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My "Boyfriend" Has An STD

Geoffboyardee

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OK, so lets say that I have a boyfriend with an STD that he contracted when he was young. Let's say that it's congenial warts on his dick (i think).

WHAT DO I DO?!?! I really wanna mess around with him but... I don't know what to do. He's a bottom and I'm versatile BTW.

Does anybody have any advice or stories on what to do?
 
I can actually speak first hand about this. I recently found out that I have HSV-2 (aka herpes), that I got from my ex-boyfriend. There are a few un-knowns that you haven't said because either you don't know or didn't say. It makes me happy to know that even knowing he has an STD that you still want to "fool around" with him, because it shows you aren't with him just for sex. I offer a word of caution to you both. Having HSV-2 is in no way fun and it costs me $75 a month for Valtrex (and thats with good insurance), so please be careful. I also advise that both of you have a real and open conversation about what he has and I also advise that you both go to get tested (even though you may be clean, it will still mean a lot to him that you went). After you both know the facts, then talk about where you go from there. I wish the both of you the very best of luck. If you have any questions, please feel free to message me anytime.
 
The fact that you put boyfriend in quotes tells me that he is just a hook up. Think about the risk of contracting life altering, non treatable, incurable STDs with someone that's just a hook up potential and who won't be there after a day, week or at best a month. If the warts are active it is best to avoid any sexual and skin-to-skin contact, until the warts heal. Condoms help but don't eliminate risk of contracting HPV.
 
I agree RaKroma, and after re-reading it I still stick by what I said, however I do fully agree with you. If he is just wanting a hook up, putting his health at risk is stupid. Had I known what my ex was doing behind my back and what he had contracted it would have changed EVERYTHING. But he was not a random hook up, we had been together for well over a year. So back to your point...putting your health at risk KNOWING that something isnt right...is just damn stupid.
 
RaKroma said:
The fact that you put boyfriend in quotes tells me that he is just a hook up. Think about the risk of contracting life altering, non treatable, incurable STDs with someone that's just a hook up potential and who won't be there after a day, week or at best a month. If the warts are active it is best to avoid any sexual and skin-to-skin contact, until the warts heal. Condoms help but don't eliminate risk of contracting HPV.
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No, he is not a hookup. The reason I put his name in quotes is because right now, he is just a really really good friend that I'm not sure about taking to the next step. If he was just a hookup, why would I even want to fool around with him, much less make a thread asking about advice. :P
 
bamaboi2784 said:
I can actually speak first hand about this. I recently found out that I have HSV-2 (aka herpes), that I got from my ex-boyfriend. There are a few un-knowns that you haven't said because either you don't know or didn't say. It makes me happy to know that even knowing he has an STD that you still want to "fool around" with him, because it shows you aren't with him just for sex. I offer a word of caution to you both. Having HSV-2 is in no way fun and it costs me $75 a month for Valtrex (and thats with good insurance), so please be careful. I also advise that both of you have a real and open conversation about what he has and I also advise that you both go to get tested (even though you may be clean, it will still mean a lot to him that you went). After you both know the facts, then talk about where you go from there. I wish the both of you the very best of luck. If you have any questions, please feel free to message me anytime.

I agree RaKroma, and after re-reading it I still stick by what I said, however I do fully agree with you. If he is just wanting a hook up, putting his health at risk is stupid. Had I known what my ex was doing behind my back and what he had contracted it would have changed EVERYTHING. But he was not a random hook up, we had been together for well over a year. So back to your point...putting your health at risk KNOWING that something isnt right...is just damn stupid.
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Thank you for your advice. Like I quoted RaKroma, he isn't a hookup. But anyway, thank you very much and for sharing some personal info. I really will take these things into account. (kinda gives me hope)

And I hope you find someone right for you too after that asshole ex. :D
 
anchihiro said:
No, look it up. Also ask him.
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Thank you SO MUCH for that post. Without that simple advice, I would have never done exactly what I did when I found out. If you weren't here, i don't know what I would have done. So thank you. Thank you for that well thought piece of information.

:=D:
 
I'm assuming you SAW these warts - this tends not to be something you overhear from somebody else. In which case, just ask. "Hey, I've never been to bed with somebody with these, so I just need to ask. Is it OK to jerk you off? That won't hurt you? If I wear a condom, will that prevent transmission?" My theory is that if you can stick your dick in somebody, you should be able to talk about this sort of thing. :)

>>>Having trouble coming out of the closet?

He's just upset because he's broke.

Lex
 
Geoffboyardee said:
Thank you for your advice. Like I quoted RaKroma, he isn't a hookup. But anyway, thank you very much and for sharing some personal info. I really will take these things into account. (kinda gives me hope)

And I hope you find someone right for you too after that asshole ex. :D
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Thank you :) and just be there for him. Again if you need anything just let me know.
 
Geoffboyardee said:
OK, so lets say that I have a boyfriend with an STD that he contracted when he was young. Let's say that it's congenial warts on his dick (i think).
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Backing up a bit...

"When he was young"... he contracted these when? "Congenial warts" - do you mean congenital and what do they look like?

Are you sure this is a wart? It sounds more like Fordyce spots or possibly PPP.
 
I was misdiagnosed with genital warts a few years ago, only to find out I am 100% clean and have pearly penile papules. Stupid-ass doctor! I feel for your friend because I know how it felt like the end of the world.

First of all, don't let an STD get in the way of your loving someone. Talk to a doctor. Talk to a therapist if you have one. Be informed. Information is your friend. Good luck to you and to him.
 
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