My best friend

[cosmoo]

hej, I had a best friend once who told me he was homophobic (he said that when he was around 16 or so) (he didn't say that literally but he was always very negative about gay guys)
3years later I told him I was gay and he didn't mind at all! it was just something he said back than, while he didn't really think about it...

 

[vamp]

OMG guys, I'm so happy!!!! He didn't read my e-mail because it got bounced back to me with an error message. Anyways, I went over to his house today and hung out with him. Him, his little brother, and myself were outside and I worked up the nerve to tell him. I told my friend's little brother to go inside because I had something private to talk to him about. (Oh, BTW his name is Chris) So Chris asked me what I wanted to talk about and I just started out by asking him if we were best friends and as such should we be completely honest and open to each other. Chris just replied yeah of course we are. I told him that I haven't been completely open with him and FINALLY told him that I'm bisexual. He had a shocked look on his face and this got me down. I just broke down and started sobbing. To my surprise, he belittle me at all. Instead, came up and hugged me. He said that it's ok and that he's fine with it. He promised me that we'll always be best friends no matter what and he won't tell anyone. I just continued crying, but this time it out of so much joy and happiness. He told me that nothing will change between us. If anything he just has so much respect for me now. After all that, we just hung out and talked for few more hours. I could tell from that time that nothing will ever change between us. I'm so happy right now. I just feel so free and I'm amazed he took it so well. God, I guess he really does care about me as much as he says. Thank you all so much for your support! I love you all so much!!!

 

[thephoenix]

That is amazing news! Congratulations! Enjoy the new depth to your friendship!!

 

[vamp]

Thanks Phoenix! It's the day after and it still hasn't sunk in yet. This just feels so incredibly good. I haven't stopped smiling and laughing to myself since I told him. It's just so liberating. I feel like I just got the weight of the world off my shoulders. I still can't believe how he supported me. I feel like I'm on cloud 9 right now. I love him so much (as a brother you pervs lol!) Now I want to come out to all my friends. After this one, coming out any other of my friends will be very simple. I'm going to do it after I get over telling Chris.

 

[trawler69]

Well done mate. It is a great feeling isn't it, the relief of having finally done it after all the agonising and then to get total acceptance. Thank you for sharing this with us, there are many who your experiences will help.

 

[dalton41]

I'm very sorry that you are in pain like this vulture. I'm not quite sure what to say. If he's really your friend it won't matter. In fact, he could entirely accept you and the only reason he would be upset is because you haven't told him sooner. People generally only make issues as big a deal as you do. If you approach it from the standpoint of nothing is changing and stress you are the same guy, that might help it. However, still let him know that if he is stunned or shocked or anything; that's okay. It will take some getting used to. But only a small person would throw away 7 years of friendship on something that is in the end so trivial. Unless you're also going to tell him you're in love with him; then it gets really dicey.

You are right thephoenix. I told my friend and it did not bother him. Most friends wants honesty and if honesty hurts, then so much for being a friend. The only reason I told him was the fact that I love him and he understands. I don't know if he is bi or not but Friday, I laid my head on his chest again (third time), and he patted my head. WOW! Can't wait for New York in April!

 

[dalton41]

OMG guys, I'm so happy!!!! He didn't read my e-mail because it got bounced back to me with an error message. Anyways, I went over to his house today and hung out with him. Him, his little brother, and myself were outside and I worked up the nerve to tell him. I told my friend's little brother to go inside because I had something private to talk to him about. (Oh, BTW his name is Chris) So Chris asked me what I wanted to talk about and I just started out by asking him if we were best friends and as such should we be completely honest and open to each other. Chris just replied yeah of course we are. I told him that I haven't been completely open with him and FINALLY told him that I'm bisexual. He had a shocked look on his face and this got me down. I just broke down and started sobbing. To my surprise, he belittle me at all. Instead, came up and hugged me. He said that it's ok and that he's fine with it. He promised me that we'll always be best friends no matter what and he won't tell anyone. I just continued crying, but this time it out of so much joy and happiness. He told me that nothing will change between us. If anything he just has so much respect for me now. After all that, we just hung out and talked for few more hours. I could tell from that time that nothing will ever change between us. I'm so happy right now. I just feel so free and I'm amazed he took it so well. God, I guess he really does care about me as much as he says. Thank you all so much for your support! I love you all so much!!!

