My boyfriend just broke up with me

[biguy562]

Hello,

I am 24, going to graduate college in May with a marketing degree and I need some advise. Tonight but boyfriend of about 7 months just broke with me. We are both Bi and he broke up with me for another Bi guy he had been seeing for about a month or so. We are still going to be friends but I just don't know if he's making the right choice.

They have known each other since January but started dating so to speak in June
They made it "official" August 8th and they have had sex. My boyfriend told me that he feels like he can conquer the world when he's around him and that he thinks about him all the time. They have already talked about going out to California and getting married in the future.

My ex just got a nursing job and has started looking at houses. He said he's going to have him move in when he buys one. He said he is on a different level with him than he was with me.

His new guy is in an "open" relationship with the mother of his like 5 year old son and my ex said that she will not take him moving in with my ex very well and that her friends are very dangerous. His new guy works at advance auto parts and did not go to college...he is 28.

My ex was my first sexual experience and first true love. He said in the future if things don't work out between them we might can try again. He still wants to be friends and wants to still do stuff on a regular basis. He cried and broke down when he told me about his feelings.

I just wanted to see what you all thought about this and if you thought it is still a good idea to do stuff together. My ex also said that his new bf is very jealous.

I am not going to let it drag me down though because the sun will still come up tomorrow, however I am still hurting inside. I just feel like this is one of those falling in love too fast predicaments.

Pleas give me some advise if you can.

 

[altlover85]

I wouldn't do things with your ex if he has a bf. I would tell him how I feel about the new bf and leave it at that. Either he takes your advice or he doesn't, but don't bring it up more than once.

I'm sorry you two broke up. Hopefully you'll find someone new soon and move on.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Let me get this straight, your boyfriend had an affair behind your back, then decided to start a serious relationship with an "openly" married bi guy the same time he broke up with you?

He is a horrible person you are better off without. Screw him! Tell him what a lying, selfish fool he is and never talk to him again. He is so out of touch with reality towards this guy. It will end horribly. Don't worry, all the the pain you are feeling will be justifiably matched when your ex's new relationship crashes and burns on him.

This guy will drag you down and abuse you emotionally and psychologically. A true lover would never put you through what he is doing to you. Find someone better. Drop him.

 

[IllgetyouHackman]

So he expects you to sit on the sidelines and be there when the current catastrophe occurs? Sounds like he wants his cake and eating it too. That is bullshit no matter how you cut it man, don't bother with the friendship...

 

[KaraBulut]

Under most circumstances, it is healthy to have an amicable relationship (sometimes even a friendship) with an ex.

This is not one of those circumstances.

The problem here is that you're focusing very much on all the mistakes and poor choices that your ex is making.

It's time to live your life. It's time to move on. And it's time to rid yourself of all the dysfunction that your ex has gotten himself into.

Buy him a house-warming gift and then delete his number from your phone.

And when it all falls apart, don't take him back.

 

[Seasoned]

I have never understood friendships with exes. I think it is best to move on. You are setting yourself up for a life of co-dependency if you take him back as a bf.

 

[racer2438]

Time to move on, I would not even say anything to him. Just let it go and move on. Your best off looking for someone that will respect you than this cheater did.

 

[altlover85]

For some reason I thought the relationship was open. I think it's because the OP never used the word "cheated".

I guess that's what happens when you answer a post when you're tired, lol.

 

[TX-Beau]

Why are you even involved with the two of them. He isn't your boyfriend anymore. His choices are his. You have no control over them.

Walk. There's nothing here that's of benefit to you.

If he wants to be your friend fine, but don't sit around waiting for him, and don't involve yourself in his drama.

 

[Revan46]

Kick him to the curb. If he was already seeing this guy while dating you he's not worth it. I say you tell him to fuck off and leave.

 

[biguy562]

Thank you all for the advise! I really appreciate it.

I want him to be happy but yet I don't want him to be hurt and with this situation with the new guy, the kid, and the open relationship I just feel like he will eventually get hurt. I might be totally wrong though.

 

[altlover85]

I know you want him to be happy, but it's really not of your concern once you've spoken your piece. Plus it sounds like a lot of drama that you don't need.

Also, it's advice not advise.

 

[Sigma-taylor-E]

Dude move the hell on-sounds like you are his backup plan..

 

[LatinCoffee]

Let me get this straight, your boyfriend had an affair behind your back, then decided to start a serious relationship with an "openly" married bi guy the same time he broke up with you?

He is a horrible person you are better off without. Screw him! Tell him what a lying, selfish fool he is and never talk to him again. He is so out of touch with reality towards this guy. It will end horribly. Don't worry, all the the pain you are feeling will be justifiably matched when your ex's new relationship crashes and burns on him.

This guy will drag you down and abuse you emotionally and psychologically. A true lover would never put you through what he is doing to you. Find someone better. Drop him.

I couldnt have said it better! And then he has the balls to say that he will consider coming back to you...like if you're some spare tire. F%$k him!! Send his ass to hell! This should be 'motivation' enough for you to get over that loser!!!

 

[biguy562]

I am getting over him slowly but surely!

I just think this new guy is a loser because there is something wrong with a guy who can't stay in a stable relationship with someone especially the motherof his son.

Am I right or am I just saying this because we broke up?

 

[backpacker]

From what you wrote, I don't think the two of you are ready to be friends. There seems to be too many raw emotions. You may be able to be friends after both of you have had an opportunity to emotionally move on.

It doesn't really matter what you think of his new boyfriend. You are now an ex and all that matters is what he likes. My guess is that you are being a little hard on the new guy. I'm sure he must have some good qualities or your ex wouldn't be interested.

The best thing you can do now is to date some guys and keep yourself occupied with activities. Don't dwell on what was or could have been. Go blaze a new path for yourself.

 

[biguy562]

Is it normal to start dating again right away cause I have a date tomorrow night...haha

 

[altlover85]

If dating someone helps you move on, go with it. However, don't hurt this new guy.

 

[backpacker]

Is it normal to start dating again right away cause I have a date tomorrow night...haha

Good for you!

 

[biguy562]

Thanks, I guess one of the main reasons its pretty hard is because I have a very mild form of cerebral palsy and a stutter and my ex was so accepting of that, the first person I've ever dated that was.