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My bf j/o next to me...

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Let me start with last night... When I got home there was no heat, the boiler stalled. I called and told my bf and he came right home and restarted it. A tech came out and said it was fine, don't be alarmed.

This morning, 3am I wake up to see him climaxing. I was shocked. He then got up to go to the bathroom to clean himself up. When he came back I asked him why he did he do that. He said "I was having a hard time sleeping, I was listening to hear if the boiler was turning on." I asked him why he didn't wake me and all he said was "it wasn't in spite." The freaking boiler was kicking on all night no problems, I call bs. I just can't believe that he would Jo next to me without me. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? We rarely have sex now and this just frustrates me even more. Any input? Thanks guys
 
NewGuy03 said:
Let me start with last night... When I got home there was no heat, the boiler stalled. I called and told my bf and he came right home and restarted it. A tech came out and said it was fine, don't be alarmed.

This morning, 3am I wake up to see him climaxing. I was shocked. He then got up to go to the bathroom to clean himself up. When he came back I asked him why he did he do that. He said "I was having a hard time sleeping, I was listening to hear if the boiler was turning on." I asked him why he didn't wake me and all he said was "it wasn't in spite." The freaking boiler was kicking on all night no problems, I call bs. I just can't believe that he would Jo next to me without me. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? We rarely have sex now and this just frustrates me even more. Any input? Thanks guys
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Don't worry man.. could be he did not want to wake you up.. could be he just wanted to j/o without having to go through with the foreplay and all that is involved there. He just may have been very horny and wanted to relieve himself quickly.
I'd say you are making too big a deal out of it. Sometimes guys just get horned up and want to jack.. don't want to go through all the kissing, and the lovemaking... they just want to jack.
I'd say no worries mate.. unless he totally has not sex with you at all.. then it may be time to find a new b/f.
I hope you and he do work it out though.. a good b/f is tough to find.
Best to you both. (*8*)(*8*)
 
If you rarely have sex together I can see why this would bother you, however, expecting never to j/o because one is in a relationship is not realistic.

You could offer to be wakened next time, but don't be upset if he doesn't.
 
Don't nag him or it will get worse.

Most couples I know sleep in separate rooms.
 
UM, to me, jacking off is something that can be shared...or not;

Primarily, and historically though, it is such a personal and singular thing that I don't see the big deal that you're making out of it.

I agree with <karaBulut> that there could be an underlying issue...
 
the sex not very often is the real issue and what you need to look at. There are times when I can't sleep so I'll j/o real quick because to wake him up and have sex would take over 30 min. I can j/o and be done in 5 then sleep.

so you are making a big deal over the wrong thing.

And I also agree that expecting to never j/o (either with or without your partner there) is completely unrealistic. I've been in a happy relationship (for the most part) for almost 14 years. His sex drive is WAY higher than mine. There is no way in hell we'd have made it that long if I had an issue with him (or either of us) jerking off from time to time
 
I love to take baths and showers with a partner.

But I like to take showers and baths alone too.

That infrequency thing......whose choice is that?

Oh, and as far as his boiler needing tending,

Best to worry when he starts looking for somebody

else to heat his bathwater. Try steaming things up

a bit but leave the hand towels out.
 
Your making a big deal out of nothing and if you don't let it go it is going to get worse. You seem to not have a good communication with him to work through issues. So there is something else building there. But my honey and i j/o if one is asleep if we wake up all horny and it's no big deal.

but bottom line is you guy's have bigger issues than this and that is also make this be a bigger issue than what it is..
 
covered above but .......

find out why no regular sex - that's the issue

jacking off solo is no biggie if the sex is better

personally i would rather jerk to porn than another person with me

if another person's with me ............ gotta have sex - j/o is poor substitute

but that's me :)
 
New Guy,

this is kinda bad so I apologizes in advance.........


Dude, be putting down that keyboard

be slithering out of those tightey whiteys

be slithering in next to the meat mauler

be licking lasciviously at your lips

be drooling slightly into his chest hairs

poke your moistened finger around his taint

be seductively whispering in his ear....

"Be needing help with that big boy....you big boy?"

be he still jerking off....let the jerk off and come see me.
 
NewGuy03 said:
Let me start with last night... When I got home there was no heat, the boiler stalled. I called and told my bf and he came right home and restarted it. A tech came out and said it was fine, don't be alarmed.

This morning, 3am I wake up to see him climaxing. I was shocked. He then got up to go to the bathroom to clean himself up. When he came back I asked him why he did he do that. He said "I was having a hard time sleeping, I was listening to hear if the boiler was turning on." I asked him why he didn't wake me and all he said was "it wasn't in spite." The freaking boiler was kicking on all night no problems, I call bs. I just can't believe that he would Jo next to me without me. Am I making a big deal out of nothing? We rarely have sex now and this just frustrates me even more. Any input? Thanks guys
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I would say you have a problem. Lack of sex and bf jacking off (MOST LIKELY often) without you. Something is not going right. I think it's worth a conversation.
 
^ presence of "alone sex" is not a problem nor should it ever be. lack of "together sex" however most likely is or will become a problem.
 
You're making a big deal out of nothing. Maybe you can spice up the sex a little bit? Well, whatever it is, talk to him about it and make sure you're somewhere you feel comfortable talking to him and he nor you gets distracted from making a point.
 
I know the feeling! My partner and I haven't had sex in MONTHS and its killing me. I get so pissed off because he has an entire storage container full of porn and he visits Xtube as well. I don't care if he jacks off, but why not be intimate with me if I'm ready, willing, and able?
 
NewGuy03 said:
We rarely have sex now and this just frustrates me even more. Any input? Thanks guys
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Whenever there are problems with a couple's sex life, there are problems with the relationship. You two need to talk.
 
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