up, tell him nicely that you dont discuss your personal life and let it go at that.

 

[sunshinesteve]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Tell him you think he is an asswhole(sic) and that you dont want to hang out with him.....He should get the message!

 

[cocktales]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Hmmmmmmmmmmm?

Since telling him the truth is out-of-the-question, I guess you should come up with some more lies to cover your sexuality!

I know you hate it; but sometimes one's situation is NOT where you can be too truthful, since you don't want your parents to know....yet!

So, "IF" you think this will work, why not tell him that you consider sex outside the marriage NOT into your liking and that you do NOT like to "club-around" "whore-around" or any other names that will convince him to lay off you!!!

He'll probably still call you a pansy-ass; but he'll still think (I hope) that your principles far-outweigh his fucked-up ones!

Tell him you enjoy having him visit the family; but that you do NOT appreciate him trying to tell you how to live your life...

Give him the whole talk about being sexual active and NOT wanting to get an STD/AIDS, etc!!!

Come on, NOW is the time for you to make the biggest performance of your life to finally get him off your back, once and for all!

Good luck!

 

[Joshua_me]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Come on, NOW is the time for you to make the biggest performance of your life to finally get him off your back, once and for all!

Good luck!

Roger, as if I needed reminding... You remain one of the smartest, most level headed people here @ JUB.

 

[Ninja108]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

Always one in every family. Take cocktales advice or do what I did.. get "sick" when he visits.

 

[FPNY]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

I know I'm coming into this conversation late, but I don't get the dilemma. You're an adult. You don't like the guy? Don't bother hanging out with him, plain and simple. Just because your Dad wants you to do something doesn't mean you have to. Tell your Dad you don't like the guy and will not host him in any, shape of form. I will say it again, you're an adult and nobody should can make you do anything that makes you unhappy or uncomfortable. PERIOD. If you're Dad doesn't respect that, then that's his prob.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Re: My asswhole cousin is coming; I can't escape..

He sounds a tad better than the douch bag who abused me, one of my cousins, from age 12 to 16, 56 to 52 years ago. Maybe you should not plan to be home when he visits. It seems you know when he is coming, which is something I did not know.


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