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My boyfriend just broke up with me

I have a mild form of cerebral palsy too. I have a slight limp and I can't move the fingers on my right hand quite as fast as the ones on my left, which really only mattered when I was playing trumpet. I also tend to have a slight tremor when I hold things, but I don't think it's that noticeable.

As far as the cerebral palsy goes, I usually didn't come out with it right away. As in, I didn't make a profile and say I have mild cerebral palsy. I have told guys in the past when we got to know each other a bit better. Because I've always met guys through dating websites, usually there was enough time to come out with it before we met.

It's never been stated as a problem and only one guy I've ever had a date with decided to end the date early supposedly because I was shorter than he thought I would be, even though I had my height in my profile. I don't know if it was because of the limp or my height, but he was the only one where I had a rejection due to a physical characteristic.

There are guys who won't care. However, I assume at some point I'll probably be in a wheelchair or at the very least need crutches and I would think something more obvious like that might dissuade some guys in the future.

I hope you stay positive and make you the most attractive person you can be if you're nervous that people might reject you.
 
Thanks for the advice altlover! I really appreciate it! You made me feel better! I think my stutter moreso shys me away and makes it more difficult to meet guys. I actually met my ex online and we held hands on the first date and he kissed me. I would really like to meet guys like in my daily life instead of online just to see if there are any differences in them because most guys online these days only want one thing.

It is easier to meet guys online but yet again it's harder as well. I am still in college and my school has a lot of gay guys there but I really do not know how to approach guys in a way that I am interested in dating them. I am masculine and I am really not into Feminine guys at all so it's especially hard when I see a masculine guy walking around to know what to do.

My ex actually did not meet this guy online. He met him at Advance Auto Parts where that guy worked and through that guys girlfriend (or wife) whom he is in an "Open" relationship with.
 
You're welcome!

You might want to go to the bars and see if there's anyone you can meet there. Or perhaps try going to concerts or other places and see if there's anyone there that might be interesting to you. Sometimes you meet guys when you're living your life and not looking for him (or so I've heard).
 
Hey biguy562. I was in a similar situation. Your EX may get his feelings hurt. The guy has a child with that woman and she is prob the first priority if he had to really choose one to be with. But since he is in an open relationship he doesn't have to choose. Your ex is going to force to him to move with him but the wife will not allow that. Which will he pick??? honestly realistically your ex should guard his heart. You are clearly a free single person with no girlfriend or child you should clearly be the option but i guess you cant help who you fall in love with. Let him find out the hard way like everyone else. Its a learning process be there for him if anything happens but dont fall for his game cause you should not be someones back up. You deserve someone better. If all that in mind you say you love him so much and would get back with him then i would say to be careful and dont give to much to early make sure you let it be known what you expect out of the relationship.
 
Aug 14, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
Thank you all for the advice I really appreciate it! I am moving on, I'm not waiting around! That what his last ex is doing (they are currently still roommates) and he is going to kick him out with that new guy moves in. My ex broke up with his 1st love (a girl) the exact same way he did me, started seeing this guy (his ex before me) and whipped out the feelings changing on his girlfriend. Same thing with his ex before me (of 5 years)...said his feelings changed, only then he wanted to "explore his curiosity" and hooked up with about 8-10 guys before he met me. So, I'm beginning to think he can't really be satisfied....haha! He does the exact same then with vehicles, he switches around a lot!

By the way, I saw this coming...in June he said he was going his mom's for the night, forgot his charger and said that he was gonna turn of his phone to save power and he'd talk to me tomorrow. Then I noticed he began not wanting to do much sexual activities and wouldn't say I love you or I miss you as much. We went to the beach the weekend after the 4th with his roommate (ex). In the evenings when we would be out walking around he would fall behind and sometimes stop because he was TEXTING so much!! Then within the past couple weeks he stopped saying I love you and miss you all together and last weekend he literally ignored me the entire weekend (last weekend was when they made it "official" and had sex. Then on Tuesday...BAM!

Don't worry I am mad at what he did and the more I think about it...the madder I get!
 
biguy562 said:
Aug 14, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
I am moving on, I'm not waiting around!

Don't worry I am mad at what he did and the more I think about it...the madder I get!
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What you initially said doesn't really agree with the rest of your post.

If I were you, I'd try and get involved in clubs and other things to occupy my mind with something else.
 
I actually went a club the past two nights. I went to hear my friend sing, he sings country music! I had a great time!
 
Good for you! Hopefully it will help you get your mind off of your ex.
 
Excuse me? After dumping you that way, he has the AUDACITY to say "well, if things don't work out, we can try again!"

That guy is a loser and a jerk.

If he isn't in an open relationship, I suggest you try being as nice as you can and take him up on his offer of fooling around. And video tape it. With you mentioning his new bf, and how you're being oh so dirty behind his back. Then send it to the new bf and fuck that shit up.

PAYBACK, MOTHAFUCKA! :twisted: I'm so ANGRY for you...
 
Update....

I found out some more information about my situation. My ex's new guy said that this is the first time he's ever told his mom that he is Bi and he has already introduced my ex to his mom and dad (dad doesn't know). Here is a kicker....He, his girlfriend, son, and other family members are scheduled to go on a 7 day cruise in October. He is going to take my ex instead of his girlfriend. It's already been paid for and everything.

By the way him and his girlfriend have been together for 6 years and had a baby a little over 3 years ago. He said it was over 3 years ago but is staying just because of the child. He said he loves her but is not in love with her.

My ex and him met in person one time (actually his girlfriend introduced them and encouraged him to talk to my ex but I think it was just for the intention of sex since they are in an open relationship) then they found each other on a "hookup" website...I think it was adultfriendfinder.com and it just started from there.

They have been together only "officially" for 2 weeks but yet my ex wants his opinion on the house he is thinking about purchasing. I have told my ex a few times if he ever wants me to go look at houses with him I'd be happy to. Does he ask me? nope!

In my opinion, I don't think my ex is looking at the big picture here and future consequences. Another thing is, as soon as he buys a houses and moves in, his new guy is moving in as well.

I hung out with him for a bit last Thursday night...he gave me three hugs, touched my hair, chest, and also wiped off my face. He also sat very close to me. I think he does still have feelings for me.

It all just seems very fishy to me, what about yall?
 
I agree with JB and huntneo. You need to move on. If you're spending time with him and thinking about him enough to type us an update post about his situation, you haven't moved on.

I know it's difficult, but you need to move on from this guy.
 
Your boyfriend broke up with you, his lost. Move on with your life without him. Do hang out with him. Remove him completely from you life. It will be difficult at first, but it will eventually get easier.

You will find someone else when you have healed, who loves you for you, and wants to be with you.
 
Tell him to FUCK OFF and get out of your sight and never contact you again!!! He's a coward and inconsiderate of other people's feelings. He's incredibly immature, stupid and just a plain idiot. You're much better off without him.
Let him fuck his life up...live and learn...he needs to remember that!

And you? You go 'head and start dating again. Go out, have fun and just try to enjoy yourself. BE SELFISH!!!
 
Everyone in this situation has moved on.

Except one. :(
 
I know I know...it's just hard since he was my first. I am moving on slowly, trust me. With school back in session and graduation back in session I am going to have a lot more on my mind and I even have a HUGE group project.

I thank you all for the advice and it has really been helpful!

I guess I just and still in the stage where I wonder if it's going to workout or not...but that's not really moving on that much is it? haha
 
I would stop wondering if it's going to work out or not. It's not and he's not worth it.
 
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