Way to go Vulture! I'm happy for you and yes, I cried too when I was telling him and then the tears were from the relief and the sense of being free and open. I know he has respect for you because like me, what else is there to hide now? Yes it hurts but it would hurt if our friends found out by some other means.

One thing about telling the truth, you only have remember one story.

 

[tallguy297]

Well done Vulture! Congrats on your strength and courage!!!!

I'm so glad for you that this all worked out the way you hoped it would!!!!

Hang onto that feeling mate...and let it power you through life....its what you deserve!!!

Congrats again!

 

[shea]

Vulture, I am so happy that things turned out so
well for you. A real friendship is a wonderful thing
and somewhat elusive. Sometimes it takes half a
lifetime to find real friendship. He is truly your friend.
Shea

 

[boy-i-wanna-make-u-sweat]

Awww baby-

Thats a fabulous story. I got a little teary eyed myself reading it- Awesome news, and I'm so happy for you!

Same here congratulations vulture.

 

[mydrew1]

Tell him and ask him out.

 

[vamp]

Tell him and ask him out.

I don't like him like that

 

[mattyboi_aus]

Now that, that is the kind of story that can brighten anyone's day.

Congratulations Vulture!

 

[Lucas07]

I'm so happy for you vulture!

 

[vamp]

Well, it's been a week since I came out to Chris. I went and saw him yesterday and hung around for couple of hours. I just felt so at ease around him. The atmosphere around us felt so loose and calm. The things we talked about were so much more personal and easy to talk about. I really enjoyed myself. I've been that calm and open around someone before. Then, today I came out to another one of my friends on my instant messenger. He asked me if I was sure about this. I told yeah I was. I asked him if he hated me. He told me "Fuck no dude! I couldn't care if you were as queer as a two dollar bill!" I just feel better with every person I come out to. He told me that I shouldn't have to be afraid of coming out and If someone can't accept me for who I am then fuck them. My eventual goal is to come out to everyone. I've even changed my orientation on myspace to bi. I swear this just gets easier with every person I tell.

 

[wilehart1978]

I felt the same way....I did tell my friend about my feelings for guys a months ago and it went very well. It also confirms alot of what he probably already suspected about my feelings towards him. However, he is cool with it and we are still very tight!!

I hope your situation works out. I too was very apprehensive about telling him. However after 10 years of friendship, I had to tell him who I really was. He knows everything about me and it's made us closer...

My best friend and I have been best friends for almost 7 years and we couldn't be happier together, but there is a problem. I'm bisexual and I don't how to tell him. He once told me that he is kind of homophobic. We try not to keep secrets from each other, that's the reason why I feel so wrong. It feels wrong to keep an important part of myself hidden. I can talk to him about anything except for that. Hell, I've been able to tell one or two of my other friends that I'm bi and were nothing but supportive. I'm just scared to tell him. Our friendship means everything to me, but I feel like I shouldn't let our friendship continue until I can find a way to open up to him. If I do that and it ruins our friendship, I would be totally devastated. What am I supposed to do?!!! Oh god I'm just so upset!!!

 

[G-Lexington]

Welcome to the other side, Vulture. It's so much nicer over here, isn't it?

Lex

 

[Xpione]

Just come out to him. If he is as close to him as he is as close to you, he will overcome his fear.

 

[Diodorus]

Just come out to him. If he is as close to him as he is as close to you, he will overcome his fear.

Uhhh..he did....See page 1.

Congrats Vulture!! BTW..

 

[Nice Boy]

I'm so happy that you came out to your best friend!

How beautiful thing it must be...

Once, I was trying to come out to my best friend for more than 2 years, but it didn't work! I've never done it and sometimes when I think about it, I feel really shit and take it as a personal loss.
Finally I lost him because I fell in love with him... and I've never told him I am gay even though I knew for 100% that he would take it OK...

I'm so glad you made it!