My boss making advances?

[Shookone88]

Just curious what you guys think. I recently started a job, and I feel like my boss is really into me. He is usually a very assertive/grumpy type of guy, and everyone tells me that he's usually really tough on other people. In front of everyone else he is rude to me, but when we are alone he acts like we are best friends.

I will walk into his office, start chatting, and he will randomly look down at my crotch for a full second or so and then look back up with a grin. Sometimes he rubs his crotch area while I am talking to him, but I don't really know if he's just scratching or what?

A few weeks ago he asked if I needed help shopping for furniture for my new apartment, and wanted to go along with me, but I declined.

Today he invited me to go out boating with him this weekend on the lake, and gave me his cell and home phone numbers. I just said I would get back to him if I had time...

 

[diamondstar]

He's into you, no doubt. Milk it for all it's worth

 

[looseliam]

You know, it really doesn't matter.

Just do your job. If you do suspect that he has a thing for you, I recommend limiting alone-time whenever possible. I usually like to keep the door open. If questioned, I say "I have a thing about closed spaces and need the door open."

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Is he cute?

 

[cumguzzler]

similar situation happened to me once. if hes cute have some fun

 

[AlmondMilk]

I can think of a few ways in which this could end in disaster.

Avoid the office romance. Nothing good is likely to come of it.

It's a classic trap.

This. It doesn't even have to be an office romance... I'd avoid working at the same place as someone I was dating. I know people say it's ok if you're in separate departments, but he's your boss. What if you start getting into a guy..but your boss constantly makes advances? It wouldn't make a good situation.

 

[Entity]

Don't do it!!!

I had a brief "office romance" with my boss....

And now we're still together over a year later! lol

 

[G-Lexington]

Don't do it.
But say you did it.
And post here in graphic detail about him fucking you on his desk.

Lex

 

[MisterMajestic]

Is he cute?

He can't be..His Boss has made every effort to get some "One on One" time with him. His Boss hasnt hit-on-him in front of other co-workers only when they're alone...


My Boss is a 49yr old Silver-Fox and if he hit on me I'd Deff give him the response he's looking for....Shookone88 is simply not into his Boss.....As long as he keeps declining his boss's "suggestions" for get-togethers the Dude will eventually get the "Hint" that Shook ain't interested....

 

[FunFunk]

This. It doesn't even have to be an office romance... I'd avoid working at the same place as someone I was dating. I know people say it's ok if you're in separate departments, but he's your boss. What if you start getting into a guy..but your boss constantly makes advances? It wouldn't make a good situation.

I agree. I deliberately avoid dating anyone who works at the same company I do because what happens in the personal relationship can affect the work relationship and vice versa. If everything is going well, that's fine, but the moment something happens to either the personal or work relationship, they both tend to go down the drain and it can be quite stressful, I'm sure.

Let's say you start to date your boss but then decide he's not someone you want as your life partner, so you break up with him. While it may be nice to expect him to keep his personal life separate from his work life, if he's like most people, he can't, even if he says he can. So, feeling betrayed by you and feeling vindictive, he'll make your work life hell. You say he's not so nice to you in front of others? He'll become that way and worse no matter whose presence you're both in. Hell, he may even try to fire you because his feelings were hurt. I'm not saying this would all definitely happen -- so much depends on the people involved. But I am saying that it is much riskier to date someone from your own workplace than it is to date anyone who doesn't share that same work connection with you. Plus there are so many smaller, but still important, problems that could present themselves from such a workplace romance.

Even though it may seem, at first, convenient to start one I don't think a workplace romance is worth all the potential issues that could accompany it.

That said, you don't seem interested in him anyway, so it's unlikely any such relationship would occur in this particular case.

 

[Shookone88]

Okay...Update:

He is having me work on some stuff at home, and before I left today he gave me a flash drive (memory stick) to bring the files back on. I opened it up just now and it has (straight) porn on it.

w.t.f.

This is 100% real and I feel really awkward about this. Do I tell him about it or just delete it? Seriously, this is getting out of hand.

 

[anchihiro]

Mmm maybe this is to gage your reaction try to figure out your sexuality?

It could be just a way to bring up sex in the conversation.

Perhaps the best thing you can do is pretend its not there.

 

[Tadaa]

Just curious what you guys think. I recently started a job, and I feel like my boss is really into me. He is usually a very assertive/grumpy type of guy, and everyone tells me that he's usually really tough on other people. In front of everyone else he is rude to me, but when we are alone he acts like we are best friends.

I will walk into his office, start chatting, and he will randomly look down at my crotch for a full second or so and then look back up with a grin. Sometimes he rubs his crotch area while I am talking to him, but I don't really know if he's just scratching or what?

A few weeks ago he asked if I needed help shopping for furniture for my new apartment, and wanted to go along with me, but I declined.

Today he invited me to go out boating with him this weekend on the lake, and gave me his cell and home phone numbers. I just said I would get back to him if I had time...

GTMB


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[G-Lexington]

If you want it to stop, delete the porn and put on a txt file called "nothanks". Or hand the drive into the HR department and e plain where you got it.

If you want it to continue, but don't want it to go further (in short, if you like the attention), do nothing, and don't mention the porn.

If you want it to go further, replace the porn with naked pictures of yourself. Title one of the pictures (ass or dick) "wishyouwerehere".

Lex

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Your boss is either really brave, or really stupid...

... and there's always the CHANCE that you've been misreading him/his actions all this time, and coincidentally he was too stupid/computer illiterate to delete porn off a flash drive before giving it to you.

Either way, this would make a great movie plot line.

Maybe he IS a horn dog, and the scratching you misread was really crabs he got off some cheap hooker.

Now wouldn't that be funny?

 

[coloradobottom]

if you plan on staying for a long time, stay away it could end as fast as it started, then he would find a reason to fire you.

 

[BostonPirate]

this could be a penthouse letters story in like... five seconds.

 

[stevexxx]

use this to your advantage, sue him for sexual harassment and win that monmey so you dont get to work for a year.

 

[alli-berri]

^ I guess borg has a tendency for drama.

You just have a dirty, corny mind

OP: I say go for it. I've got no experience, just a lot of office fantasies. Put your hand on the hot stove at least once before vowing never to touch it again.

 

[colliefletch]

Although completely unethical and horrible to suggest, you could make a buck or two with a lawsuit...