My best freind just sucked my cock. Is he gay?

[backpacker]

Don't ignore your free will in this mess. Short of drugging you or tying you up, there's no evidence that this guy is forcing you to do this. He may "initiate it" but you're the one taking the bait every time.

If you want this to stop (and there's not that much evidence to indicate that you do want it to stop), then you have the ability to stop it at any time.

Why anyone would want to be involved- as a friend or as a lover- with the kind of person who lies and cheats on their girlfriend?




His feelings are immaterial. Who knows if he even has feelings about what he's doing to you and to his girlfriend?

He knows you're gay. Having a cock in your mouth once might be dismissed as curiousity but when you're having a regular diet of cock in your mouth, it becomes pretty evident that something is going on besides just experimentation. Even Helen Keller would know you're gay at this point.

But the gay thing isn't the issue here. You could be a girl who he was cheating on with his girlfriend and it would be the same issue. You're the piece on the side. You're being used. He's not going to chose you over the girlfriend- if he were, he would have already done so.

The issue here is that your life is on hold because you're wanting something with this guy that you can't have. He's a user. He's a cheater. He's a liar. It's really up to you to end it and move on to someone healthy who is capable of commitment and doesn't want to live a lie.

You're the one with the power here. Do what is best for you.

Great advice! Your current relationship with him is unhealthy. The best thing you can do is distance yourself from him and concentrate on finding someone who will reciprocate your feelings. I know it's hard to do, but in the long run you will be far happier.

 

[DanimalX]

Don't ignore your free will in this mess. Short of drugging you or tying you up, there's no evidence that this guy is forcing you to do this. He may "initiate it" but you're the one taking the bait every time.

If you want this to stop (and there's not that much evidence to indicate that you do want it to stop), then you have the ability to stop it at any time.

Why anyone would want to be involved- as a friend or as a lover- with the kind of person who lies and cheats on their girlfriend?




His feelings are immaterial. Who knows if he even has feelings about what he's doing to you and to his girlfriend?

He knows you're gay. Having a cock in your mouth once might be dismissed as curiousity but when you're having a regular diet of cock in your mouth, it becomes pretty evident that something is going on besides just experimentation. Even Helen Keller would know you're gay at this point.

But the gay thing isn't the issue here. You could be a girl who he was cheating on with his girlfriend and it would be the same issue. You're the piece on the side. You're being used. He's not going to chose you over the girlfriend- if he were, he would have already done so.

The issue here is that your life is on hold because you're wanting something with this guy that you can't have. He's a user. He's a cheater. He's a liar. It's really up to you to end it and move on to someone healthy who is capable of commitment and doesn't want to live a lie.

You're the one with the power here. Do what is best for you.

You're right. In every way.

I just thought in some way if I never brought it up and let him be in control i could feel a little less guilty.

We've been best friends since we were kids, so this is such a storm of emotions for me right now. This is why I came here for help. Theres so much confusion right now I dont know how to make heads or tails of it. We know each other very well, and I know this isnt the first time he's cheated on his girlfriend. But we've always had such a tight bond together as friends, like brothers, and I thought what happened sexually was unique for some reason since it was the first time either of us had fooled around with another guy.

I just don;t want to lose him as a friend. And I know it'll be hard to stop this, because its what I've secretly always dreamed of, and I thought he finally felt the same.

I know I have to confront him, and I realize I'll probrably be hurt in the process.

I just don't want to.

Thanks again for the advice.

 

[rareboy]

We've fooled around the entire summer, and I know im a horrible person for fucking around with him behind his girlfriends back. I tried to stay away from the subject, but he initiated it each time. I asked him about his orientation and he told me he was bi. And when I see him with his girlfriend I find myself getting jealous even though I know I have no right to be, and then I just feel horrible on the inside.

Hey. OP.

See my original post.

 

[evanrick]

when did a bj get so complicated? ITS NOT COMPLICATED lol